Ran into my cheating (UBDP) at pool and she left her boyfriend

[ahall1701]

It's been nearly a year since I left my ex girlfriend who I suspect had uBPD. It's been a good year. I've grown a ton and have pretty much gotten back to myself. Feels good.

 

 

My ex and I were together for nearly 3 years. And unfortunately she left a scar that I'm not sure will totally go away. But that's ok, I mean to say she helped me understand boundaries and not letting people treat me like crap. Her behavior is on her.

 

 

I left her for many reasons...

 

-She was basically in a church cult (faith healing, Evangelist)

-Flirted with men in front of me

-Gave men her number

-CONSTANT marriage pressure

-Stopped having sex for Jesus

-Rage episodes that caused damage to my vehicles

-Pulled Emergency brake while I was driving at 50mph on highway

-Lied about being pregnant, twice

-Jumped out my bedroom window and called me at work saying "someone's in your house! Help!" No one was there, except my dog

-Partied and drunk a lot, drove drunk

-Believe in conspiracy theories (illuminati, anti-vaxx)

-Hated my family and friends

-Said father was probably molesting my autistic brother for sharing a king bed so my little brother could sleep (autism and routines are vital for special needs children)

-Checked my phone all the time and was extremely jealous of any woman

-flipped out about me going swimming with brothers at park instead of apartment pool when she was working and resulting rage and splitting

-Church founders did cocaine

-She ran out of x-men in theaters saying there was a "demon in her" and proceeded to run around a parking garage at midnight. She ran for 20 mins, 6 levels up and down.

 

There's way more...

 

It's a little embarrassing that I put up with it for as long as I did.

 

But today I went swimming at a local city pool and after an hour I saw her walk in with the guy she was texting before I left her. Basically she was lining up a backup.

 

She didn't seem very happy. She had gain a lot of weight. From 150lbs to probably 180-190lbs. I'm sure from alochol and partying. I was a little taken back but I didn't let it ruin my day. She saw me on the water slide in line when she was behind me about 10 people. I went down the slide and came back up. Her current bf was still there but she was gone. She did not go down the slide. She walk down the 4 stories to ground level. Grabbed her things and left without her (I assume) current boyfriend. She was at the park maybe 15 mins total, saw me, left immediately. The bf seemed to not know what was happening. She just bailed after she met him at the benches. He left shortly after.

 

I'll admit, I looked DAMN GOOD. I've put on a lot of muscle from upping my workouts. 20 lbs and cut like Sly Stallone. I'm very proud of the hard work paying off. Her face was priceless, I was having a lot of fun and just had the "f*** it" mentality.

 

 

I'm not sure what is going through their heads right now but I'll tell ya what. Good Ridence.

 

 

Walking away from her was one of the hardest things I've ever done. But also the best. But my life is back on track.

 

Since we've broken up I've

 

-Graduated College

-Gotten debt free

-New Apartment

-New friends

-New hobbies

-Joining the Air Force!!!

-Learned to enforce my boundaries

-Higher self-esteem

-Traveled a bit

 

I'm so excited and I just want to thank everyone here at LS for the support!

 

I hope I don't come across as petty, but for what she did to me, I hope I never cross paths with her again.

 

Btw, Mental illness is no joke and I do not mean to make offense to anyone fighting a mental illness. I empathize and don't wish to stigmatiz mental illness.

 

 

I will say, I'll never forget that look on her face

Edited July 10, 2017 by ahall1701

[ahall1701]

And... she messaged me today.

[Zahara]

And... she messaged me today.

 

And you should ignore. Infact, you should have deleted and blocked this woman.

[ahall1701]

Believe me, I did. She used a different phone. I WILL NOT RESPOND. Just wanted to post to show some people that there are better things ahead

[harrybrown]

you dodged a bullet with her.

 

Keep running far away from her.

 

way too much drama.

[SammySammy]

*standing ovation*

 

Growth.

 

That's how it's supposed to happen.

 

Being willing to do what it takes to improve your life pays off.