kortz Posted September 7, 2017 Posted September 7, 2017 Endure the pile of No's before I get to the Yes. We have to go through more rejection on top of our aftermath of a breakup. I suppose if it causes me that much pain I shouldn't be dating yet. I think I can take it.. we'll see. When it comes to her, I cannot think of a whole lot I didn't like about her. I was the one who mainly screwed up. I can only remember how she wouldn't meet with me face to face. She wouldn't let me hug her one last time and show her how much she meant to me. She wouldn't give me another moment in person to work it out. Even after I realized what happened post-breakup, she would not allow me to show her what I learned and that I cared enough to analyze myself. Don't take dating too seriously. If anything think of it as a numbers game, you'll get plenty of rejection and eventually you'll get a yes. Although rejection is a strong word...a lot of the time you need to remember that other people have their own s**t going on too and even though they may be on a dating site or app or even open to giving you their number if you meet out, a lot of the time they're not actually wanting to date. Sounds silly but I've met plenty of women recently like this, they enjoy the attention and initial chat but then things won't go any further. Heck even I'm the same sometimes. When it comes to your ex. I was the same when I went through my break up...my friend told me to think of all the things I disliked about her and focus on that and I replied 'but I can't think of anything'. And I'll still say she was a great girl but she also walked out when it suited her and left for someone else never to look back. So in your case think of it like that, sure she was great but she also chose not to fight for the relationship and work on it with you, she chose to leave because that was the easiest way out, and that means she chose to be with someone else (eventually) and in a way that's a form of betrayal. She got what she wanted at your expense...so she wasn't perfect, if she was she'd have wanted to stay with you and work on things. Get angry at those facts and use that anger to help you push on. It's not wrong to feel anger and I'm not saying turn that anger into hate, but it'll help give you more of an objective view on things. 1
Author Greenhawk84 Posted September 7, 2017 Author Posted September 7, 2017 Sounds silly but I've met plenty of women recently like this, they enjoy the attention and initial chat but then things won't go any further. Heck even I'm the same sometimes. Get angry at those facts and use that anger to help you push on. It's not wrong to feel anger and I'm not saying turn that anger into hate, but it'll help give you more of an objective view on things. I agree with that about dating online. I can get so busy with my regular life that I made in the aftermath of the breakup that I don't want to exhaustively talk to blind daters. There really has to be a spark of some kind relationship wise or at least sexually (which has yet to happen). The only thing that really gets to me is her leaving me behind. Like I said here the "best friend/I love you every day" person is replaced with someone who doesn't want to speak to me ever again as if I murdered her cat. This has been fuel to move on. One of my close friends said the other day "She wouldn't give you the time of day to patch things up why do you care?" It's so much easier said than done, but it is easy to understand. 1
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