Luna_galvan Posted July 10, 2017 Posted July 10, 2017 So my bf and i have been dating for a year and two months. Within that time we have done so much. Went to concerts, gone out to places, went to festivals, traveled, been around each others family and friends. Many of our friends looked to us as "goals". However just last week he broke up with me, i had upset him and so he claimed that he cant ever make me happy anymore and he feels like he can never please me. And that i am not the person he fell in love with im just mad all the time. I do agree in a way because i would always expect him to make things better when i was upset and if he didnt i would blame him. (Very selfish of me) but i was never like this before, i have been stressed out because i was out of work for a month, then i was having family issues, money problems and so was my bf, which may have caused us to argue more. We have been broken up for a week now. He has already deleted photos off his instagram (hasn't unfollowed me though), deleted me off snapchat and unfollowed me on twitter. I tried talking to him the day after we broke up over text saying i was sorry and to not give up on us. But he refused to give in to any of my messages he said to respect his decision and what he wanted. I sent him another message later that week letting him know i was sorry and i should respect what he wants and that if he wants to talk im here. He didnt respond at all to that. He doesnt have anyone to really vent to so and realize that i didnt mean to hurt him and that i do love him. Im scared to reach out cause he still may be mad. Can anyone give me advice on what i should do, i really want us to work out.
springy Posted July 10, 2017 Posted July 10, 2017 Use this time to work on developing better coping mechanisms so you can learn to deal with stress better. At this time he does not want to talk so I'd leave him alone. If he reaches out see what he has to say - but for now respect his decision and desire for space. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 10, 2017 Posted July 10, 2017 There's not much you can do at this point but show him that you respect his choice. That will mean not contacting him for a good long while. He needs to decompress and he knows where to find you if he wishes to chat. It's hard when you feel like your partner is never happy and always agitated. I have been in his shoes and it feels like you are not enough for the other person; it's a very draining position to be in. The relationship becomes more tedious and stressful rather than a pleasure. As the above poster suggested, take this time to look into stress-management techniques. Focus on improving yourself, regardless of whether or not he comes back. 1
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