ResidentRed Posted July 18, 2017 Posted July 18, 2017 Hi all Long story short - met a guy casually, we met several times and he went travelling for a few months. He kept in touch and we met when he got back and had an amazing time. He was busy moving cities and sorting his life out after travelling but I was unsure how he felt so I did the big thing and told him I'd like to get to know him better. He was so lovely and said he was in a place where he was leaving the country again in a few months for 3/4 months, and that he liked me and wanted to keep in touch and we could see when we were both in the same place. I broke it off as I didn't want to wait, but he started blowing up my social media accounts. Liking everything, watching all my stories. He eventually got in touch and we chatted for a few days. He seemed sweet and attentive so as I was in his town we arranged to meet but he broke his foot, so we rearranged for a few days later. He told me to tell him when I was back, which I have. But suddenly now he seems disinterested. Stopped liking my posts and watching things. He did reply to me and say he'd love to see me but when I gave him the dates he didn't reply and that was 4 days ago. I am head over for this guy. Big time. I'd do anything to be with him, but I know he doesn't want anything serious yet. I'd love to be able to kick back and enjoy it, just take it relaxed but I'm so afraid constantly. I think his push/pull tactics keep me on edge. I'm not sure what all of that means, now he's got my attention again will he just go off? And we live in a time where you can't be 'desperate' or 'thirsty'. Me messaging him to ask if he will be around could look like I'm chasing suddenly. But then doing nothing might mean I lose him, something I'm very much afraid of. I've backed myself into a corner and every move will be scary now. It doesn't help that I suffer with anxiety and overthink everything, and he does drop off the radar usually to come back like there's no big deal a few days later. If I forget to message him he usually just messages me again a couple of days later. I don't know why I'm so scared! Other than this change in him from trying so hard to get my attention to nothing... I know he talks to others, as I do. I don't put all my eggs in one basket, but this is by far my favourite basket i don't know what to do!
BaileyB Posted July 18, 2017 Posted July 18, 2017 Hi all Long story short - met a guy casually, we met several times and he went travelling for a few months. He kept in touch and we met when he got back and had an amazing time. He was busy moving cities and sorting his life out after travelling but I was unsure how he felt so I did the big thing and told him I'd like to get to know him better. He was so lovely and said he was in a place where he was leaving the country again in a few months for 3/4 months, and that he liked me and wanted to keep in touch and we could see when we were both in the same place. I broke it off as I didn't want to wait, but he started blowing up my social media accounts. Liking everything, watching all my stories. He eventually got in touch and we chatted for a few days. He seemed sweet and attentive so as I was in his town we arranged to meet but he broke his foot, so we rearranged for a few days later. He told me to tell him when I was back, which I have. But suddenly now he seems disinterested. Stopped liking my posts and watching things. He did reply to me and say he'd love to see me but when I gave him the dates he didn't reply and that was 4 days ago. I am head over for this guy. Big time. I'd do anything to be with him, but I know he doesn't want anything serious yet. I'd love to be able to kick back and enjoy it, just take it relaxed but I'm so afraid constantly. I think his push/pull tactics keep me on edge. I'm not sure what all of that means, now he's got my attention again will he just go off? And we live in a time where you can't be 'desperate' or 'thirsty'. Me messaging him to ask if he will be around could look like I'm chasing suddenly. But then doing nothing might mean I lose him, something I'm very much afraid of. I've backed myself into a corner and every move will be scary now. It doesn't help that I suffer with anxiety and overthink everything, and he does drop off the radar usually to come back like there's no big deal a few days later. If I forget to message him he usually just messages me again a couple of days later. I don't know why I'm so scared! Other than this change in him from trying so hard to get my attention to nothing... I know he talks to others, as I do. I don't put all my eggs in one basket, but this is by far my favourite basket i don't know what to do! I would be prepared to move on. What he's doing to you is not healthy. His hot and cold interest would really turn me off. It's not a good start to a relationship.... Sorry.
Redhead14 Posted July 18, 2017 Posted July 18, 2017 (edited) he went travelling for a few months. said he was in a place where he was leaving the country again in a few months for 3/4 months, and that he liked me and wanted to keep in touch and we could see when we were both in the same place. I'll bet he's saying all this to the other women in other countries who make it feel like home to him while he's traveling . . . "I'm a traveling man made a lot of stops all over the world And in every port I own the heart of at least one lovely girl" Ricky Nelson - 1961 Edited July 18, 2017 by Redhead14 2
Miss Spider Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 He has ignored you for 4 days. Lose him??? You never had him 1
angel.eyes Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 Interesting that when you're finally set to meet him in his town, he suddenly breaks his foot and has to postpone four days (), so you never actually meet him. Between that and the silences in communication, are you certain he's single? What have you done to confirm his status? Anyway, he's either attached and not being honest about it, or he's not really interested but likes having you available as an option. Neither is good for you. Regardless of why he's erratically unavailable, you're wasting your time having anxiety attacks on this guy's back burner. Ditch the idea of him and focus on the other guys you say you're talking to/seeing.
Author ResidentRed Posted July 19, 2017 Author Posted July 19, 2017 Ugh I like him so much this is so hard. I did meet him, he had broken his foot but we met a couple of days after. He has a cast on and it was hard for him to walk. But yeah, when I'm not around he's so hot, when I'm there though he's colder and I don't understand
mikeylo Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 Most traveling guys can't be trusted. This one seems to be one of them.
Redhead14 Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 Ugh I like him so much this is so hard. I did meet him, he had broken his foot but we met a couple of days after. He has a cast on and it was hard for him to walk. But yeah, when I'm not around he's so hot, when I'm there though he's colder and I don't understand when I'm there though he's colder - he likes the chase. When he's no longer having to chase, the excitement is gone . . . 1
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