travelgirl3 Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 I met a guy on a dating app about a week ago. We went and watched the fireworks together and I stayed over at his place because we both didn't want the conversation to end. At first I thought he wanted to hook-up but he said he respected me and he didn't want to do that so soon. He said he hoped I thought he was different from other guys. We had such amazing chemistry. He even wanted to give me a Fitbit that he hasn't used which I thought was a little much. I left in the morning and he texted me after making sure I got home ok and he said he hoped I had a good time. He then texted me last night but I was asleep. I said good morning to him and he hasn't responded. Maybe he's just busy and I'm overreacting. I feel like if he was really interested he would at least say something though, right.
coolheadal Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 I met a guy on a dating app about a week ago. We went and watched the fireworks together and I stayed over at his place because we both didn't want the conversation to end. At first I thought he wanted to hook-up but he said he respected me and he didn't want to do that so soon. He said he hoped I thought he was different from other guys. We had such amazing chemistry. He even wanted to give me a Fitbit that he hasn't used which I thought was a little much. I left in the morning and he texted me after making sure I got home ok and he said he hoped I had a good time. He then texted me last night but I was asleep. I said good morning to him and he hasn't responded. Maybe he's just busy and I'm overreacting. I feel like if he was really interested he would at least say something though, right. Correct my dear! But you need to move on and find another guy. App dates are merely hook-ups and casual dating for sex. You didn't have sex so it was just like normal date. He has other ideas and I am sure he has other girls lined up on his phone app! Well you see what happens, now date no#2 for you! Good luck and try not to be played by any Date App Guy you meetup with for a hook-up or not one.. Not really a good choice to met relationship type men if that's what your mail goal is? 1
single8259 Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 Correct my dear! But you need to move on and find another guy. App dates are merely hook-ups and casual dating for sex. You didn't have sex so it was just like normal date. He has other ideas and I am sure he has other girls lined up on his phone app! Well you see what happens, now date no#2 for you! Good luck and try not to be played by any Date App Guy you meetup with for a hook-up or not one.. Not really a good choice to met relationship type men if that's what your mail goal is? Please don't listen to this guy. I've had two serious relationships and have met a ton of great guys off OkCupid. Sounds like he's a great guy and you two had an awesome date. I do think he's just busy and you're overreacting (if the text is just from this morning and not from a week ago). I do the same thing all the time. I hate the waiting game but you don't want to text him too much and overwhelm him. Try to be patient and focus on yourself until he responds. It sounds promising but sometimes things don't work how we'd like them to. If it doesn't, don't worry because there will always be more great dates. Congrats on a great date and meeting a guy that wants to get to know you first. 3
basil67 Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 The date sounded like it went well. As it's been less than a day, give him time. He could be sleeping in. Or perhaps he got up and went exercising early.
Violetstar Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 Don't text him again! The ball is in his court. I've met tons of amazing guys off POF. IT's ironic because I've heard of disastrous dates with nasty pigs from that site. But my guys were always so sweet. Anyway, there was this one really nice guy who would sometimes take a day or two to respond. He lead a really busy life but was honest about it all. And I was pretty busy with work and school so we always got back to each other but at different and random times. Give him time girl, he'll get you back! If not, then forget him. There's plenty of fish out there!
Erik30 Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 I think it's way too early to be worried about this, it hasn't even been a day. Put down your phone, and keep yourself busy. His loss if he doesn't text you back 1
Miss Spider Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 (edited) Listen to your gut. If you make a post on here, your alarm bells are going off. He has other priorities, which is normal. It's been one date. If he's not responding to you after a great date I gotta say I don't think he's really that focused on you at the moment. Have people here really had a guy who was serious about them, really into them, not respond after a great date? That's strange. I haven't. I can see this being the case if he's multidating and you're on his backburner or he's not interested. Gotta agree with al. Edit: also I find his comment "I don't want to hookup with you too soon because I respect you" to be a bit of a red flag. I don't know the context, but if you brought up how you think he just wants to hook up and he said that's not it at all" I'd understand, but saying it's not that he doesn't want to but because it's not respectable? *side eye* Edited July 7, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
Gaeta Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 Give him time, people have lives to attend to. If he doesn't get back to you then you lost nothing, you just had 1 date and this man is nothing to you. One word of advice. When you meet someone and you hit it off and the chemistry is off the chart you STILL need to go home at night!! Even if you don't feel like it, even if you don't want the conversation to end, you still break the date and go your seperate ways, EVEN if he insists, the man will just respect you more for it. It's also a way of not investing yourself too much too fast. Also, a man that invites you over to his place on a 1st date is looking to hook-up no matter how many times he tells you he's not! A man that is interested in dating you would be too afraid to make a bad impression by inviting you to spend the night. Most women would see such invitation as an invitation to hook-up, even you thought it was an invitation to hook-up! but you didn't listen to your instinct and decided to listen and beleive a stranger. 3
Redhead14 Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 I met a guy on a dating app about a week ago. We went and watched the fireworks together and I stayed over at his place because we both didn't want the conversation to end. At first I thought he wanted to hook-up but he said he respected me and he didn't want to do that so soon. He said he hoped I thought he was different from other guys. We had such amazing chemistry. He even wanted to give me a Fitbit that he hasn't used which I thought was a little much. I left in the morning and he texted me after making sure I got home ok and he said he hoped I had a good time. He then texted me last night but I was asleep. I said good morning to him and he hasn't responded. Maybe he's just busy and I'm overreacting. I feel like if he was really interested he would at least say something though, right. At first I thought he wanted to hook-up but he said he respected me and he didn't want to do that so soon. -- Did you get intimate anyway?
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