Author Latino4Lyfe Posted July 17, 2017 Author Posted July 17, 2017 I have a feeling she'll likely guilt you at some point -- why are you ignoring me, what's going on with you, etc. If she can't get you to respond, she'll try a variety of ways to get you to react. This one you should permanently delete. Yeah most likely, she's going to do probably whatever she can to twist things around on me and make it seem like what she is doing is right. Honestly, the only way she will get something out of me is if she straight up goes above and beyond to try and reach me and actually talk this through like normal adults. But the chances of that happening are probably very slim so yeah not gonna happen.
dumbass2 Posted July 17, 2017 Posted July 17, 2017 Yeah most likely, she's going to do probably whatever she can to twist things around on me and make it seem like what she is doing is right. Honestly, the only way she will get something out of me is if she straight up goes above and beyond to try and reach me and actually talk this through like normal adults. But the chances of that happening are probably very slim so yeah not gonna happen. But the thing is this, now that you've seen her true colors is this really what you want for a girlfriend? During these times you learn a lot more about people and you have to see the red flags. I'm not sure what she could do. She is who she is right now. 2
Zahara Posted July 17, 2017 Posted July 17, 2017 Y Honestly, the only way she will get something out of me is if she straight up goes above and beyond to try and reach me and actually talk this through like normal adults. But the chances of that happening are probably very slim so yeah not gonna happen. If that is who she is, then you would have had this conversation by now, but more importantly, you wouldn't be where you are. She's showing you who she is and you need to grasp and accept that. It is not changing. And she's showing you very early in the game. Take heed. She's wired this way. Even if she came back and talked to you, it would likely come from a place of motive and manipulation. You should let this one go. Red flags flying. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 17, 2017 Posted July 17, 2017 This woman is a hot mess, OP. There should be no "the only way she can get something out of me is....XYZ". Raise your standards, my friend. 1
Author Latino4Lyfe Posted July 17, 2017 Author Posted July 17, 2017 You guys are all right. This is just that part of my head doing wishful thinking. I know for sure if she is like this now, she's not going to change. If anything it will be worse.
Been Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 And that's the thing. Honestly you should block ALL contact from her including texts. She more then likely isn't ever going to change. And deep down you know it. I once read a random article about relationships and the person writing the article basically said the problem with most people is they get too concerned with what the other person is doing rather then being concerned about THEMSELVES. And that made so much sense. You know what you want out of a relationship. What you expect. And yet we meet people and start dating them and they fall below are expectations. With my ex I knew I wasn't being treated good but I WANTED proof and I hung around trying to get proof that I was being mistreated instead of being concerned about ME and just leaving.
Chi townD Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 Sorry dude. There's someone else. She ditches you and the next thing you see is a pic of her cooking dinner for a "Friend" that she wants to impress. Let this one go. You need to view this "space" as the break up. No turning back. You said her birthday is in a month and a half? You were planning on something big for her? Plan something big for you! Go somewhere nice. Get away because if you don't you'll be thinking about her on and around her birthday, I promise you that! So, go somewhere! Hell, I just looked on Groupon and I saw a 3 night stay in an all inclusive resort in Cabo San Lucas for $520. Not that hard to find an adventure. Or it sounds like you like the outdoors, go Camping at Yosemite. Beautiful out there! The object is, is to surround yourself with something new and not be around things that are going to remind you of her. 2
knabe Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 The up and down, the moods, celebrating her birthday when it is not her birthday? Something's off here. It sounds like she has some possible mental issues. Don't let her reel you back in.
Marc878 Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 If you like drama in your life and knots in your stomach then she's the one for you. :love::bunny:
Author Latino4Lyfe Posted July 25, 2017 Author Posted July 25, 2017 Hey guys, so just thought I would provide an update. I've been keeping strong with NC. Have not reached out or said anything to her in any way shape or form. She did keep sending breadcrumbs throughout last week, even to the point of her making plans with me and breaking them without me even agreeing or saying anything O.o. She texted me Thursday night feeling depressed and that she wanted to see me Friday after work no excuses. I did not respond nor reply. Friday afternoon she sends a text telling not to bother waiting for her, she doesn't feel like going out. A couple of hours later, I get a notification from my Snapchat and she's out partying...I've kept quiet this entire time and she has since Friday kept quiet as well. Right now...while I'm still hurt that she is being like this and pretty much all out disrespecting me, I can't help but kind of laugh because it's like...are these actions for real? Who does this? What do you guys think?
PegNosePete Posted July 25, 2017 Posted July 25, 2017 What do you guys think? I think you're doing NC wrong. You need to read the NC guide (sticky thread on this forum). http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/470829-all-new-2014-no-contact-guide You should NOT be receiving and/or reading her texts. You should not be getting updates on her location on snapchat or whatever. You should not be analysing her actions. This is not NC. 1
Zahara Posted July 25, 2017 Posted July 25, 2017 Right now...while I'm still hurt that she is being like this and pretty much all out disrespecting me, I can't help but kind of laugh because it's like...are these actions for real? Who does this? What do you guys think? There is nothing to gain from being accessible to her other than the fact you get a high/ego boost from her contact. And since this is hurting you, block her. Stop analyzing her behavior, but focus on yours as to why you're still wanting to stay connected to her, especially when you know she's dysfunctional. 1
Chi townD Posted July 25, 2017 Posted July 25, 2017 Follow what Pete said with NC and you need to start healing from this. I still stand by what I said, make a plan and get out of town for a long weekend.
dumbass2 Posted July 25, 2017 Posted July 25, 2017 Do as the others have mentioned. This kind of activity does not help you heal. At some point you're apt to break. Block her for now. Doesn't have to be permanent, but it will help you get to where you want be over the next few months. 1
preraph Posted July 25, 2017 Posted July 25, 2017 It sounds to me like she is probably dating someone else or hung up on someone or still in contact with an ex or something that is keeping her stirred up. But she seems to be lying telling you she's at work and then not even keeping what she'd doing off social media -- so that's really disrespectful, and I just think you should move on and give her space forever.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 25, 2017 Posted July 25, 2017 She's a few fries short of a Happy Meal. That's why she behaves like this.
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