FastHands Posted July 17, 2017 Posted July 17, 2017 How to get in a dating groove? Keeping your phone ringing and finding the best partner. What is a healthy dating lifestyle? How to have a sex life? Everyone wants a good partner and lover. How did you ultimately succeed? Did it take a while? Was it a struggle? When was your epiphany/eureka moment?
Chilli Posted July 17, 2017 Posted July 17, 2017 Me, l've never been one to bother with just anyone, not even back in my 20s. l've never ever so called dated. Always just waited for someone that knocks my socks off and it's taken off from there. And now that l'm single again and divorced, l'll do the same l guess. l'll know her when l see her and the rest will take care of itself.
Bastile Posted July 17, 2017 Posted July 17, 2017 There most certainly is a dating groove. It's important for men, as we are the more aggressive part of the couple. The impetus is on us. It's like being a striker who is match fit, and in great form. When I've been in form, I've had sets where I was just red-hot. When I look back on how I played it, it was a different level (for me). I've also been comically clumsy when off my game. It's well documented that approaching and going out with women is one of the great natural ways to raise testosterone. This leads to a level of confidence that is intoxicating like a drug to my system. That makes you more attractive to women, who in turn give you more confidence, which leads to attracting more women - so on and so forth. I also found it a very destructive lifestyle, though. Not something that Is properly sustainable for me. It really was killing me. That's why the game theory of R and K selection resonates so strongly with me. R-selection being the guy that goes out slaying dragons, having tons of kids, but never survives to raise them. Needless to say that isn't a healthy dating lifestyle, and I'm working on sorting myself out. My eureka moment for having had enough, was when a girl flaked on me before I was about to head out for a date, and it didn't even piss me off. I was just happy for the peace and quiet.
CloudyHead Posted July 17, 2017 Posted July 17, 2017 For me, it was cultivating a thick skin and making a decision to just enjoy the process of dating. Accept the fact that there are many damaged people out there and try to avoid them. Accept the fact that you will be stood up. I decided not to stick to a "type" so I opened myself up to meeting men with whom I normally would not interact. I was very open and honest that I was not rushing into a relationship. And, I tackled the "texting" issue by stating that I many not return texts immediately due to work and such and to not read anything into a slow response time. I used OLD so once contact was made, I usually met fairly quickly as I was interested in meeting someone and not endless communication that went nowhere.
Chilli Posted July 17, 2017 Posted July 17, 2017 To me even needing a so called dating groove, god what next, just means what you really must need is a new picker because your old ones most def' on the blink. well, unless you just wanna play the field anyway.
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