Ruby Slippers Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 I've met a few guys with out there fetishes, but they always revealed them on a dating site during messaging before we ever met, thank god! Your intuition was obviously correct here. 2
Mkn1010 Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 (edited) Lorenza, don't let this experience make you think this is normal or that you will EVER run into another guy like this again because it's unlikely you ever will. You can do so much better. I don't even like the fact that this guy who's way out on a limb and so experienced is even TALKING to an innocent young lady about this crap. It shows he has terrible boundaries and is predatory, in my opinion. Find yourself someone who doesn't lead you into conversations about sex but just asks you out to do something normal and public and treats you with respect. I know if your father heard what this guy was talking to you about, he'd want to kill him. Any father would. Yes this! Only others who want to feel good about their unhealthy 'preferences' are sticking up for this guy! Edited July 21, 2017 by Mkn1010 1
salparadise Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 (edited) The amount of projecting going on in this thread is amazing. Lorenza, the mostly elder and sexually conservative women chiming in are not wrong in their conclusion that this guy and you aren't probably a good match. However I find it quite rude to suggest he plans on prostituting Lorenza or is somehow a danger to himself or others. I thought he was quite nice and open. Many people do not open up to love interests. I think you should thank him for his openness and tell him that you're not what he's looking for. Why is it that in these threads always such cheap shots are taken at people who can't defend themselves? I agree completely. It's hilarious how people jump to the worst conclusions imaginable without a shred of rational thought. Pure catastrophizing. Anyone who isn't exactly like them is judged and vilified. But they don't even stop there –– they create a much more extreme narrative and push it like it has some basis in reality. It's just immature, narrow-mindedness combined with extreme projection and judging. Lorenza, ignore the extremists and be realistic about this. The two of you are as different as night and day in terms of sexual attitudes and preferences. He has a fetish that you cannot accommodate because it involves you doing something that is distasteful, unimaginable, in conflict with your values. It doesn't make him a bad person; it simply means you're not compatible. He said he could suppress this desire, and even try to change it thorough therapy, but that's not going to work and I think you know it. The result will be that his mind will be engaging in his fetish that can't be fulfilled, you will always know that you can't give him what he desires most. It will end up as a sad, unfulfilling sex life with two people who care about each other but can't accommodate or reconcile the differences because you're polar opposites on this spectrum. Just let him go gently, kindly, and without judgement. There is someone out there who will be just right for him, and someone who will be just right for you. Edited July 22, 2017 by salparadise 1
Author Lorenza Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 I agree completely. It's hilarious how people jump to the worst conclusions imaginable without a shred of rational thought. Pure catastrophizing. Anyone who isn't exactly like them is judged and vilified. But they don't even stop there –– they create a much more extreme narrative and push it like it has some basis in reality. It's just immature, narrow-mindedness combined with extreme projection and judging. Lorenza, ignore the extremists and be realistic about this. The two of you are as different as night and day in terms of sexual attitudes and preferences. He has a fetish that you cannot accommodate because it involves you doing something that is distasteful, unimaginable, in conflict with your values. It doesn't make him a bad person; it simply means you're not compatible. He said he could suppress this desire, and even try to change it thorough therapy, but that's not going to work and I think you know it. The result will be that his mind will be engaging in his fetish that can't be fulfilled, you will always know that you can't give him what he desires most. It will end up as a sad, unfulfilling sex life with two people who care about each other but can't accommodate or reconcile the differences because you're polar opposites on this spectrum. Just let him go gently, kindly, and without judgement. There is someone out there who will be just right for him, and someone who will be just right for you. I did end it with him, without any harsh or condemning words. Just thanked him for his honesty and said it's not for me. However I did have to block him since he kept on insisting and trying to call me on Facebook 2
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 Lorenza, do you know if he has a small penis? I've recently learned that there is such a thing as small penis shaming and cuckolding can be a more extreme playing-out of that fetish.
Author Lorenza Posted July 22, 2017 Author Posted July 22, 2017 Lorenza, do you know if he has a small penis? I've recently learned that there is such a thing as small penis shaming and cuckolding can be a more extreme playing-out of that fetish. I have no idea, as I never got intimate with him. So many weird fetishes. Wonder where they all come from 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 I have no idea, as I never got intimate with him. So many weird fetishes. Wonder where they all come from The psychology behind some is definitely complicated!
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