Numb Nuts

[Crosswords]

Hey everyone,

 

So I have. Question.. I'm not too bent out of shape about things but it's enough to make me wonder and get some perspectives.

 

My girlfriend and I have a great relationship for the most part. We do love each other and are committed. We goal set together and go on lots of dates and the sex is really good and happens often. We've been together for 3 months and have a really open and honest relationship.

 

However, there have been three times when we will be joking around or having a talk - nothing super serious but she will call me 'numb nuts'. Like in a response type way such as 'yeees, numb nuts!' And each time I have called her out on that and said "let's not call each other names, I don't want that in our relationship".

The last (third) time she did it, she apologized right after she said it..

 

Am I over thinking this too much, or would this be a tell of some sort of how she feels?

 

She has mentioned our relationship is wonderful, tells me she misses me, sends me sexy pics and texts, etc..

 

Thanks!

[lurker74]

Hey everyone,

 

So I have. Question.. I'm not too bent out of shape about things but it's enough to make me wonder and get some perspectives.

 

My girlfriend and I have a great relationship for the most part. We do love each other and are committed. We goal set together and go on lots of dates and the sex is really good and happens often. We've been together for 3 months and have a really open and honest relationship.

 

However, there have been three times when we will be joking around or having a talk - nothing super serious but she will call me 'numb nuts'. Like in a response type way such as 'yeees, numb nuts!' And each time I have called her out on that and said "let's not call each other names, I don't want that in our relationship".

The last (third) time she did it, she apologized right after she said it..

 

Am I over thinking this too much, or would this be a tell of some sort of how she feels?

 

She has mentioned our relationship is wonderful, tells me she misses me, sends me sexy pics and texts, etc..

 

Thanks!

 

I think you're over-thinking it. My GF tells me to eat a bag of d___s on a regular basis and has been known to tell me, jokingly, to eff off. Honestly? I find it endearing.

 

Give her the chance to learn that it's a red line for you...try not to take it too personally because I bet you it isn't...just the way that she was raised. Not that you have to accept it, but understand it and give it time.

 

Good luck!

[BaileyB]

Numb nuts was used in a rather affectionate way in my house growing up. It basically meant "you are a silly person..." You are definitely overthinking this.

[Redhead14]

Name calling in a loving/joking way is acceptable to most people. Name calling out of anger is not.

 

However, if you are sensitive to it because some else called you names in anger, it's OK to tell her you don't appreciate it. You do that and then you observe whether she starts to, at least, be mindful of your wishes and tries to accommodate you, which she recently did. If it's kind of a habit for her, she'll stumble once in a while. Make sure you accept her apology and reinforce your boundary each time. "I accept your apology and hope you can continue to be careful with this". You may have to do that a few times, but if she reverts back to it being a habit, and you're still sensitive to it, you'll need to decide if you can learn to accept it and let it go or not.

[Crosswords]

Okay. Good advice! Thanks for the input