Popsicle Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 Wow really how could that be? Oh you were still loved by him or him by you? We had kids together and it was not love, it was fear. I am since over that though.
Art_Critic Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 Since he is still legally married it sounds to me this falls into the not wanting to rock the boat till the divorce is final. Getting divorced is emotional and the outcome can be effected by both parties emotional response to the divorce and since their is a mandatory separation period then both partied are probably better off by not having the get eff'd outlook. I think in this case how he acts towards you and if you feel he is telling the truth should rule...then see what happens when the divorce goes thru.. and if you see him still attached and wanting to go back to her or even participating on FB stuff she posts then run.
act00 Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 All things aside, you are in a precarious position as a rebound. Even without the numerous red flags, to be the first to date someone so newly out of a long-term commitment, you're more likely than not going to be the transition girlfriend or rebound relationship. That alone should have had you either accepting to date but not expect it to last, or declining to date until he has been officially divorced for a year or more. If this guy was ready to divorce and wanted to (whether or not he initiated), then dating while legally separated wouldn't be as major a red flag, but it's still during that first year after a split where new relationships are more likely to fail. This guy sounds like he is still in love with his ex-wife. He hoped things would change back and they'd work it out, but she officially ended it. His emotional state hasn't quite accepted the fact that it's over. His behaviors still lean more in direction of his relationship with his ex and not his current partner. I'm guessing the tattoo would be slightly less bothersome if you weren't so insecure about the relationship. Tattoos are a bit permanent. Surely at some point he'll hopefully look at removing it or changing the design, but he's not there yet. You've only been dating two months, and you're expecting a lot out of a new relationship that is still in the honeymoon phase, though it looks like for you, the phase is ending. This is when all the new and hot starts to run out, and the real personalities start to emerge, and you determine if this is something you can continue. Clearly you're recognizing issues that you cannot deal with long-term. He's not in a place to be serious yet, until he lets go. 1
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