Mcbeast Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 Hello all, I am needing some advice to help my healing process. I have been dating this girl since I was 16, we have been befriends and lovers for 5 years. I have been living with her at her parents house for 2 years while we were saving up for a house. on Tuesday 7/18/17 she did not respond to my text while I was at work, I got home to find a letter sitting on the counter, after 5 years with this girl the only thing i get from her is a letter, in the letter all she basically said is that she is a new person now, she said she still loves me but she does not feel like she wants to be with me forever. This came as a shock to both me and her parents who have been treating me like one of their own kids for the last 5 years, her dad is upset to the point that he had to take off of work. she is currently staying at a friends house while i try to move all my stuff out. I just dont know what to guys, She really was the love of my life and i know its only been 2 days but I can not get over her. Her mom told me the only info she has got out of her is that she wants to be free and spend time with her new friends that she has. Her mom keeps telling me that she thinks she will come around. I am just lost and im in so much pain. Please help me guys:(
trustyourself Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 I'm so sorry you are going through this. You are both young, and my first thought is that she has made new friends, and wants to just get out and have fun with no commitment. It might just be a phase and she might come around, but the best thing you can do now is give her space and let her go for now. If you chase her, she will just move further away from you. If she comes back to you, you guys can talk through the commitment issues and define boundaries etc to see if you can make it work again. Be strong. You will get though this either way.
Author Mcbeast Posted July 20, 2017 Author Posted July 20, 2017 Thank you so much for the reply, the problems is that I get a long so good with her parents and they just want us to get back together just like me, the problem is my ex block ed me on all social media and blocked my number, I need to stop thinking about her but she is my only thought
mike.c Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 Thank you so much for the reply, the problems is that I get a long so good with her parents and they just want us to get back together just like me, the problem is my ex block ed me on all social media and blocked my number, I need to stop thinking about her but she is my only thought I know the feeling, but that's actually better. She needs to come back on her own. Give her some time.
Author Mcbeast Posted July 21, 2017 Author Posted July 21, 2017 Thank Mike, I am feeling a lot better today, I had some time with my best friend last night and he is really helping me through this. I just need to try and move on and think about life without her. She is just going through some sort of rebellion stage.
Jt93 Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 Keep your head up and know that it will get easier. I was with my ex-gf for 5 years from the age of 18 which ended suddenly, her reasoning being that she didnt want a relationship anymore apparently and it was her not me. Although we didnt live together, we may as well have done. Trust me, it gets easier, just keep NC or limited contact anyway and if she wants to she will come back to you! you are only young and have a lot of exciting things infront of you! I am on around 2 months now and although im not back to my normal self yet, i am 10x better than i was this time last month and last month i was 10x better than the day after the split! Try and keep as occupied as you can, that helped a lot for me. Send me a message if you need someone to talk to. 1
Author Mcbeast Posted July 21, 2017 Author Posted July 21, 2017 Jt93 thank you so much for the reply. It is good to see that There are other people out here going through the same thing. Today I woke up and I feel more angry than anything I just dont know what Went wrong. She is acting very strange according to her mom, she came home to her mom and her mom says that she had an attitude with her and said she is an adult and wants to go out with her friends and be free. The thing is that She is in theatre and every time the shows come to an end all the friends go back to their normal lifes and dont hang out everyday. The show that she is currently in will be over on Sunday so I am kinda curious as to how she will react once she cant go out with all her friends every night.
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