Update on an old thread.

[OgreBattle73]

Hi Folks,

I am not sure if any of you will remember me, or my 'case' so here's a link if anyone is interested.

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/infidelity/567127-feel-i-m-limbo-since-discovery

 

I sort of just disappeared and never updated you lot as to the outcome of my situation.

Well, I know it's a year and a half later but I never forgot the advice that you were kind enough to offer me here and I always felt bad about not properly thanking anybody.

 

I went a bit off the rails after those revelations. I had a nervous breakdown which I am only now beginning to recover from. My mum also died 8 months afterwards, which really pushed me over the edge.

Needless to say I am no longer with my wife. I still love her and I am still in pain every day over the failure of our marriage but it couldn't continue. She is in a new relationship and I am 20 kilos heavier than I was, without the job I'd had for 8 years and with no wife or family left.

I began my road to recovery six months ago and despite the difficulties I think I am going somewhere. I am on a weight loss programme now and see a good psychiatrist every week. I've even made some new friends who are very supportive.

 

Thank you to everyone here who was kind to me during a horrible period of my life. I never forgot it.

:-)

[GorillaTheater]

I'm sorry about your mother and other troubles, OB, but glad to hear that you're on the road back.

[BTDT2012]

My condolences on the loss of your mom. I hope your life continues to improve.

[WilyWill]

I remember your story. Your wife's behavior was reprehensible. And she "couldn't remember" things that were so meaningful to her that she took the time to journal them. I'm glad she's in your rear-view mirror. She may be in a relationship at the moment, but let's be honest: she's not capable of real relationships.

 

There are a million women who will love you, cherish you, and give you the kind of attention your wife gave to escorts. Go find one, then come back after a while and tell us how happy you are.

[hammyy2k]

condolences for your mother's loss, and good luck on your recovery, forget your ex wife and concentrate on your well being and getting your life back

[BetrayedH]

Lots of us have been there, bud. You're not alone in losing your marbles a bit.

 

I lost 40lbs and more sleep than I could calculate. I eventually put all the weight back on (and an extra 10 lbs).

 

I also lost my job the same week my divorce finalized and my grandmother died, for whom I was health care surrogate, had power of attorney, executor of her will, and so on. We were close. It was a very rough period in my life, to say the least.

 

But it did pass. I'd say I was more or less fully recovered about two years post-divorce, which I've found is about the norm for those of us that really had all of our eggs in one basket.

 

When you hit rock bottom, there's nowhere to go but up. Glad to hear you're on that path.