JustGettingBy Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 So another woman I messages on OLD said "yes" to meeting again, we had a place planned, and were just thinking of a time/day. Part way through she stopped messaging, so after a couple days I messaged her again asking if she was still interested. She replied with saying she "wasn't sure" because of "a bad experience" she had meeting someone from OLD before. Since she already had said "yes" this seemed weird to me, and then I figured she might just be finding a polite way to change her mind. This this likely the case?
act00 Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 I'd call it a bust. It seems she's not interested or found someone new. Maybe she's getting cold feet due to some bad experience with OLD in the past...yet she's on OLD??...and if that's the case, do you really need that baggage? You met once, right? If that's the case, I'm guessing she's not interested. 4
CloudyHead Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 It is a "no". Lame excuse she gave but it is a "no". 2
Bastile Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 She's just flakey. Online dating makes her like that, because she's in abundance. There are probably several other issues too that you won't notice until you spend time with her. You can press the matter, but it won't be logic that wins out - It'll be good vibes and persistence. Think of it as luring a fluffy animal into a trap I'm always a bit wary though of chasing low-interest women. When a woman is rejecting you, or turning you off with daft behaviour, I've so often later found it was doing you a favour. It's a part of success and the filtering process. It means that she isn't right for your life in whatever way. Persisting beyond that is often thinking with our penis. And that's fine if what you want is sex, but not so fine if what you want is a woman to fit your life and not cause you a good amount of aggravation. A steady girl. If you do proceed, don't expect smooth sailing from her. And don't consider her for something serious (such as a girlfriend status) until she expressly proves herself worthy to you of it. 2
caveman621 Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 You say meeting AGAIN. So you two have met face to face before? If that's the case, then her saying bad experience with OLD doesn't make sense. I think she's TRYING to be nice saying NO. 1
Redhead14 Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 You say meeting AGAIN. So you two have met face to face before? If that's the case, then her saying bad experience with OLD doesn't make sense. I think she's TRYING to be nice saying NO. If that's the case -- Perhaps he is the bad experience she's referencing . . .
Author JustGettingBy Posted July 20, 2017 Author Posted July 20, 2017 I think you guys are misunderstanding my post, as I have't met her so I'll rephrase: I messaged her on OLD, and she replied. After a few messages back and forth, I asked her out and she said 'yes'. I proposed a few places we could meet, and she liked one of them enough to agree to meet me there. When we were deciding on which day and time to meet there, she stopped messaging. After a couple days of no messages, I ask her if she just hadn't decided and then said "maybe I'm not ready to meet, as I had a previous bad experience". This was after agreeing to meet, but before actually meeting.
knabe Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 It was a passive no she thought she could say without feeling bad. It wasn't very nice. I'm sure it's frustrating.
d0nnivain Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 I'd send back one final message along the lines of: Thanks for sharing with me that you had a bad experience. I'm sorry that happened to you. I'd like us both to have a good experience but we have to meet to do that. {Place, date & time} still work for me. What do you say? Let me prove I'm one of the good ones. If she doesn't respond favorably to something like that chalk it up to her being one of the bad ones. 2
kendahke Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 So another woman I messages on OLD said "yes" to meeting again, we had a place planned, and were just thinking of a time/day. Part way through she stopped messaging, so after a couple days I messaged her again asking if she was still interested. She replied with saying she "wasn't sure" because of "a bad experience" she had meeting someone from OLD before. Since she already had said "yes" this seemed weird to me, and then I figured she might just be finding a polite way to change her mind. This this likely the case? Yeah... it sounds like a no to me. 1
smackie9 Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 Ask her to skype first and see if she says yes to than. There are some people that prefer to skype before meeting so they know they are legit and look like what they show in the photo. 1
Miss Spider Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 Ask her to skype first and see if she says yes to than. There are some people that prefer to skype before meeting so they know they are legit and look like what they show in the photo. She apparently has already been on a date with him. So yeah... her excuse makes 0 sense ...
smackie9 Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 I through it read "Meet" not meet again. Well it's a no brainer when they put the brakes on with excuses....not sure why this thread was even started. 1
Author JustGettingBy Posted July 20, 2017 Author Posted July 20, 2017 She apparently has already been on a date with him. So yeah... her excuse makes 0 sense ... For the second time: I didn't have a date with her. The "again" was a mention to very recent similar experience, not a date with her.
Miss Spider Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 For the second time: I didn't have a date with her. The "again" was a mention to very recent similar experience, not a date with her. Oh my apologies !!! She might genuinely be afraid then but idk why she's still on there if she doesn't know if she wants to meet. Sorry!!! 1
smackie9 Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 OK My advice still stands...maybe she would be more comfortable with having a skype date. 2
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