Can someone explain this situation and do I dump him?

[loveandhate96]

They were together for 2 years and they haven't really had a no contact period. Well, she stopped talking to him for two months and when she hit him up when she visited town he lashed out at her and said "You haven't talked to me in two months! What if I was in the hospital?!" Then proceeded hanging out with her. They got drinks and he asked her if she wanted to see his dad? I also found out he took her to his mothers house and before all this happened he kept all of her things she left behind like her little nightstand, her lamp, and her clothes. Her nightstand is by his bed and her lamp is in his room as well. It's been a year now since they have broken up to.

 

So back to what I was saying, they got drinks and he confessed that he was talking to someone (me) but he didn't say my name at all all he said was that he "didn't like me and NEVER wanted to talk to me" he was drinking when he said this and he also told her he is still in love with her and still loves her he did not give any details about me whatsoever. After that he took her back to her hotel and she asked to kiss him and he said yea so they made out. Then after that he texted her Goodmorning (after he said what he said) to make this short he took her out to dinner, brought her to his family's house, hugged her, kissed her, gave her compliments, even followed her when she was going to talk to her mom so he saw her mom in person... fast forward 2 months later she came to visit again but this time he was stalking her from his car and watched everything she was doing and when he saw her get in a car with another guy he sped off behind them and was riding the guys tailgate with loud music!! He didn't respond to her wanting to hangout instead he decided to do all this!! Seems like he was stalking her the whole time she was in town. Fast forward they are still talking and they were exchanging flirty messages and he wanted her to send him nudes and she did. I also found this convo between them:

 

Her: So your dating someone?

Him: No, I said I was talking to someone not dating.

 

Her: Good for you. Now I can find someone else.

Him: No (!!!)

Her: Did you mean it when you said you are still in love with me?

Him: Yes I meant it

Her: Do you think about me during the day?

Him: Yes

Her: I miss laying next to you

Him: Me to

Her: Have you thought about having sex with me?

Him: Yes

Her: Do you feel tingles when you do?

Him: Yes

 

BOTTOMLINE:

She is going to be moving back to town soon. She has no choice but to come back given her circumstances. They have been in contact this whole time with only a No contact period of 2 months. Am I a rebound or what? Is he waiting for her to come back? He lives with his mom btw but has a car and a job. I feel that if she had her place here in town when they broke up they would have been got back together... in also concerned because he came straight to her when he got off work and everything like he can't stay away when she is in town. Please help!!

 

I don't understand he broke up with her...

[DragonzRoost]

Now you do.. Yes he using you as a rebound and worse he disregarded you to this girl entirely. Someone who flirts with someone taken, is no better than the person guilty of cheating. He doesn't care about you op, I'd move on.. Btw, he still lives with his Mom, while holding a job? How old is he?

Edited July 13, 2017 by DragonzRoost

[Zahara]

First of all, how do you even know what they spoke about at drinks? You post as though you were right there with them at every turn. You know every single detail right down to what they did in her hotel room.

 

In any case, you are a rebound. He just doesn't care for you and what you both have together. You're just a space filler for now until they both get together.

 

And with all this information, I'm perplexed that you even have to ask if you should dump him and that you're still with him.

Edited July 13, 2017 by Zahara

[preraph]

He is just killing time with you, I'm sorry. He is being a jerk and they are still very involved. Just from the way he has treated you with all this and minimized you and made clear he doesn't care, you need to just go no contact with him.