jen_jen_heartbroken Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 Okay, it's been about 5 years since my divorce, but I ran into my ex-husband today, and GODDA**, I couldn't help it.....I wanted him. ....and he was heavier with a goatee....what on earth was going on in my brain? What the hell is wrong with me? We were married for almost nine years....and I think somehow I am still longing for him. Oh good Lord, I am so screwed up.
ConfusedInOC Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 Originally posted by jen_jen_heartbroken Okay, it's been about 5 years since my divorce, but I ran into my ex-husband today, and GODDA**, I couldn't help it.....I wanted him. ....and he was heavier with a goatee....what on earth was going on in my brain? What the hell is wrong with me? We were married for almost nine years....and I think somehow I am still longing for him. Oh good Lord, I am so screwed up. I can't imagine how that would feel. I can only sympathize and say I hope you find someone better.
TUDOR Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 This is something I fear will come to pass at some point. I too am 5 yrs divorced and I haven't seen my ex-wife since then. We both live in the same metroplex still and all though it is a big city there is still a big chance it could happen. We are both remarried now and happy but I'm still not sure how I will react when and if it happens. Did you talk to him or just see him? If so tell us more about that. I have no clue what I would say to my ex if I saw her other than the hi, long time no see!
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted August 7, 2005 Author Posted August 7, 2005 Ugh! I'm convinced that it had to do with the fact that we had an AWESOME sex life......something that no matter how many men I've been with in the meantime, will measure up to. I don't care what people say.....married sex is soooo much better...at least in my experience it was. Anywho....I ran into him at a church fair....the same one we were married at. And of course his "new" wife was there....the one he left me for. The most positive statement I can make about her is it's like looking at Miss Piggy......she has a pig face and she's about 300 pounds. Ick. All his friends say that he traded in a Cadillac for a beat up chevy....that's the best analogy I can use. I said "Hi *****, how you doing?" And he said that he was good and still in school. 32 and still in school. Okay. Well, whatever. All I know, is my girlfriend who was with me said that he was gawking at me, because D@MN I look so hot. She's sweet. But I did notice that there was some sort of lascivious look in his eyes. Hee hee. Good....maybe he'll think of me tonight while he's f'ing her!
TUDOR Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 Sounds like you get the last laugh! If she is as "piggy" as you describe I have no doubt he will be seeing when he closes his eyes to climb on top of the.....well less than perfect looking wife. Cheers to making them think of better days!!!
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted August 7, 2005 Author Posted August 7, 2005 Tudor... Thanks babe for confirming what I thought! Hee hee hee....oh what a short, flirty skirt and a skimpy shirt will do to the male psyche! Ugh, but what the hell do I do with these images in my head of him? All I can think about now is how hot we were together. And I have a perfectly wonderful boyfriend who is d@mn good in sack. My mind is so twisted.
TUDOR Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 Originally posted by jen_jen_heartbroken Tudor... Thanks babe for confirming what I thought! Hee hee hee....oh what a short, flirty skirt and a skimpy shirt will do to the male psyche! Ugh, but what the hell do I do with these images in my head of him? All I can think about now is how hot we were together. And I have a perfectly wonderful boyfriend who is d@mn good in sack. My mind is so twisted. Well you can always save them for private play time by your self. You wouldn't be the first to think of some one other than your current man to get your self off. I would say try to teach your current b/f some of what made it so great with the ex but I know all too well that you can't teach sexualy chemistry. You either have it or you don't and when you loose it, man does it suck!
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted August 7, 2005 Author Posted August 7, 2005 Nah, it's not like that. I have a great sex life with my new guy. I think it's just that I really long for the familiarity of the past. I suppose that will come with time with this new one. But I honestly hold the opinion that married sex is so much better, and really gets best at about year three or four.....not sure why, but that's just my thoughts on the matter.
TUDOR Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 Well than thank you for making me look forward to year 3 or 4 because I am only at year one! Taking a trip done memory lane will happen from time to time though so don't feel bad about, it happens to the best of us! At this stage of the game I have to admit that I don't share the same opinion on married sex being the best. My best did not happen in marriage but then again I haven't hit year 3 or 4 yet so I will get back to you on that one.
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted August 7, 2005 Author Posted August 7, 2005 Tudor, what you have to understand is that by year three or four you have complete knowledge of exactly what your partner needs/wants.....and then you start looking for ways to "shake things up" a bit. You know....add a bit of spice here and there, and well, it's nothing short of fireworks because it just works so d@mn well.
ImWeirdToo Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 There is nothing wrong with thinking or fantasizing about something. I think it is only normal to do so. I cannot recall how many times I have thought about murdering someone, but I have never done that of course. I think we all need to recognize our human weirdness, and just keep our weird thoughts as just that. P.S. You sound like a really sweet person
NYCmitch25 Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 Originally posted by jen_jen_heartbroken Okay, it's been about 5 years since my divorce, but I ran into my ex-husband today, and GODDA**, I couldn't help it.....I wanted him. ....and he was heavier with a goatee....what on earth was going on in my brain? What the hell is wrong with me? We were married for almost nine years....and I think somehow I am still longing for him. Oh good Lord, I am so screwed up. he he it's perfectly natural. However, do you think maybe since he left you, you have that extra desire to resolve things? Or do you think it was just all natural lust? Anyway, what was so great about the sex life? any tips ? lol
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