Author jgraham11 Posted July 11, 2017 Author Posted July 11, 2017 Yes, set a time and place. Again, you are making her do the work. "What days are you free..." wishy washy. Name a day and time and place. If she is busy, she should come back with an alternative. So for Saturday, name a time and place and see what happens. As for phone numbers and texting, i dont get it. You're already texting on OK cupid. If the date happens and goes well, exchange numbers then. Yeah there's something about getting the number that makes it feel more "official" to me. It's like you've gotten past the first threshold in the dating game. It's a mental thing with me because if a girl gives you her number she's at least somewhat interested
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 I kind of did I said I'd message her later in the week. I mean she's said yes to a date twice now, albeit the second time a little lackluster. She mentioned her crazy work hours though, so I'm not really gonna hold that against her too much. If she backs out between now and Saturday or worse were to flake then well. I can chalk that one up as a learning experience. I just plan on messaging her in a day or two and saying. How's Saturday at X time and X place If that doesn't work then oh well... and Yes.. she is very attractive. The kind of attractive that makes you wonder why they'd need OLD Because she works so much . She has no time to go out.
kendahke Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 Now the inevitable question comes of "Should I text her at all before Saturday?" lol ..outside of just solidifying the plan Stop with all the texting. Call her and gauge the tone in her voice. It gives you a far better indication of interest than texts do. You've been relying way too much on texts and it's been like shooting yourself in the foot. She apparently works everyday (which is kind of hard to believe) So now she's a liar. You know what? Just stop dealing with her and go find someone else. 1
Author jgraham11 Posted July 11, 2017 Author Posted July 11, 2017 What?! lol I think that might be a little extreme. I said it's hard to believe not that I don't believe her. She did say in her bio how she's very career oriented
kendahke Posted July 12, 2017 Posted July 12, 2017 Yeah there's something about getting the number that makes it feel more "official" to me. It's like you've gotten past the first threshold in the dating game. It's a mental thing with me because if a girl gives you her number she's at least somewhat interested When it comes to OLD, this rule of thumb goes out the window. Generally speaking, I don't give my phone number to someone I who I haven't seen in person. In fact, I"m pretty adamant on my profile about not exchanging phone numbers until we meet in person. All OLD have apps through which you can communicate when you're not at home on your desktop/laptop.
kendahke Posted July 12, 2017 Posted July 12, 2017 (edited) What?! lol I think that might be a little extreme. I said it's hard to believe not that I don't believe her. She did say in her bio how she's very career oriented So is assuming someone is lying when you are speculating on truthfulness and you haven't even laid eyes on her yet. What about her working 7 days/week is so hard to believe? Why would you assume off the bat she's lying when her profile indicates that she's career oriented? Edited July 12, 2017 by kendahke 1
Author jgraham11 Posted July 12, 2017 Author Posted July 12, 2017 I don't know 7 days just seems a little much to me. How many people do you know who work 7 days a week? I'll take her word for it, but it's just hard to believe.. that's all
kendahke Posted July 12, 2017 Posted July 12, 2017 I don't know 7 days just seems a little much to me. How many people do you know who work 7 days a week? I'll take her word for it, but it's just hard to believe.. that's all People who own their own retail businesses for one... People who are personal assistants to very busy people... People who are paying off a mountain of student loan debt and dont' want to drag it out to their 50's... 1
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