Mkn1010 Posted July 10, 2017 Posted July 10, 2017 Asking for opinions on whether to meet a guy for the first time this weekend.... A while back I deleted all of my OLD profiles and decided I'd lost all faith in it, did not like the process etc. However, I momentarily signed back into my OKC account and talked to ONE guy and we exchanged numbers before I deleted my account again, I didn't really think much of the app and wasn't expecting anything out of the number exchange tbh. But we continued chatting over the next couple of weeks, he didn't ask to meet straight away as he's never done OLD before and was apprehensive, and that suited me fine as I have no faith left in it and so was talking to him out of boredom. However, he has now asked to meet up and has noted that we get along quite well via text. The thing is, I dunno that I like the idea of meeting someone through OLD anymore so is there any point meeting him? Further, my general sense of well-being has improved exponentially since quitting OLD and I don't want to revisit that disappointing feeling of a sh*t date. A third point is that I'm going to Europe for a one month trip in a few weeks! And finally, I've never wanted to be someone's 'first' online experience, because I think it's destined for failure as it'll be too weird for him having never done it before (expectations could be outlandish etc). Any thoughts?
Dis Posted July 10, 2017 Posted July 10, 2017 Hey girl Your post made me overthink things because I was in a similar positon as you I totally relate being done with OLD. I've been done with for months but like you, I had one guy orbiting around and against my better judgement... I decided to give him a shot Do you see any red flags with this guy? If not, what will one date hurt? Keep your expectations in check, your feelings too. If this turns out to be one more disappointment then you can thank your lucky stars you're off OLDing and move on But, if this guy turns out to be great....then you'll be glad you gave him a shot! I know you're tired of the whole process....but look at it as one last chance you're giving to this avenue of dating. If this doesnt work...then you know you tried your best and you can focus on meeting people IRL I hope he turns out to be awesome! You deserve a great guy! 4
Imajerk17 Posted July 10, 2017 Posted July 10, 2017 At the end of the day @Mkn1010 he is likely just a guy doing his best to navigate this whole crazy world of dating. Just as you are. I say give him a chance and meet up with him. If you and he do connect you can say he was the very last guy you ever talked to from OLD before you gave it up forever. You were skeptical but he persisted and now here the two of you are. That would be quite a cool story of meeting too! 3
Author Mkn1010 Posted July 10, 2017 Author Posted July 10, 2017 Thanks Did, you're such a sweetheart! In relation to red flags, this is going to sound funny but literally the only negatives about this guy are that he likes a pizza chain that I hate and he seems to wear gel (another thing I don't like)! Umm yeah so the above is evidence of me finding reasons to bail because I'm so used to the cr*ppy disappointing feelings :/ I just don't want anyone to mess about with my current mood, ya know! 1
Dis Posted July 10, 2017 Posted July 10, 2017 Thanks Did, you're such a sweetheart! In relation to red flags, this is going to sound funny but literally the only negatives about this guy are that he likes a pizza chain that I hate and he seems to wear gel (another thing I don't like)! Umm yeah so the above is evidence of me finding reasons to bail because I'm so used to the cr*ppy disappointing feelings :/ I just don't want anyone to mess about with my current mood, ya know! Lmao You could always talk him out of wearing gel and going to that pizza place down the line I know what you mean, since I stopped OLDing I feel much more relaxed. Not having that constant pressure feels good... But at the same time...walking away empty handed doesnt feel good either. At least to me it doesnt Remember, you are in control of what you do and how you handle it. If he turns out to be a douche or things go south .... you will handle it like the bomb a$$ woman you are and walk away with your head held high People cant take things away from us unless we allow them to 2
Author Mkn1010 Posted July 10, 2017 Author Posted July 10, 2017 Great advice and I love your positivity 1
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