Logo Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 I got a phone number from a nice lady yesterday. Not sure when to call her and setup a date. It used to be easy. Now I feel like it's complicated with all the rejections I've been getting after the breakup. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. Please don't tell me I'm not ready to date. I am. I just don't want to call too soon or call too late.
Redhead14 Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 I got a phone number from a nice lady yesterday. Not sure when to call her and setup a date. It used to be easy. Now I feel like it's complicated with all the rejections I've been getting after the breakup. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. Please don't tell me I'm not ready to date. I am. I just don't want to call too soon or call too late. Call her in a day or two and set something up. Be specific Xday, Xtime, Xplace. Don't say something like "get together sometime". Women usually wonder why a guy asks for her number and doesn't use it. If she declines, she declines. It will be what it will be. Forget about "rejections". You miss 100% of the shots you don't take . . .
angel.eyes Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 You got the number yesterday. I would have called yesterday, unless it was late at night. Second best is today. Remember you're a total stranger. The longer you wait, the more likely she is to change her mind, second guess her interest, and/or forget you. Strike while the iron is hot! Have a plan when you call--a date idea with specific activity, time, and venue--if the call is going well. 1
spiderowl Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 (edited) I gave a guy my number and he didn't call for two days. I thought he would call the next day so I was already feeling uncertain by the time he called. After that, he texted me but again there was a long gap and when I responded he didn't get back for ages. He was responding but the erratic nature of it all started to make me feel uneasy about him. Warmth, confidence and consistency matter a lot at first, they build confidence and are reassuring. You don't want to start off by making her wonder why she gave you her number, so be positive and responsive. Good luck! Edited July 8, 2017 by spiderowl
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