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Reunited with my ex fiance and found out he lied about having serious medical problem

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You are absolutely correct. I called him on another lie that was stupid and ridiculous. There was no reason for it.

 

He never came clean and he told me that I am just causing problems and looking for problems. So you are correct. He will not be willing to be kind and open about things that don't add up. And anytime I say anything...I am folks that I have problems.

 

If he could just be honest about what I know...he can not.

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And, do not ever co-mingle your finances. Don't give him access to your financial accounts -- password, numbers, etc. I cannot emphasize this enough. You need to protect yourself for quite a while.

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You are absolutely correct. I called him on another lie that was stupid and ridiculous. There was no reason for it.

 

He never came clean and he told me that I am just causing problems and looking for problems. So you are correct. He will not be willing to be kind and open about things that don't add up. And anytime I say anything...I am folks that I have problems.

 

If he could just be honest about what I know...he can not.

 

that I have problems. -- Gaslighting . . . you know what I'm talking about and you've observed some behaviors before all this, I'm sure, that have raised your "spidey senses" . . . reflect on the relationship over time and some things that maybe niggled at you will become clearer.

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If he could just be honest about what I know...he can not.

 

It concerns me that you continuously seem to hedge on providing some way out by saying things like...'if he would....' 'if he could just....'

 

I am telling you that there should be no consideration for reconciliation with this man. NONE. No matter how much he begs, apologizes...the very moment he started lying to you about SERIOUS life-threatening ailments to manipulate you, that should be enough to prevail upon you the nature of this man. He is BAD. Only people of insidious motivations concoct lies as serious as he has done and then take no immediate responsibility to their falsities WHILE he is trying to impress upon you to stay with him.

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Ugh I was with a guy like this once - he made a sappy story that his ex is abusing him so he has to live with me after 1 month of dating... In the next 6 months he came with all sort of unbelievable stores and I was completely, 100% supporting him.

 

After I broke up with him I realized he had a whole string of women before me that he lived off. His next ex-gf called me that she's suign him because he conned her as well... This was his way of life.

 

It all started with innocent stories about fake jobs, fake abusive exes, fake illnesses.

 

Bottomline: you have probably encountered a similar type of conartist, and if you don't run soon - you're signing yourself for a disaster. Please save yourself while you still can!

 

 

Sounds like one of those stories on Dateline or 20/20 where the guy lives a double life conning several women to marry him, and ends up emptying out their bank accounts and throwing those poor women into bankruptcy.

 

Wouldn't surprise me that he has a criminal record too.

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You are absolutely correct. I called him on another lie that was stupid and ridiculous. There was no reason for it.

 

He never came clean and he told me that I am just causing problems and looking for problems. So you are correct. He will not be willing to be kind and open about things that don't add up. And anytime I say anything...I am folks that I have problems.

 

If he could just be honest about what I know...he can not.

 

If you are waiting for him to fess up and be honest, I fear that you are going to be waiting for a long time... And how many more lies will he tell in the meantime?

 

What would it take for you to see him for the deceitful man that he is and leave? What other evidence do you need to know that this guy is bad news and walk away?

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Yeah, that's the million dollar question. What does it take?

 

He went and bought me an adorable puppy for my early bday present. From the outside, it's probably comical. A guy who lies. Who is starting to see that I am learning of his lies...buys me a puppy.

 

He is trying to keep me grounded and then at lunch leaned over and showed me the email receipt $$$$ for this expensive dog.

 

When I said "thanks a lot for making me feel bad" he said no was just showing you his name in the subject line. Whatever.

 

Bottom line, I think for most part he Has a little long reputation in community as a solid guy. He has been married twice before and in 1 other long term relationship (3) years. While he didn't take money or scam the women, he did cheat on the first one.

 

I just wish I could hate him and leaving him wouldn't hurt so bad. While we were apart I missed him terribly. Despite the drama, I went back. I believed his lies.

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Yeah, that's the million dollar question. What does it take?

 

He went and bought me an adorable puppy for my early bday present. From the outside, it's probably comical. A guy who lies. Who is starting to see that I am learning of his lies...buys me a puppy.

 

He is trying to keep me grounded and then at lunch leaned over and showed me the email receipt $$$$ for this expensive dog.

 

When I said "thanks a lot for making me feel bad" he said no was just showing you his name in the subject line. Whatever.

 

Bottom line, I think for most part he Has a little long reputation in community as a solid guy. He has been married twice before and in 1 other long term relationship (3) years. While he didn't take money or scam the women, he did cheat on the first one.

 

I just wish I could hate him and leaving him wouldn't hurt so bad. While we were apart I missed him terribly. Despite the drama, I went back. I believed his lies.

 

 

Don't you see the contradiction with just that one sentence?!

 

How will you feel when you come home and find that puppy dead, under mysterious circumstances? That's the level of malicious and cunning that this guy is.

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Yeah, that's the million dollar question. What does it take?

 

He went and bought me an adorable puppy for my early bday present. From the outside, it's probably comical. A guy who lies. Who is starting to see that I am learning of his lies...buys me a puppy.

 

He is trying to keep me grounded and then at lunch leaned over and showed me the email receipt $$$$ for this expensive dog.

 

When I said "thanks a lot for making me feel bad" he said no was just showing you his name in the subject line. Whatever.

 

Bottom line, I think for most part he Has a little long reputation in community as a solid guy. He has been married twice before and in 1 other long term relationship (3) years. While he didn't take money or scam the women, he did cheat on the first one.

 

I just wish I could hate him and leaving him wouldn't hurt so bad. While we were apart I missed him terribly. Despite the drama, I went back. I believed his lies.

 

You tell us? Because we don't get it at all...

 

You can't honestly believe that he has a long reputation in the community as a solid guy? Obviously, the community doesn't know him well.

 

And, that just makes this story even better... He has had two other failed marriages... There are at least three other women out there who have believed his crap. So, you will be ex wife #3?

 

Look, it seems like you want to throw your life away and there is not much anybody can say that is going to stop you. At the end of the day, it's your decision. Nobody here can save you from yourself. You are the only person responsible for creating a happy and healthy life so if you want to chose this dysfunction, then carry on - I wish you good luck... you are going to need it!

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I don't want this. Not at all. I just know the pain involved in being proactive and leaving him.

 

He is pretty darn good and getting a raving fan base. And it's tough because I know everyone will look at me as the problem aka the failure. He tells the world how much he has tried to do for me. Of course, I am the problem.

 

I just wish the world could know what I have learned. I want to expose this crap because I know how he will twist it and blame me for everything. And it sucks.

 

Would you just pack up and leave while he is at work? I need to get a plan. And he has so much of my life entwined in his. :(

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