Fallen_Angel Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 Since I last spoke with my ex on Tuesday (oops), I've done some thinking. I think at this point in my healing journey I'm focusing on irrational thoughts like "I'll never find anyone else again." I was with my ex for three and a half years; I completely forgot what it was like to be single! Then I got to thinking about an August night exactly five years ago, where I stayed up all night talking with a guy I then briefly dated and am now very close friends with. I remember feeling so connected to him, so amazed I could feel so close to another human being. And last night I went on a little road trip to visit a good friend who's staying at the beach. We went to a bar she frequents and I ran into not one but TWO guys I used to be crazy about. (Both of them are still incredibly hot, I might add!!!!) Plus I have a little crush on a guy at work! So I think what I'm trying to say is...take a moment to remove yourself from what you're feeling right now, and think about another guy/girl you used to know. I don't care how many years ago it was...both of the guys I saw last night I used to like in grade school/high school so we're talking almost TEN years!! I know it's so tempting to believe there's that ONE person out there for us, and maybe I used to believe it myself but I certainly don't anymore now that the one I thought was the "one" has rejected me. I find it comforting to remember I used to feel giddy and dizzy at the thought of a guy who's NOT my ex, and I'm glad last night was a sign of what that used to be like!
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 butterflies are the best feeling in the world... I miss that feeling sometimes...
Rosalind Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 Ah, the bond people form that makes them become *thisclose*...it's such a great feeling. Rosalind
smile95 Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 Fallen Angel You have no idea how much I needed to hear that today! Thanks!
Curt Posted August 7, 2005 Moderators Posted August 7, 2005 Originally posted by Fallen_Angel I know it's so tempting to believe there's that ONE person out there for us, and maybe I used to believe it myself but I certainly don't anymore now that the one I thought was the "one" has rejected me. I find it comforting to remember I used to feel giddy and dizzy at the thought of a guy who's NOT my ex, and I'm glad last night was a sign of what that used to be like! It's really good to see this kind of thing happening for you, as it has for me. I suppose it all comes down to how emotionally invested we become in another person. We can, and arguably should, experience that kind of bond with more than one person in a lifetime. Nonetheless, the idea of finding "the one" is still perplexing for me. In my case, much as in yours Fallen_Angel, I always felt that this one particular girl was the person I had been most keenly connected with. In comparison to others, she was the one whom I felt I almost "knew/understood" on a spiritual kind of level. We appeared to both be of such similar emotional and psychological "levels" that we just "clicked." Today, I would suggest that the idea of her having been "the one" was, although appealing at the time, more likely humorous to the point of being ludicrous. There are many great people out there, and we owe it to ourselves to find a person that suits us well. If ANY relationship ends up in one-sided affection, it is not right and can't work, no matter how invested one person may be in the arrangement. Cut bait, and move on. In any event, I applaud you on your moving on and looking upward in your search for "true" love. Peace. Curt
Author Fallen_Angel Posted August 8, 2005 Author Posted August 8, 2005 Originally posted by beth5201 Fallen Angel You have no idea how much I needed to hear that today! Thanks! Not a problem. Glad I could help!!
wakamiya Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by Fallen_Angel Not a problem. Glad I could help!! This post helped me so much too. That's all I have to say. (better to say something then nothing passing by a post like this ) I'm going to try to think positively.
AndrewJ Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 I too ran into an old freind on sunday who was calling out my name but i didnt recognise her. She gave me a stone for unconditional love (real hippie girl). But when times bring u low its amazing how peolpe and thoughts from the past just return to balance ur mind again.
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