foxgloves Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 (edited) Sorry, I wrote a long entry and decided I just couldn't do it. For some reason, it just feels disrespectful to disclose intimate details of a personal relationship. Even if it is coming to an end. Edited July 7, 2017 by foxgloves
Author foxgloves Posted July 7, 2017 Author Posted July 7, 2017 *this is what I was trying to reedit but ran out of time* Sorry, I wrote a long entry and decided I just couldn't do it. For some reason, it just feels disrespectful to disclose intimate details of a personal relationship. Even if it is coming to an end. I always think of how it would make him feel if he knew it was on a public forum. Maybe that is why it is so hard to break up. There is a persistent sense of concern for the significant other. What will that person think? How will he feel? Even if I feel I need to vent, for my own sanity. I feel like I have betrayed a trust. Will my partner be able to find someone who can tolerate all that I have? Maybe he will be different in his next relationship. Maybe he will be more compatible with his next partner. Is it common to feel this way?
Violetstar Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 You're overthinking things. Most of this is anonymous. Most of us are here to vent because we're confused and in pain. You know the relationship is at it's end. You're in pain. But you're afraid of whats going to happen in the future to the both of you. It's better to rip off the band aid. Try not to look back or concern yourself too much with his pain. Do what's best for you. Do what's going to make YOU happy. it's easier said than done because I'm doing the complete opposite. I think you know what's going to happen. But you're overthinking it. And you're concerning yourself with HIS needs, HIS feelings, HIS worries. If something isn't right. And you know that it's coming to an end.... Well maybe you need to starting thinking about YOUR needs. YOUR feelings. YOUR worries.
Violetstar Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 Oh and it's more than common. I do the same. I'm worried about their pain. How they will feel. What they would think if they knew who I was telling our issues with. But i wish I didn't.
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