Maurice0404 Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 Hi, new here. I was married for 12 years to a lady from turkey. I am british and i have 2 daughters aged 5 and 3 1/2 also british. The problem is that she has been abroad from uk for 3 months as she met a man in turkey, and has fallen pregnant so will not return. I know i will get custody but i think all the time weather i should allow the children to stay with her abroad instead of staying with me or my mother. i have a prohibited steps order in place which stopped her taking the children 3 months ago. i feel they will miss their mother and hate to break that daughter-mother bond. The lifestyle she now has i could never give her as i am not well off. She suffered depression since they were born as she didnt go back to work and her family rejected her. This depression destroyed our marriage in the end even though i was as supportive as i could be. Although what she has done is worng, i have to do whats best for the children. As she can provide a good quality standard of life over there due to them having a successful business, should i give them to her?
933KJL Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 Children should have bothe a mother and father in their lives--PERIOD. I would talk to her (since you seem to be dealing with this well and she apparently has moved on) and see what her feelings are. Can she deal with her new life and THREE kids? Are you cool with that? Will her new hubby/bf be cool with someone else's kids in his house. It seems that the kids' lifes might be a bit more easier in terms of lifestyle in Turkey, but that is not everythign. She needs to be over her depression and a good mom first. Regardless if they stay in the UK or in Turkey, just be sure that the parent who does not live with them is in touch--email phone, messaging and visits--often. Keep the kids welfare in mind first and the rest will fall into place!
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