Pretensit-y Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 So I dated this guy for about 1 month, we got along so well, spent a lot of time together but then I had to move country so we ended our relationship, we didnt exactly break-up because we werent exculsive to begin with. But I felt feelings for him close to falling in love. fast forward 1 month since being apart, he was commenting on my pictures of myself, liking all my pictures, and giving the impression he still liked me, and i knew he did. I could feel he missed me despite not mentioning it. I then ended up sending him this long text telling him how much i missed him and that i thinking about him alot. He responded that he felt the same but couldnt deal with the fact that we were apart, he even said he started to prevent himself from getting into his feelings too much about me because of this situation of living away from each other.. I wish i had done the same. Anyways, I found myself in his hometwon 5 months after we split up, and we talked a lot and ended up having sex. It was so amazing, I relive those moments, he would just look at me all the time and we would stare at each other, it was beautiful) After I left, he texted me once and then left me on read midway our conversation which really made me upset. (Hes done this a few times before) When we were together, he said he was attracted to me but he made no mention of continuing our relationship, which I was bummed about but i accepted it and proceeded to focus on myself. It didnt happen that easily... Fast forward 2 months after our last meet and I have been sulking and crying over it like we just broke up. i still think about him so often, most times a day, everything reminds me of him, and my chest just hurts when I think of him. The worst part is i know hes moved on..and I question whether he even felt anything for me at all. My question is: Is he stringing me along? The reasons I ask are: 1) he pops up and he comments on my pictures out of nowhere like last 2 weeks saying i looked "stunning :love:" and screenshotted a snapchat of a selfie i took . when i confronted him bout it, he said it was by accident but then said he did it because he thought i looked "incredibly beautiful" (????) 2)hardly asks me how I am 3)only comments or tries to remind me that hes still there when he sees that I'm talking to other guys online (I get comments from other guy friends on my pictures too) 4)ignores some of my texts or leaves me on read To be fair, I dont initiate any conversations with him at all or even comment on his stuff because I want to move on, and I generally just dont initiate conversations with guys.. I am so annoyed by now because I experience so much pain when he just pops back into my life randomly, it leaves me with a glimmer with hope that he still wants me but he never fully confesses it. What should I do? I dont want to block him because honestly i find it childish.
Redhead14 Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 Is my ex stringing me along? -- Only if you continue to hold on to your end of the string. I dont want to block him because honestly i find it childish -- It's not about being childish. It's about giving yourself every opportunity to move forward with your life without him in it. It's about fully closing the door. It's about YOU and only YOU, not someone else's perception or even your perception of how that comes across. I dont want to block him -- That's because you do have some hope that things will change. i find it childish -- this is the mind's way of justifying not blocking him -- it leaves me with a glimmer with hope. 1
elaine567 Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 What is better? What should I do? I dont want to block him because honestly i find it childish. or 2 months after our last meet and I have been sulking and crying over it like we just broke up. i still think about him so often, most times a day, everything reminds me of him, and my chest just hurts when I think of him. The worst part is i know hes moved on..and I question whether he even felt anything for me at all. As long as you have contact, you will be stuck in this. Time to cut the cord. 1
Whodatdog Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 He's not stringing you along, because he's not giving you any reason to think theres a relationship there. He's commenting on FB because, well, thats what people do. If he's a friend on FB, he will comment. Just because he's liking your pictures, doesnt mean he "likes" you. You said you get comments from other guys too....do you think they "like" you too? Dont read more into it than there is. He's showing you he considers you a FB friend...and thats all.
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