stillafool Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 No like I always initiate sex when we're hanging out like he knows I had that anxiety attack because I broke out in a rash. Why do you think it's not the best idea. Like I need to get more sexual experience that's the whole reason I'm doing this! It isn't his responsibility to see that you get sexual experience. Besides experience normally comes from having sex with more than one partner as not all people have sex the same way. So don't put the burden on him. 1
stillafool Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 I mean yeah that's essentially what I want but I want it to be consistent like as in we hang out every Thursday or every other Friday like idk I just hate how I'm the only one initiating it like that gets frustrating. Then maybe get more than one FWB and let this one contact you when he wants to see you. You cannot dictate when he see's you unless he agrees upon those days and times.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 I mean yeah that's essentially what I want but I want it to be consistent like as in we hang out every Thursday or every other Friday like idk I just hate how I'm the only one initiating it like that gets frustrating. Then tell him what it is that you expect. He may or may not be interested. For what it's worth, a FWB likely isn't going to be very consistent. It's usually a much more casual arrangement, in which the pair meets up when it suits both. It will happen when it happens, and if he's not taking any initiative, he might not be all the interested in keeping it going either.
spiderowl Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 He doesn't seem all that serious about you, is treating this very casually. You are running after him so he does not have to run after you. If you want him to come looking for you, be less available. Men don't respect women who hand them sex on a plate, even if it is a mutual arrangement. If you want casual sex, then that's what you'll get and when he feels like it. If you want more from him, let him come to find you and don't always be available. He has to see you as a prize to make an effort.
guest569 Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 (edited) The fact that you left it in his court and didn't see him until you initiated something a week later would indicate that he is happy with infrequent. Whereas you would prefer to catch up weekly and regularly. I don't see anything confusing about it. It he wanted more than FWB then he would do more to impress than leave it all up to you. I agree with talking to him to figure out what page each of you are on and expectations of FWB.. or finding an additional FWB or two to keep you busy when he is not available. I don't think the difficultly you are experiencing with sexual intercourse is any cause for concern. It is hard when you get started but you said that once you get into it, it is great. I wonder if you were feeling a little nervous or if he was rushing into it. The experience of your partner can also play a role. Definitely don't think you need a doctor or any contraptions. Edited July 9, 2017 by smiley1
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