Midypfc Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 Say you are with an attractive girl and someone says how did you manage to pull her?, or why is she with you? What would your answer to this be? Just thought it would be interesting to see what people would say. I had someone say to me im too tall for my current girlfriend, i dont think so though. Also does anyone believe in leagues when it comes to this stuff, like you cant have a certain woman because shes out of your league?
d0nnivain Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 My response would be something along the lines of "I didn't 'pull' anybody but we're together in part because I don't ask rude Qs like you just did." 5
Bastile Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 Part of going out with attractive women is that sad acts get jealous. Any solid guy just nods his head at you. Don't let other people's insecurities rub off on you. The response? Depends on context, but "your mum didn't think I was too tall" comes to mind. 5
basil67 Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 When we were first dating, someone asked my husband this question. He answered with a straight face 'I have a big ****' 13
kgcolonel Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 When we were first dating, someone asked my husband this question. He answered with a straight face 'I have a big ****' I'd say, "I'm tall laying down"....then watch their expression once they got it.... 2
CptInsano Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 Part of going out with attractive women is that sad acts get jealous. Any solid guy just nods his head at you. Or asks to be introduced to her friends.
Redhead14 Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 I would say something like "my real friends are supporting and encouraging my new relationship and see me as deserving to have someone who cares for me and appreciates me the way I am." 1
knabe Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 I'd say, "I guess she's smart enough to recognize how awesome I am" 5
SammySammy Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 This has happened to me several times. I rarely respond because it doesn't have anything to do with me. I'm clearly living the life they don't believe they are capable of. Those questions are reflections of their disbeliefs and insecurities. I don't believe in leagues. That's why I consistently date women that other people think should be "out of my league". Because I believe ... no ... KNOW ... with absolute certainty ... that I can. That's really what separates people. Confidence. Self-assurance. What's possible is possible for everyone. But, "whether you believe you can or believe you can't, you're right". Never live life by other people's limitations. 2
mikeylo Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 I've seen couples who look mismatched but they click more on what's inside( no pun intended) lol! Take it as a compliment.
SevenCity Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 I would say "The question is how did she pull ME" 2
tetrahedral Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 Say you are with an attractive girl and someone says how did you manage to pull her?, or why is she with you? What would your answer to this be? "I'm actually in this for her money" Just thought it would be interesting to see what people would say. I had someone say to me im too tall for my current girlfriend, i dont think so though. "It's all good, we're the same height when she's in heels" Also does anyone believe in leagues when it comes to this stuff, like you cant have a certain woman because shes out of your league? There's exceptions but people generally pair up with comparable people. So yes.
tetrahedral Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 I would say "The question is how did she pull ME" Definitely don't say that. It would make you sound defensive and insecure. Of course, you don't want to take how your girlfriend looks as a compliment either. It makes you look like you value yourself based on the looks of your girlfriend, which isn't a good way to be. Just take stuff in stride.
carhill Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 I'd use the usual Dear Abby response to such gauche and impertinent questions - "Why do you ask?" 4
knabe Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 I'd use the usual Dear Abby response to such gauche and impertinent questions - "Why do you ask?" This. It puts the mirror up to them. I'm going to have to remember this.
GunslingerRoland Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 If it's your friends saying it, they are probably just ribbing you while at the same time complimenting you on your girlfriend. If someone is seriously meaning it, then obviously they don't think much of you, and you probably don't need to think much of them either...
alphamale Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 Say you are with an attractive girl and someone says how did you manage to pull her?, or why is she with you? I wouldn't say anything
Wookin Pa Nub Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 So I (45) am separated and dating my college sweetheart (43) who is going thru divorce. My gf turns heads when we go out. She is tall blonde, super fit yoga instructor with a certain enhancement. Before we re connected she went out on a date with a 28 year old, pretty studly guy who attends her yoga classes. I'm 45 year old boring accountant. Because of our situations we don't go out much in public or hang out with each others friends. But I am preparing myself for the questions about how did I get her?
preraph Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 To the how did you pull her, "We like each other. Has this never happened to you?" The you're too tall for her "She doesn't think so. You sound jealous."
JuneJulySeptember Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 (edited) Say you are with an attractive girl and someone says how did you manage to pull her?, or why is she with you? What would your answer to this be? Just thought it would be interesting to see what people would say. I had someone say to me im too tall for my current girlfriend, i dont think so though. Also does anyone believe in leagues when it comes to this stuff, like you cant have a certain woman because shes out of your league? It has happened to me. Not with the current GF but a previous. One of my not too close friends, but someone I considered a friend, was discussing me with one of my closer friends and said "I got better than I could have hoped for". That closer friend told me. I confronted the other guy, and he sorta felt bad. We're not really in touch anymore, that's not the primary reason. This is one of the reasons I try my best not to mention leagues and stuff and mismatches in relationships in any conversations. I admit, it can be nearly impossible to not think it from time to time, but I will try to never utter it about any couples I know or see on the street. In a general sense, I really don't care if people think I'm ugly these days. I try to make my life about more than that. That said, I don't necessarily want to be friends with those people either if I can pick 'em out. Edited July 11, 2017 by JuneJulySeptember
Author Midypfc Posted July 12, 2017 Author Posted July 12, 2017 Some good responses I guess sometimes when i hear people say this to me it makes me think about why is she actually with me. I question things a fair bit as i think she is beautiful and there are always more attractive guys out there than me. I do know what i bring to the table though as I would do anything for her and i treat her as good as anyone could. We get on so well and everything is amazing. Its just when it comes to looks i question things sometimes
d0nnivain Posted July 12, 2017 Posted July 12, 2017 Stop. In your opinion she has a myriad of choices. Yet she chose you. That says a lot. She must think you have a lot going on & you bring a lot to the party. Try looking at yourself though her eyes.
mikeylo Posted July 12, 2017 Posted July 12, 2017 Stop. In your opinion she has a myriad of choices. Yet she chose you. That says a lot. She must think you have a lot going on & you bring a lot to the party. Try looking at yourself though her eyes. Mmmmm this got me thinking ! It's very likely that while she ' thinks' he has a lot going on and he brings a lot to the relationship BUT those who know him and question him, also know that what he is projecting is a facade and the girl hasn't seen that yet.
Wookin Pa Nub Posted July 12, 2017 Posted July 12, 2017 I question things a fair bit as i think she is beautiful and there are always more attractive guys out there than me. I do know what i bring to the table though as I would do anything for her and i treat her as good as anyone could. We get on so well and everything is amazing. Its just when it comes to looks i question things sometimes Not sure if you read my post above but I feel the same. I am 45 year old accountant dating a 43 year old fit hot yoga instructor. She went on a date with studly 28 year old. She's got a MMA fighter as a yoga student bringing her gifts at class after his fights. She turns heads out in public. It makes me question things. Then the sex side. I am in decent shape for 45 but my libido is not what it use to be and trying to keep up in bed with a very fit yoga girl is difficult. She tells me she is hitting sexual prime. So in the back of my mind I wonder if I can keep up and keep her satisfied.
JuneJulySeptember Posted July 12, 2017 Posted July 12, 2017 Not sure if you read my post above but I feel the same. I am 45 year old accountant dating a 43 year old fit hot yoga instructor. She went on a date with studly 28 year old. She's got a MMA fighter as a yoga student bringing her gifts at class after his fights. She turns heads out in public. It makes me question things. Then the sex side. I am in decent shape for 45 but my libido is not what it use to be and trying to keep up in bed with a very fit yoga girl is difficult. She tells me she is hitting sexual prime. So in the back of my mind I wonder if I can keep up and keep her satisfied. Most of the discrepancy/gap are in people's heads. I mean how far apart could you guys possibly be? You're both the same race (white I assume), you're in good shape. I mean you guys are in your 40s. Most people our age are worrying about paying the mortgage and taking their kids to the doctor ... not about how much better looking your girlfriend is than you. If there is a gap, it's either in your head or hers. I certainly wouldn't say anything if I saw you guys.
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