coolheadal Posted July 14, 2017 Posted July 14, 2017 First let me tell you why I'm wondering. A while back a woman I met online expressed interest in me. We got together and she really seemed into me. We would kiss and hang out. She would call me all the time, text me all day long and always wanted me to come over. When I tried to take things further she backed way off and I asked her why and she said I was reading to much into her actions....what???....so i broke it off... Present day...I'm 54 and I walk in a mall every night for exercise. One night I am walking along and this younger woman starts waving at me and smiling big time and saying hello....first I think she believes I'm someone else and say hello as we pass. The whole time I thinking someone she knows must be behind me so I glance back and there is no one. A few days later I'm walking in the mall with my children and there she is at a kiosk smiling and saying hello again. I say hello and keep on walking. Now I'm thinking she is only being friendly so she can sell me something. I talk to some people and they are telling me that she is interested in me. I'm thinking no way because something very similar happened to me a while back. A younger lady contacted me in a group I was in and was being friendly but the whole time I'm thinking she is really only interested in selling her products that we are in this group. When I asked her out her real intentions about showing interest in me was in fact only to sell me something. The other night I approach this new lady's kiosk and she looks up and starts smiling and saying hello. I stop and we chat for about 5 minutes. In the conversation she never mentions a boyfriend (she told me about eating a new restaurant with friends in the mall) and she does not have a ring on her finger. I tell her I just got a job in the mall and what department I will be working in. At the end of the conversation I extend my hand and tell her my name and ask her's. My issue is she is much younger than I am. I can't exactly say but I would guess a good 10+ years. She is really attractive!!....She never tried to sell me one of the products at her kiosk....Misreading women's interest in me has happened many times in my life. One part of me wants to ask her out for drink but another part tells me not to waste my time because her intention is only to sell me something..... Advice? Next time ask her this after you say this" How's it going today?' Has your boyfriend or husband ever taken you to see that latest movie (or you can say that new place on such and such a street). You can think of whatever you want too say. This way you can find out her current situation when it comes to men. I believe what you have here is a younger woman looking at you in attractive way. She likes what she sees. But that's about it. Even if she likes you, what's your situation? Didn't you mentioned you had kids? Are you still married or just divorced? You can be 50 plus and still date anyone 25 and up. There is no limit to you age range. Where does it say that in common law you shall not date a younger woman! Now if you get the answer I believe you shall then you go for it right then. Ask for let me take you to this cool spot a watering hole I know where we can talk some more and get to know each other better,. I would do it if I was you.. You have everything already kids I don't but you have your life and healthy ego to share with that wonderful woman. Now!
Author angler_bill Posted July 14, 2017 Author Posted July 14, 2017 @coolheadal: I am divorced 5 years now. 2 kids from the marriage that are grown and in college. Based on previous conversations with women none have ever flirted with me to later find out they have a boyfriend. She had the chance to inform me of that when she told me of going to the new restaurant there at the mall and she said that she went with friends....If she wanted to inform me she had a boyfriend then was the time....unless she is playing me....we will soon find out. @preraph: I just started the other day. I walk there M-Thursday night before the mall closes. I just got back from picking up my shirts at the mall from the store I will be working at. I took the time to walk to her kiosk to see if she was there and she was but there was two other guys there with her working. From a distance I watched her where she couldn't see me. I only saw her wave and speak to a guy that works at a kiosk down from her location. Other than that she never waved or acted friendly to any man that passed by her. It was super crowded and I'm pretty sure those guys there were the owners because I've seen them there before. Now if she is just being friendly to potential customers she had ample time and plenty of men to be friendly to because it was packed with people. I'd go back tonight but the mall is so damn crowded on the weekends and I don't want to get her in trouble. So, when I go for my walk next week and if I see her I'll ask her if she wants to get a drink when she gets done closing.....then I'll know exactly where all this is going. Better yet I just rememeberd that the mall closes at 7 on Sunday. That would a perfect time to ask her out for a drink because the night is still young and plenty of time to sit and chat....if she is interested.... I just have to wonder what in the hell does this gal see in me....I'm mostly bald, beer belly and a lot of gray in my beard....LOL
guy45 Posted July 14, 2017 Posted July 14, 2017 I just have to wonder what in the hell does this gal see in me....I'm mostly bald, beer belly and a lot of gray in my beard....LOL Lol I'm imagining George Costanza in a Seinfeld episode now
Author angler_bill Posted July 14, 2017 Author Posted July 14, 2017 Lol I'm imagining George Costanza in a Seinfeld episode now He has more hair and I did at one time have blonde hair....
DashRiprock Posted July 14, 2017 Posted July 14, 2017 OP, you are SO over-analyzing this! Just ask her out for crying out loud. one drink, one hour (if that). Problem solved.
Author angler_bill Posted July 15, 2017 Author Posted July 15, 2017 Game on!!....tonight I went up and talked to her....she was very hyper. Talking talking talking....I spent a good 20 minutes talking with her after the closing bell rang in the mall. She had ample time to sell me her products and she didn't. She told me that she only had one sale today so if her interest in me was to sell me something she would have done it then to try and get one more sale. A couple of times I tried to walk away telling her I must be holding her up from closing down her kiosk....she kept insisting I stay and talk. In this time she never mentioned she had a boyfriend because I touched on her social life. She kept asking me when I would be back...will it be tomorrow, Sunday, Monday???...when...Told her Monday night....Monday night I will ask her to go have a drink with me at one of the bars there....then we will know if she is just being super friendly...Hot damn!!!...she looks some damn hot....brunette hair down to the mid back....tight body....she has a small nose piercing...anyone know if women that do this mean anything??...I find it very hot!! 1
coolheadal Posted July 15, 2017 Posted July 15, 2017 Game on!!....tonight I went up and talked to her....she was very hyper. Talking talking talking....I spent a good 20 minutes talking with her after the closing bell rang in the mall. She had ample time to sell me her products and she didn't. She told me that she only had one sale today so if her interest in me was to sell me something she would have done it then to try and get one more sale. A couple of times I tried to walk away telling her I must be holding her up from closing down her kiosk....she kept insisting I stay and talk. In this time she never mentioned she had a boyfriend because I touched on her social life. She kept asking me when I would be back...will it be tomorrow, Sunday, Monday???...when...Told her Monday night....Monday night I will ask her to go have a drink with me at one of the bars there....then we will know if she is just being super friendly...Hot damn!!!...she looks some damn hot....brunette hair down to the mid back....tight body....she has a small nose piercing...anyone know if women that do this mean anything??...I find it very hot!! It's Friday night why didn't you ask her out for a drink tonight? Why are you waiting for Monday? She didn't want you to leave and stay. Still should see if she has anyone in her present. Otherwise you can chalk this up to friends only. (aka friends-zone) You feel much of a good ego in your head attractive young woman we men would die for well I say scream for! Lucky you but here's your chance where we all can just listen to your story... 1
Marc878 Posted July 15, 2017 Posted July 15, 2017 Man you are doing everything possible to lose a chance here. Why? 1
Bastile Posted July 15, 2017 Posted July 15, 2017 I'm going to tell you the folly in this thinking. Rejection is common. You have to go through a lot of it, in order to get what you want. Making putting it off to this extent really daft. The importance isn't really in gaming this girl. It's in bettering yourself. If this thread gets you over your approach anxiety somewhat, then it will be a very good thing. 2
Chilli Posted July 15, 2017 Posted July 15, 2017 Funny. l was thinking about this thread today,while l was mixing cement for fence posts, yep. And l remembered,l dunno how many times women have just come out point blank and said, are you seeing anyone , married ? Even hairdressers . Weird isn't it ,they've just come straight out with it, dozens of times. Just sayin. It is funny if you think about it,
mikeylo Posted July 15, 2017 Posted July 15, 2017 Game on!!....tonight I went up and talked to her....she was very hyper. Talking talking talking....I spent a good 20 minutes talking with her after the closing bell rang in the mall. She had ample time to sell me her products and she didn't. She told me that she only had one sale today so if her interest in me was to sell me something she would have done it then to try and get one more sale. A couple of times I tried to walk away telling her I must be holding her up from closing down her kiosk....she kept insisting I stay and talk. In this time she never mentioned she had a boyfriend because I touched on her social life. She kept asking me when I would be back...will it be tomorrow, Sunday, Monday???...when...Told her Monday night....Monday night I will ask her to go have a drink with me at one of the bars there....then we will know if she is just being super friendly...Hot damn!!!...she looks some damn hot....brunette hair down to the mid back....tight body....she has a small nose piercing...anyone know if women that do this mean anything??...I find it very hot!! It means that she has an edge and wants a guy who can keep up with her On Monday I guess, with this pace, you will hopefully manage to tell us the color of her eyes ? Dude, ask her out when the iron is hot
Author angler_bill Posted July 16, 2017 Author Posted July 16, 2017 Ok...I went to the mall with my 19 year old daughter and asked her to go look at this gal and tell me how old she thought she was. She came back laughing and said she has to be around 21. I'm still going to ask her out for a drink....if she is legal to drink...LOL!! and talk with her to find out what she is all about...
joseb Posted July 16, 2017 Posted July 16, 2017 I assumed by the title that you had either had a successful date or had at least asked her out. Serious question, are you trying to mess it up for some reason? When you have an open, golden opportunity to ask someone out, do it. I'm curious, what is your justification for not asking? 1
SevenCity Posted July 16, 2017 Posted July 16, 2017 OMG would you ask her out already??? Now you are stalking her and having your kid do the same? This is way too much effort to put into someone you don't even know. It should go like this You: She's cute, I think I'll ask her out You: "Wanna go out?" Her: "Yes / no" You: "Great! See you at x time at x place" or "no problem" (and thank god I didn't waste too much time on a girl who doesn't want to go out with me. Cudos to me for trying! Next!)
mikeylo Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 You think she is about 44 and your daughter thinks she is about 21? I'm sure a 21 year old looks much younger than 44 !! Lol Did you ask her out already or still asking others to guess her age? In either case, after her showing interest and you playing it cool, is going to make her lose attraction towards you. To be a bit cautious is good but taking it extremely slow is a sure way to end before it starts
Chilli Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 What's happened AB , was it last Monday,did you ask her ? No pressure , ahhhh . 1
Author angler_bill Posted July 28, 2017 Author Posted July 28, 2017 Asked her out...Should have gone with my gut....got the reply "I would love to but my boyfriend will not like it".....I told her since you have a boyfriend I'm out of here....she got all sad and pretended to act all sad I was walking away...really???....next time I'll trust my gut feelings.... 2
Bastile Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 Asked her out...Should have gone with my gut....got the reply "I would love to but my boyfriend will not like it".....I told her since you have a boyfriend I'm out of here....she got all sad and pretended to act all sad I was walking away...really???....next time I'll trust my gut feelings.... Missing the point, entirely... The value isn't in the girl. It's in the game. It was (finally) a successful approach, because you clearly stated your intent. The fact that she rejected is an afterthought. You should be pumped up (especially if this is something out of the ordinary). Now you do that with any other girl that takes your fancy, whenever you please. Well done. World's your oyster.
coolheadal Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 Asked her out...Should have gone with my gut....got the reply "I would love to but my boyfriend will not like it".....I told her since you have a boyfriend I'm out of here....she got all sad and pretended to act all sad I was walking away...really???....next time I'll trust my gut feelings.... You should have ask her the question to find out if she had a boyfriend in the first place and now you have egg on you face. Question was I am sure you boyfriend or husband is taking out to see that (show, concert, etc event) That is what you need to ask before you get rejected like you did. Ask them you waited so long now she lost you as a friend. You was someone she could trust that wasn't after her. Well I guess you were in a way... Another bites the dust!
Author angler_bill Posted July 28, 2017 Author Posted July 28, 2017 @ Bastile: You are correct. I'm not upset. What I'm finding interesting is at the new place I work there are a lot of girls there. Some smile as I walk by and some will not even look at me or when they do there is no smile. Some speak to me and some I speak to. The ones that are being friendly will be the ones I will eventually ask out. To me it is a numbers game. If you don't ask them out or at least attempt to talk to them you will never get anywhere. It seems that many women will never express their interest in you and if you don't express your interest you will never get a date with them... @coolheadal: Maybe you didn't see where I stated earlier that she told me that her and some of her friends went to a new restaurant in the mall. That is when she should have told me she had a boyfriend. At my new job in orientation there was a girl there. She was very attractive so i started small talk to her. In almost every sentence she mentioned her boyfriend. She made it very clear she had a boyfriend. The kiosk girl had ample time to tell me she had a boyfriend and doesn't mention it until I ask her out.....
JuneL Posted July 28, 2017 Posted July 28, 2017 Asked her out...Should have gone with my gut....got the reply "I would love to but my boyfriend will not like it".....I told her since you have a boyfriend I'm out of here....she got all sad and pretended to act all sad I was walking away...really???....next time I'll trust my gut feelings.... You deserve a pat on your back for doing it!
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