kendahke Posted August 3, 2017 Posted August 3, 2017 I have also noticed a girl he has just met from another social club what he teaches, keeps tagging him in posts that he always like (be never likes anything on FB) and she even took a selfie of him and her and she is now using that as her profile picture. He has not said that he like her or anything, but it's just made me feel alittle insecure. Do you think he thinks of me more than a friend and a friend's with benefits? Do you think he wants more from me? That chick is his girlfriend. You are a girl he had a fling with on vacation. This ended when the plane landed. The event in October is meaningless--he can use those tickets for her, too. Tell you what--do you have any selfies with him you took while on holiday? Post them as your profile picture and tag him. See what he says. You'll find out in short order who's who on his priority list. 2
Author Hannahhawks87 Posted August 20, 2017 Author Posted August 20, 2017 We have been friends now for almost 2 years. We both had a kind of attraction to eachother and a couple of months ago we gave into that and slept together. The first time we slept together was about 2 months ago and we have only had sex twice in the space of two months. He invites me out to see him and we go out for meals etc. He's invited me to his for him to cook me tea. He has shown me pics of him as a baby. I was the person he rung when his mum was ill. But something just doesn't feel right at the moment. I know his mums been ill. But I've noticed, he used to never been on Facebook and all of a sudden he's always on it. (He doesn't have family on FB). He's always on WhatsApp. He's also started mentioning other women (not dating but saying things like, she's might be going on holiday and I want to do that). I also noticed that yesterday he hardly spoke to me until the evening, when he message me saying about his day and where he were. He than progressed and sent me a selfie of himself that he took during the day. (When he text me it was night time). I found this every odd. Makes me wonder where else that picture went too?? I'm extremely confused by him and need good advice so I can go away and talk to him about it. Thanks in advance.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted August 20, 2017 Posted August 20, 2017 From what you have described you're just friends with benefits, so it is safe to assume that he will be pursuing other women. What you have to figure out is whether that is enough for you? Once you have figured that out, you need to tell him where you stand. 1
d0nnivain Posted August 20, 2017 Posted August 20, 2017 First of all "breadcrumbs" are the BS little messages you get from an dumper after a breakup that continue contact but don't say anything: "Hey" "How you doing?" etc. So no you are not getting breadcrumbs. What you have a is a low interest guy with a lot on his plate with his mother's illness. He's perfectly happy to bang you when you show up & do not require much effort from you. Beyond that he can't be bothered. So if you are OK being the delivery person for his take out sex on demand, carry on. If you want a proper BF who reaches out to you, plans dates & pays attention, it's unlikely that he's your guy 1
Author Hannahhawks87 Posted September 5, 2017 Author Posted September 5, 2017 We have been close friends for a while and he has always been alittle flirty with me. He bought me flowers for my birthday and pays for my meals out when we go out, just the two of us. We slept together for the first time a couple of months ago and the morning after he asked me 'what was that' 'is it just now you have tried it, now you move on'. We are part of the same social circle, so I saw him every week for about 1 month without sleeping together. We even met, just me and him for meals out and drinks. He's had some problems with his mum recently and was alittle distant for a while. We went on a weekend away with our social circle and I stayed the night with him on Thursday night and Sunday night. The Thursday night we slept together, but the Sunday night all we did was cuddle. Anyway throughout the holiday he would come and sit next to me and put his head on my lap and fall asleep in front of everyone. He would take pictures of just me and him. But I felt like he tried to make me jealous. There is a woman he knows and he said to me he doesn't like her, but she keeps messaging him and telling him he looks nice etc. When I said oh she must like you, he just said no she's being friendly. He even showed me some of the messages she sent to him. So I thought I'd get him back and started to message my guy friend (Just a friend, And I know immature) to try and make him jealous. From there he started talking to this girl on whatapp, and the couple of messages I saw, he was sending him messages like 'oh what shall we do ' with 3 kisses. After this, we had a convo and he said 'I don't have to answer to him and he doesn't have to answer to me'. He has also said it is me that doesn't want to tell anybody about us when i'm not that bothered about people finding out. Anyway after the weekend. I have noticed he hasn't been on whatsapp. He messaged me on Monday saying thank you for a great weekend and I really enjoyed spending the evenings with you. He even rang me up on Monday night, just to check how I am. But the convo felt slightly forced and I haven't heard from him today.
d0nnivain Posted September 5, 2017 Posted September 5, 2017 This is the 3rd time you have asked basically the same Q about the same guy. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/632710-do-you-think-hes-breadcrumbs-get-me-stringing-me-along http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/631512-he-interested-having-relationship-me-we-just-friends-benefi At some point you have to stop asking us & start asking him what you two are going. Also stop playing games. You acknowledged that your behavior was immature. Take the bull by the horns already & tell him you want a proper relationship & that the benefits are stopping. Unless you are OK with just being FWB, in which case you are both free to talk to or have sex with anybody else. Seriously, though. Figure out what you want & tell him. If he doesn't want the same thing, move on.
Author Hannahhawks87 Posted September 14, 2017 Author Posted September 14, 2017 I know he only met her about 2 months ago.* When we were driving to a destination he said to me this girl keep messaging him, telling him he looks nice etc, he asked me what I thought about it and I told him she clearly likes him. To his response he said how do we know she could just being friendly. Anyway he showed me a couple of texts on what they spoke about and he gave her 3 kisses (same as me). He even went on to called her a stalker everytime she text him, which he replied too. I asked him if he liked her and he said no definitely not his words 'shes not my type'. But I don't know own if he's lying to me.* Anyway a couple more weeks went by and I've noticed he's been on Facebook at lot more. (He never use to use Facebook) and this is what they chat on. I saw him after he fixed my car for me and he showed me some messages again from her and there was 7 unreplied messages from her, and he said again my stalker. I asked him one day 'how is your new girlfriend' joking and he replied with what girlfriend and I said you know who and he said to me, your doing that girly thing again. (Acting like she's competition) He has even said to me he's invited her places and when I do something he doesn't approve of he says so and so wouldn't do that to me I'll have to call her! What is he playing at?* Is he trying to make me jealous and wind me up, or do you think he actually likes her? He has also told me he is a rubbish texter. Sometimes I it get a couple of texts a day (which I'm okay with) but I talk to him on whatapp and sometimes he'll ignore WhatsApp and go straight to messenger. He has also told me see has a pretty face and is a lovely girl with a good personality
act00 Posted September 14, 2017 Posted September 14, 2017 Sorry, but this little joking thing would not sit well with me. If he's not interested, he would either tell her so, or just ignore. If he's just messing with her, he's not a good guy. He's messing with YOU if he feels he has to show you his texts to her and the kissies and what-not...why is he texting her? She's clearly into him! He invites her places when you go and do something he doesn't approve of?? Dear, it's time to let this one go. I can't say if he genuinely likes her, but he sure loves toying with you and her. He's actively engaging with her and inviting her out, then mentioning her to you and showing you his texts. No. Just no. He wouldn't be flirting or texting if he wasn't interested, or he just gets a thrill out of this little game and attention he gets. He's not a healthy relationship. He is trying to invoke jealousy and insecurity out of you. Tell him he can have her. End contact. 1
stillafool Posted September 14, 2017 Posted September 14, 2017 I agree. He loves the attention he is getting from the other girl. This is inappropriate and he should have told her by now he's in a relationship and to stop texting him. Don't put up with this crap.
sandylee1 Posted September 14, 2017 Posted September 14, 2017 It's all far too childish to be honest. I couldn't be dealing with that nonsense. 1
smackie9 Posted September 14, 2017 Posted September 14, 2017 Fail.....what he is doing is pure crap-o-la. Dump this chump. **manipulation is a sick game.
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