JS17 Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 All of a sudden last night I had a nightmare about my ex. We broke up in January and it's August!!! I don't know where it came from. We've been broken up for so long already. My dream was that I ran into his father and I had to chase his father as he ran when he saw me. When I caught up to him I asked him if my ex had been tested and how long he had been seeing the woman he left me for before we broke up. His father told me that he had been seeing her casually the entire time we had been going out. I was devistated. I know that's not true, it wasn't the entire time but I don't know at what point he met her or how he met her. That was it. What does that mean and where did this come from?
Blackfrost Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 10 years later, and I still have the odd "once in a blue moon" dream that brings my ex and I together, as well as various other friends from the past - for good or for bad. I usually wake up very shaken from these types of dreams as well. The random neuron firing of the mind in sleep can be very disturbing at the times.
IfiKnewThen Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 ok i have to tell you guys that i have had what feels almost like prophetic type (not profit lol ) dreams. yes it's true. i dreamt that i was going to break up with my ex and be very sorry for it and he wouldnt take me back and he would see it as an out, and that there was going to be this girl that he would love and not be able to get over and that my pain and suffering was going to be long. i woke up crying from this dream over 1 year ago. of course it had pictures and all of me breaking it off and then he would never have me back. well it did happen that way. only after i broke up with him i tried to reconcile right away and explain to him that i only did what i did to get him to communicate with me. perhaps i wanted to shock him because he had been practically ignoring me for like a month straight in our relationship after promising he was going to turn around and change. the bottom line is ...my pain has been long and suffering. i feel most dreams are random and it a form or shedding feelings and thought and images from our daily lives. but i do believe now that there are some dreams that are prophetic in nature and we might be given greater insight with if we pay closer attention to it. recently my daughter came to me and said mom i had the strangest dream. it was about her old b/f who hadnt spoken to her in a year. for some reason i had this weird feeling this was like the dream i had...a prediction type dream. i told her i bet he contacts you in maybe 1 week. she said NO way. NO way. Impossible. hes not the type..etc. well he called her twice on the phone 2 days later. this doesnt mean examine every dream. just maybe look a bit more closely to the ones that stick out in your mind a bit more. but dont make everything mysterious in nature. your dream sounds to me like (now this is just a wild guess), like the dad was infact your boyfriend. you are chasing him for answers. in real life he doesnt provide them. but in this dream, i do think perhaps..you really maybe be getting this internal message that he has been with this girl longer than you think. even if it was desiring her mentally. if you want to give yourself peace to get a test perhaps thats not a bad idea. maybe you will get word soon what he was really up to.
IfiKnewThen Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 JS17. i do wonder if you will hear something soon about your ex and will learn something you didnt know before (perhaps). just post to us , if you do ' black. what became of your ex? what is she doing now? do you know? just curious. thinking you might really hear from her again someday too. or at the time you had these dreams, maybe both of you were in tune with each other on some level. geez, i never did this before. i dont think i have ANY talent for figuring out the dream thing. but lately i have been seeing some dream stuff then become a real portion of reality in my life and in my daughters at least. maybe we were just blessed with extra intution on 1 dream each this past year. its a shame i didnt hone in on mine, before i went through all this crap
Author JS17 Posted August 9, 2005 Author Posted August 9, 2005 I have not heard anything about my ex and it's not likely that I will as there has been no contact between us for quite some time. I have been having such a hard time the past two days since this dream. It's like all of the dormant pain was brought right back to the surface. I feel like this is abnormal as I've never experienced this before....although this is the first time someone has left me for another woman, maybe it's because he's so in love with her...I don't know. It's confusing because my emotions are getting in the way.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Just remember that dreams aren't meant to be understood.. Breaking up is stressful.. even 7 months later.. you need to let the dream go.. it means nothing that you can directly pin down and get relief from..
Author JS17 Posted August 9, 2005 Author Posted August 9, 2005 I'm not even thinking about the dream itself per se. I just know since then that I've been feeling very emotional and almost heartbroken all over again. Maybe it was just some kind of trigger to purge these feelings.
Marshbear32 Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 JS, I've had dreams about my ex coming back and telling me she is sorry and wants to commit to me and they seem real but all they do is create hope. I don't think dreams mean anything. She still hates me and wants nothing to do with me so I would just forget the dream and try to wipe out any meaning you think it might have with you. Why we have them is a mystery but I would just try to go on with your life and not think it is a sign or vision. The reality is that he is gone and with another women so try not to dwell on it as, like you say, you are heart-broken all over again. It is hard enough to deal with what is real so dealing with the abstract is hopeless. If it helps you to purge your emotions for him then think of it as a blessing. Where emotions are concerned logic takes a back seat so do what you must to feel for him and erase him from your mind ( I know. Much easier said than done ). All I can tell you is that I still feel for my ex and I think I always will. It is not abnormal. I think we just learn to deal with it and move on. Love is not something you can just switch on or off. It is reality.
Author JS17 Posted August 9, 2005 Author Posted August 9, 2005 i don't love him anymore and i don't want him back. i haven't wanted him back since shortly after we broke up. there's no hope needed or wanted. i just want to never think about him again but sometimes he pops up where i can't help it. what can ya do? thanks BF, AFOTW and MB for your thoughts.
Marshbear32 Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 i don't love him anymore and i don't want him back. i haven't wanted him back since shortly after we broke up. there's no hope needed or wanted. i just want to never think about him again but sometimes he pops up where i can't help it. what can ya do? thanks BF, AFOTW and MB for your thoughts. Life's a BIT&H!!!!!!
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