MrIncognito Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 Hey guys I'll give a rundown of how this all played out. Basically, about three weeks ago I got a random text from this girl asking if I would want to participate in an illegal tunnel hike at the university we both attend. I agreed and it ended up being a group of 6 people (I later asked why she randomly asked me, and her response was that she knew I would be down). Prior to this we had class together but at that time we were both in our own relationships. So, this was the first time we hung out after about a year of no communication between us. The following day she adds me on snap. I respond to one of her snap stories and we go back and forth messaging each other for about a day. I then asked if she would want to go hiking with me, which she agreed to. We hiked and went to the top of the mountain and talked while sitting for about 2-3 hours. We continued to message through text and two days later we went to a bar that she really wanted to go to. That day we basically spent 6-7 hours together where 3 of it was at her place after the bar. We were constantly talking and laughing and we both have a lot in common. When at her place didn't make any moves only cause I was catching feelings and I didn't want to ruin things by reading the whole situation wrong. A couple days after that another small conversation started between us but nothing significant. Fast forward a couple more days which leads to today.. I messaged her on text about something relatable that we talked about, to which responded "lmaoooo", and after that "lol with a smiley face". She responds literally within seconds of my messages but her messages have become really short. Anyways, I asked her on a date again to which she agreed. Where going to go to the beach and then grab sushi (her favorite). After I asked if a certain time and day works, she just responded "yes". My gut feeling tells me that she doesn't feel the same way that I do with her.. Or i'm just over analyzing things and I need to give this whole thing time to play out. We're going on the date in 4 days and I don't plan on messaging her until the day of. Any advice on how to move forward would be appreciated and also if someone can better understand what she think/feels. Thank you!!
BDJ_1 Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 You are massively over analysing. Make a move before she thinks you are the one who is not interested.
Bastile Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 Mate, it's just not good enough. There is literally no excuse not to know where a woman's interest is. You get three dates with her, and you should know her more intimately than her own daddy does. Should be able to write an essay on her inner quirks Challenge her, man. Escalate, shyt test her, peer into her soul. This is on you, and I think you know it. No problem, there are plenty more devotchkas around. But, you might have blown this set. I remember one set last year that I started out lame, and then tried really dominant sex - the dynamics were just weird. Never really recovered. Start as you mean to go on. What say you?
Author MrIncognito Posted July 21, 2017 Author Posted July 21, 2017 Normally i'm fine with making a move on a girl and escalating it to the next step, i've done it many times. With her, it was different, I was actually catching feelings and didn't want to read her wrong and end up making the whole situation awkward. I guess I go on the third date and work from there and see how things go. Normally i'm able to sense what the girl feels but with her its hard and my gut instinct isn't telling me what I want to hear haha
Bastile Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 Normally i'm fine with making a move on a girl and escalating it to the next step, i've done it many times. With her, it was different, I was actually catching feelings and didn't want to read her wrong and end up making the whole situation awkward. I guess I go on the third date and work from there and see how things go. Yeah, you are on dodgy ground. And have made things harder for yourself. Normally i'm able to sense what the girl feels but with her its hard and my gut instinct isn't telling me what I want to hear haha Ultimately, she is just another girl. You are placing daft importance on her, that she doesn't really have. And that importance will end up screwing you over. Make a move, but do it softer based on your current situation. You are going to have to be all romantic now
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