allina Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 Ok I was hoping I could get people to share their experiances when it comes to getting back together with an ex. Anyone ever break up w/ current partner then get back together? Does it happen often and work out? Do a lot of couples go through this? I know this is vague but I'm curious and confused, thanks
TUDOR Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 Depends on how long you have been apart, how you left things when you split up or why you split. I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years and got back together a few months later and wound up getting married. So it does happen.
Author allina Posted August 7, 2005 Author Posted August 7, 2005 TUDOR, may I ask why you broke up? How it ended up working out and how things were when you guys were apart. As you probably guessed I am going through a breakup. I broke up w/ my bf of a year and a half because the relationship got weird and I felt unloved. we broke up on very good terms, I love you's and all, this was 2 weeks ago. He hasnt tried to contact me much, says it's hard and he needs time. I'm hurt and confused. We broke up with some hopes for the future. I guess I just need to hear about people's experiances
TUDOR Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 Long story short the relationship was getting very serious and I saw marriage as a very real possibility. This scared the hell out of me because I have been married and divorced before and got my heart broke so I wasn't ready to go down that road again. It wasn't that I didn't love her or want to be with her. But plain and simple I got scared and ran! Eventually I realized not having her in my life sucked and that facing my fears had to be better than my life with out her in it. But I had to do what I did to be able to let go of my past and move on with my future. Everyone has their own way of dealing with things and some times that means walking away from it to see it from a different view point. Give you guy some time to figure out what his life is like with out you in it and maybe it will be back. But don't wreck your brain till then waiting for it to happen.
Author allina Posted August 7, 2005 Author Posted August 7, 2005 thank you so much for sharing, it's weird for me because we both love eachother but somehow things missed with us which lead to the breakup, no one did anything wrong but no one knew how to make it right. It may be because we are young (earlyish 20s) but his wanting "time and space" to deal confused me, and I'm doing my own thing and all but I'm stuck inbetween not wanting to hope for nothing and not wanting to give up too easy.
TUDOR Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 well being in a serious relationship at that age can be scary because some start having thoughts that these are the prime years for them and do they really want to be tied down right now, etc. I'll be honest I dated when we were seperated and explored to see if there was greener grass I might be missing. But there wasn't and I found myself realizing exactly what I had giving up. But I would suggest you both see what is out there and have fun with this stage in your life. If you both find that the best was when you were together then you will find your way back to one another.
Bethiepooh Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 My story is quite different, but will be a success, I can assure you. All I can say is don't give up. You never know when they will just "randomly call you, drop by, etc." It took my ex 1.5 years to contact me again. Through that time (and still), I was/am so madly in love with him that I can't even begin to describe it. I was 24 when we first dated and I am now 26. We broke up b/c I was emotionally abused by my mother and needed to fix that issue before I needed a relationship and we both agreed on that. Now, almost 2 years later, I have every bit of faith that we will get back together. The only problem is that he got himself into a horrible marriage. We are currently only talking on the phone and about nothing serious. Nothing has been brought up at all, we just talk as friends and it is wonderful. But, it also sucks for me b/c I can't express to him how I truly feel and he can't do the same. I know that he still loves me - many things have given that away. We have just agreed it's best (within ourselves) that things are better how they are now. As horrible as this is, I can't wait for this trial of his to be over. We both dated and saw others throughout the time apart and we have both learned MANY MANY valuable lessons. That makes me love him even more and that love grows every day. And, drives me crazy! Not sure why he married such an idiot, but that's what people get when they are "softies" I guess. Good luck and don't lose the faith if you truly love him. If it's meant to be, it will definitely be, I have all the confidence in the world in that.
ConfusedInOC Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 Originally posted by allina Ok I was hoping I could get people to share their experiances when it comes to getting back together with an ex. Anyone ever break up w/ current partner then get back together? Does it happen often and work out? Do a lot of couples go through this? I know this is vague but I'm curious and confused, thanks Look for a post by UNIVERSE called "Love is a station, not a destination" That will give you a good example of how to do it.
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