htrj Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 Just wondered if you guys could help me pull this straight. Very late Sunday night I got a text from a girl who I had been getting on well with for the last few months telling me about a street party that had gone on all weekend in her street. It was late, I'd had a great weekend, I was tired and wasnt really thinking straight but I was in a very positive frame of mind. I think this played a part in my reason for misinterpreted her text to mean that she had also had fun over the weekend and not that she really meant she was really annoyed, had not had any sleep for the whole time and after her crappy 48hr ordeal she wanted me to offer her some support. No doubt my response saying something like "that sounds like fun, street parties are great, you must be tired, get some sleep and ill talk to you tomorrow" just ticked her off that bit more. Since then I've sent her another message asking how things are for her now and when is a good time to get her on the phone but she hasn't responded to either message. Putting myself in her shoes, and knowing she has a 2 year old who also would have had to suffer that weekend with her, I know I would be tired, emotional, not necessarily thinking clearly and looking for someone to give me a boost. I could kick myself for doing the exact opposite. What would you guys do to get back in her good books?
knabe Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 I was ready to chastise you for calling her feelings silly, but honestly, if she is giving you the silent treatment over that, she IS being silly. I wouldn't try to "woo her," I'd just go on with life. 2
Redhead14 Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 (edited) Just call her on the doggoned phone. Forget texting as a means for developing a relationship. Edited July 19, 2017 by Redhead14 2
kendahke Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 I guess I"m not following here--what exactly was the problem with what you said? And define "getting along well with for the past few months". Is this just a casual thing/texting adventure or are you in fact dating her/in a relationship with her? How serious is this involvement?
Miss Spider Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 (edited) If she's gonna be that petty just next her. You aren't her therapist and have to say all the right things when she texts you at 3am. More headaches and passive aggressiveness ahead. Edited July 19, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
Author htrj Posted July 19, 2017 Author Posted July 19, 2017 Thanks for your advice. It isn't at all serious. She is living in an region that I plan to move to soon. We met online when i was messaging some of the locals one evening and just seemed to share similar humour. Although I'm not going to lose any sleep if she doesn't talk to me, I would have liked to meet her and I would have liked to know if any one else agreed that this is silly. Of course, she may have just misplaced her phone or something. Mine was under the seat of my car for most of the weekend before she got in touch.
rushed Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 The text was innocuous, you've never met her, she has a two year old. I wouldn't worry about it all. She might be a crappy texter, she might be busy, you might just not be a priority to her. I'd wait for her to text you now. Any further texts from you at this point would just come across as desperate. 1
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