salparadise Posted July 16, 2017 Posted July 16, 2017 But I still believe that he should have talked to me. Let me know that he had already made plans and moved on with his night, whatever. Let me know that i was too late to reach out... Ignoring me completely is just... i didnt do anything on purpose, I just work a lot and I go to school. What you did was try to get him to put his life on hold for a "maybe, I'll let you know." And then you didn't let him know. You expected him to be at your beck and call. Your life might be all about your work and school, but his isn't. And he deserves common courtesy... that would be a yes or no, or can I let you know by [specific time] with a follow through on your part. These are things adults are suppose to know. No response was exactly the right response, imho. This was of your own making. 4
stillafool Posted July 16, 2017 Posted July 16, 2017 I highly doubt it for some reason. On the other hand he did something similar last Sat (last text was around 9pm.). But then, he was in touch with me every few hours for the entire week up to 6pm on Sat. Exactly! That was probably because he was on a date after 6PM Saturday night.
Versacehottie Posted July 16, 2017 Posted July 16, 2017 Sure. It would have been considerate. But it also would have been considerate of you to, you know, not keep him waiting all day wondering why you have made no mention of getting together that night. He got tired of waiting and found something else to do. That's what happens. This is a very Pot-Kettle situation. You need much more insight into your own behaviour before this will ever get any better. Amen. Maybe after chit chat with you all day,OP, he just figured you were never going to give the final answer about saturday night and got discouraged and felt clingy to keep lurking with texts and hanging on your last word. After all, you keep ignoring the fact that the burden to provide your final answer about Saturday night was with YOU. Thus you were the inconsiderate one, much more so than him. How long was he supposed to wait? And was he supposed to stay home and chain to his phone sending compliments while you had a boring night in? Maybe that's not what he wanted to do. And he gave you ample opportunity to pull the trigger. Maybe is an exhausting as this thread is about going round and round with you looking to place blame. A huge growth thing to consider is that your actions (in every situation and this goes for everyone) "may" have played a part. And then go back through the series of events to see if they have. Apologize if your actions have caused any inconvenience, misunderstanding or miscommunication. Huge growth. Try it. 1
Versacehottie Posted July 16, 2017 Posted July 16, 2017 Exactly! That was probably because he was on a date after 6PM Saturday night. I think he'd be well within his rights to do so but guessing it's more likely he just got fed up with her jerking him around and didn't want to open his saturday night back up to her for texts and phone calls since it looked like no date was forthcoming. He was probably high in touch all week hoping to secure a solid answer on the date and putting in the pre-work to get that. She's jerking him around on her on whims. She got exactly what she deserved whether or not her guy is a jerk or cheating on her. 1
kendahke Posted July 17, 2017 Posted July 17, 2017 But no need to ignore me either. when i asked what are you up to, simple hanging out with my brothers would be enough. Truth be told, he really doesn't owe you that. You're not his girlfriend. You're just some chick he knows who isn't his priority.
smackie9 Posted July 17, 2017 Posted July 17, 2017 Something is not quite right........it's such a coincidence that this is the second thread posted that a guy used a sick father as an excuse to not answer messages.......
Lorenza Posted July 17, 2017 Posted July 17, 2017 Something is not quite right........it's such a coincidence that this is the second thread posted that a guy used a sick father as an excuse to not answer messages....... It's a popular excuse, apparently! I had been told that as well
Author Venusvenus Posted July 17, 2017 Author Posted July 17, 2017 Truth be told, he really doesn't owe you that. You're not his girlfriend. You're just some chick he knows who isn't his priority. Why are you so mean? Don't take your personal frustrations on me. I didn't do anything on purpose. The date was briefly mentioned when we met and I didnt eveb take it too seriously. Yes, I see how it made him feeling. Also, as I had already said he was busy the entire day working on his car. And for your information (since this is the 2nd time you are mentioning it) he did say once when we got into fight, hr said something like: " I can't believe my own girlfriend would think.... blah, blah... I wouldn't be so sure that I am "just some chick." Maybe, you are projecting your own experience on me....
Author Venusvenus Posted July 17, 2017 Author Posted July 17, 2017 Are you officially back together, OP? Well, after all your advices and opinions I realized what my mistakes were, and instead of my usual either, silent treatment or accusatory texts, I decided to forget about the Sat night and sent him a text yesterday afternoon. He replied and after few hours we were talking about taking a vacation together. This morning he has already texted me few times to ask how my exam went.
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