FastHands Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 Thick as in keeping in focus. Getting the nerve to approach even though she looks taken (not married of course) and handling the no. I know we are dealing with ones own emotions. I truly beleive that once you mAster your emotions, you can reach a new level. 2
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 Dating is a numbers game. You need to interact with a lot of people to find somebody to date. Approach everyone, not necessarily for a date but for the practice of breaking the ice. Plus you never know who knows somebody who may be good or you. Say you see a woman, but you don't know if she's taken. You fancy her. Say hi anyway. In a few minutes her hot single friend may come over. That initial contact is a victory if you get a smile & a few sentences of chat. 2
Gaeta Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 It's a little bit like breaking a new pair of shoes. It hurts at first but you've got to stick to it and eventually it hurts less and less. 2
Art_Critic Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 I always felt that thicker skin comes partly from believing you are someone special and having good self esteem. It's nothing more than the ability to move on, take your lumps and not let it bother you. When I was single and dating I felt like if someone blew me off without getting to know me then it was truly their loss and not mine. I felt like I had lots to offer or bring to the table in a relationship and if they didn't want it, who cares as I was happy with who I was and was trying to find my mate... so they weren't it.. no biggie... 2
Chilli Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 Yeah , great attitude , l use to mostly be the same, especially in a nice casual sitch like parties or pubs. Although as l was just sayin in another post . ln a more of an actually having to ask out situation, it was a fair bit different and l'd really have to pluck up some courage, very nerve racking haha..
gaius Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 Even though it feels deeply personal to a lot of people, to be accepted or rejected, it's really not. You do have to develop some skills/traits that are valuable to potential partners but once you do it all comes down to whether you vibe or not. I know when Timshel and I started talking there was this fierce, fiery chemistry I couldn't really explain but once I grew to know her better it was obvious we had a lot of shared experiences growing up and in life in general. We just vibed. And whether you do or not, or the other person responds to you or not really isn't personal. So don't take it that way. 1
coolheadal Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 Thick as in keeping in focus. Getting the nerve to approach even though she looks taken (not married of course) and handling the no. I know we are dealing with ones own emotions. I truly beleive that once you mAster your emotions, you can reach a new level. Having a healthy ego tends to lead to confidence. You don't want to be weak when you date someone for the first time. Smile and take charge. But have fun... 1
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