Alwaysthinkofme Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 Is it normal for your bf to hide his friends on FB? He claims its because he doesn't have too many friends. Could he be hiding something?
Author Alwaysthinkofme Posted July 19, 2017 Author Posted July 19, 2017 I'm curious if its other woman he use to date that is being hidden. I've seen his list when over at his place, but it seems more than 14. I tried very hard not to peek as he was browsing, but curiosity kinda got the best of me.. (Guilty) I tend to play tit for tat and hid my friends list, but he complained asking why they were hidden. When bringing up why he did the same the excuse he gave was not having many friends and being embarrassed about it.
Art_Critic Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 My wife hides hers.. no issues and she just doesn't want her friends to know who she is friends with. My Brother also hides his for the same reason and I only show mine or make it shown to friends and not the public. Not that hiding your friends list doesn't mean something is up but I would couch that with his other behaviors and if they look like something is up then it might be but if his behaviors don't match up then he is just keeping it private.. There is nothing wrong with showing too little on the internet...haha 5
smackie9 Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 I know a lot of people who do. It's to give your friends privacy, so others they don't know can't lurk on their pages. It makes total sense. 6
Author Alwaysthinkofme Posted July 19, 2017 Author Posted July 19, 2017 Okay thanks so much for the replies, its obvious I'm worrying too much on this and really appreciate you guys taking the time out to give advice!
smackie9 Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 What did people do before FB and myspace? nothing. Pretend there's no FB and you will be OK. 5
Miss Spider Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 That is the most ridiculous excuse I've ever heard. He ashamed to show it to you, his gf, because he doesn't have a lot of FB friends? I understanding hiding a friends list so friends can't see it, but that's not what he's saying. it takes a min to show it to a gf on your phone and clear any uncertainty. That just doesn't make sense to me.
heavenonearth Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 I do this too because I want to give my friends privacy! But I used to date a guy who had his public, and then when we went Long distance, he made it private, because he met a bunch of new women and didn't want me to know. Pretty ****ty, but I believe BOTH can be an option in your case.
kendahke Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 Is it normal for your bf to hide his friends on FB? He claims its because he doesn't have too many friends. Could he be hiding something? Why do you need to see his friends? Is there someone you have a problem with?
Author Alwaysthinkofme Posted July 19, 2017 Author Posted July 19, 2017 (edited) I would never look at his phone or computer, friends list without first trusting his word that its the truth. I of course have my doubts otherwise, I wouldn't be on here asking..lol.. I feel as if he were to show me, this would be an obvious lack of trust and not believing him without seeing proof. If I see things in his actions add up to hiding his list, then I may come forward to ask what's up. Like talking about past ex's/dates, pulling down his FB when around or being further secretive. (He is not doing this btw) I think I've received some good advice, but I'll admit its a weird excuse. He has brought up this Latino chick recommending this food place for him to eat at, that they spoke about in the past when they dated 7/8 mo ago. He did this twice when passing the restraunt when looking for somewhere to eat and I didn't want to go somewhere they planned to have a date at. He also used KY duration spray that was bought for her at the time on me and told me he had never used it before. I found out the experation date and found out they had been together earlier from the time frame he once told me. I of course, made it he'll on Earth for him after telling me and claimed this broke trust..so those are a few reasons.. Edited July 19, 2017 by Alwaysthinkofme 1
Author Alwaysthinkofme Posted July 19, 2017 Author Posted July 19, 2017 (edited) Apologies for the spelling errors and double post, signed me out..ugh.. I've been curious if he has her on his FB though.. I also should mention he had a vibrating silicone toy prior to me coming into the relationship that he swears up and down has never been used before. I asked "what did you use this up your butt or something?" He laughed and said he bought it because of someone reviewing the product. I lost my **** on him when finding out the spray was released less than a year ago and accused the toy of being her's as well. We had a huge blowup fight and he took a lot of the blame out on my reaction to the situation. (He was at work, but I was livid) We since never spoke about it and when I tried to bring it up in the car he didn't want to talk about it. Edited July 19, 2017 by Alwaysthinkofme
mikeylo Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 Social media number one reason for unnecessary headache in relationships! 5
Miss Spider Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 Cuz people who are shady tend to extend that to social media. Listen to your gut
kendahke Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 (edited) I've been curious if he has her on his FB though... When you asked him directly, what did he say? Edited July 19, 2017 by kendahke
kendahke Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 (edited) You're at a relationship crossroads here and I think that your relationship is on its last leg if all this drama is going on. He's being deceitful and it's turning you into someone you're not. Could it be that he is not emotionally done with her and got with you too soon after that break up before he was done and over her---and you're the rebound relationship? I mean, he's bringing her up way too much for someone who supposedly has moved on. There was no need to bring her up when talking about the restaurant, but he did, so that means she's still on his mind. Edited July 19, 2017 by kendahke 2
Yogagirl565 Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 My friends are hidden. I don't need everyone and their brother to see who I'm friends with, I'm also a pretty private person on fbook, I have a very public job. Most of my social media has an alias name, my friends know how to find me but the general public can't. Not once as this been an issue in my relationship. If my boyfriend wants to see anything he can look on my phone. If you have concerns talk it over. 1
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