Dis Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 You're right, I missed the last sentence:) For the VS push-ups, which ones would you suggest? My ex will always whine for the Very Sexy series (I never tried the really padded ones like the Bombshell series,... but he'd still complain so I switched to Lightly lined VSs for him...) I think Tetrahedral meant men do not notice make up details which I agree. Kim K wears hell of a contour, highlight etc, but I've heard men referring to her make-up as light and natural Scarlet J make up, albeit not natural, is not that heavy but men notice she wears it for her red lips, not the rest. I feel like men note prominent features + shape and very little detail... Oh def! Contouring and highlighting may not be good idea here...or ever. IMO, it distorts the whole shape of the face so when the OP takes her makeup off the guy wouldnt recognize her. I stay away from overdone make up looks for that reason and just because they're too high maintanence What I mean about Scarlett Jo etc is....when women put in a little more effort than the majority of the female population...it really does make a difference. This is going to sound so misogynistic but from some male's point of views....its true....Long gone are the days when women dressed truly feminine and and put concerted effort into their looks. So when a woman does so...it knocks a guy off his chair which is always super fun! I'm not saying the OP has to dress to the 9's every day but I think people in general..not just men...appreciate things like this VS! Oh how I love VS! I usually go for 'Very Sexy' or 'Bombshell'. The problem with bombshell is their bras only go up to DD I believe? At 34DDD I refused to be rejected so I squeezed into a few Their 'Very Sexy' line is not your T shirt bra kind of line. Its lace, black, nude, mesh, push up, rhinestones....omg its amazing!!! VS's limited edition panties are great too. I have one cheeky panty thats made out of straps. Its really unique and suprisingly comfortable! 1
Dis Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 I'm wondering what kind of shoes will men like for a date? Heels is the obvious choice but it doesn't really fit op's style. Flat strappy sandals? Wedges? Some brighter color low heeled accent shoes? If she goes for heels though they can lift up jeans/top outfit to sufficiently dressy. I'm thinking wedges may as well but I never asked guys how they feel about wedges. I would like to hear the men's opinion on this too I'm liking the idea of wedges for OP 1
Dis Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 Hahaha! I'm cracking up, especially because the look on my face when I read "push up bra" was like "no freaking way!" (OP, unless you need the extra "uumph" I'd save that for the bedroom ) Hahaha! Any woman can benefit from a push up bra in my opinion I dont wear them for an extra umph. I wear than because they look damn good
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 Hahaha! Any woman can benefit from a push up bra in my opinion I dont wear them for an extra umph. I wear than because they look damn good If I wore a push-up bra, I'd probably look like I was hoping to float away! I do support (no pun intended) womens' desires/need for them though . I've never owned one in my life. Might be helpful at a picnic, though, if I found myself in a lawn chair needing a place to put my plate! 1
preraph Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 I heard something once, probably on TV that put it into perspective for me and that is that even though guys mainly dress boring, they are not looking for someone who is just like them or buddy-like. They like the difference between men and women perhaps more than women like the difference between men and women. They like a colorful outfit and appreciate the contrast. Even though some of them even make fun of some of the girly stuff we wear from time to time, they like it. 3
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 I heard something once, probably on TV that put it into perspective for me and that is that even though guys mainly dress boring, they are not looking for someone who is just like them or buddy-like. They like the difference between men and women perhaps more than women like the difference between men and women. They like a colorful outfit and appreciate the contrast. Even though some of them even make fun of some of the girly stuff we wear from time to time, they like it. I agree and it makes sense to me! 1
Dis Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 If I wore a push-up bra, I'd probably look like I was hoping to float away! I do support (no pun intended) womens' desires/need for them though . I've never owned one in my life. Might be helpful at a picnic, though, if I found myself in a lawn chair needing a place to put my plate! Lmao! This cracked me up! 1
Chilli Posted July 7, 2017 Posted July 7, 2017 funny, you downtime stuff would suit me just fine. love that look. l know couldn't expect it on a date l guess but the more casual her gear the more l like.
Author mortensorchid Posted July 8, 2017 Author Posted July 8, 2017 To update I AM going out this weekend with him. Wardrobe? TBA but taking all comments to heart. Thanks for the insights. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 To update I AM going out this weekend with him. Wardrobe? TBA but taking all comments to heart. Thanks for the insights. Hope it goes GREAT! 1
greymatter Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 I never wear dresses so would never in a million years wear a dress on a first date. It would make me extremely uncomfortable to do so, because it is so "not me." I do go out of my way to look nice. My hair will be freshly washed and styled, makeup for me is very natural looking (me but better) because that is my everyday look, clothing is well put together and polished. I would never wear a revealing top (such as shirts with shoulder cutouts) because 1) I don't like that style and 2) it seems sexually suggestive to me, not my goal when I'm connecting with a date for the first time. I would typically wear very dark or black jeans, ankle boots, and a blouse, and in the colder months accessorize with a nice coat. But never would I wear things that I have to explain to a date as not being reflective of who I am. I try to look my very best and my most attractive, but never resort to styles that are not me, that just doesn't make any sense to me at all. Look your best but be yourself.
Bastile Posted July 8, 2017 Posted July 8, 2017 Jeans can work well - especially when having a great arse, it accentuates it. Jeans and leather jackets have been "the look" for girls in England over the last year or so. It's quite feminine and cute, because it's like a girly girl's version of punk rock The problem in the OP is that the idea of hoodie around the waste and all that... sound like a 13 year old version of me. When a woman turns up to a date obviously not making any effort, it takes the wind right out of my sails. I reckon it's best to think long-term. Do something that improves your general appearance for this date (even if it's something as small as doing your nails - which is nice), then make that your standard going forward. Then add something else on the next date, and on and on.
K.K. Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 Was your date tonight? How did it go? What did you wear?
phineas Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 mesh tank-top so you can show off your nipple piercings. what? It's what i wear for first dates. 3
Chilli Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 mesh tank-top so you can show off your nipple piercings. what? It's what i wear for first dates. fk me , pick you up at 7 3
Author mortensorchid Posted July 9, 2017 Author Posted July 9, 2017 So last night I had a dinner date with someone from my last thread created. I had settled on wardrobe and looked better than usual, actually put make up on for it and all when I usually don't bother with it. I looked good. So I met him at the designated meeting place (a restaurant). He seemed to be a good guy, not full of himself or angry or a loser (on the surface that is). He's 48, divorced, one child who lives in Florida - about to become a grandfather in a few weeks/months. We had a good time chatting about stuff - he didn't make any blatant sexual remarks, seemed pretty together based on what he did (works as a quality controller for a manufacturing plant), etc. We ended the evening with him walking me to my car in the parking garage nearby. When we got to my car we said our good-byes, no hand shake or hug but just a pleasant good-bye. He asked to extend the evening maybe going to a movie nearby, but I said I was going to go Lyft driving that night (and I did). He sent a few text messages while I was out driving they went like this: Him: "Thanks (my name) for the great dinner conversation and your time. My favorite band is (name)." Me: "Thanks I had a good time as well. My favorite band is .. A long story for another day." Him: "I'm watching Winter Soldier ha ha ha" (After he had driven home and was watching Netflix. We had talked about Marvel vs. DC movies.) After that I did not respond to him again since I was driving. Then today I went kayaking (I posted on Facebook about it and we are now Facebook friends so he can see it if he wants to) and went I returned I send him a text about an hour ago saying : "I have friends who are/were film extras and they were in a few scenes that were shot at (location) which I recognize in that movie." Nothing since... Thoughts? Feelings? One time someone sent me a text after a get together and he said "I had a good time last night." I texted back "Thanks I did as well." And never heard from him again. Not to say that this will be the same but ... Does it seem to be?
act00 Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 It seems you two hit it off, and you had a nice evening with a lot in common, so I guess at this point, if he doesn't respond, you'll just be left wondering what went wrong or what happened, and join the ranks of hundreds of other people who don't get any more communication and don't know why. Was driving voluntary or necessary? If voluntary, why not extend the night if you enjoyed his company? Having "other things to do" after a date can be a turn-off and let down, but obviously, sometimes we have to make time when there's time, especially when trying to keep up the momentum when you meet someone new. Having "something else to do" can also be an excuse to escape a bad date, so maybe his feet have gotten a little cold with this experience while he wonders about your intentions. I think you've been clear, so I don't know. I would be totally lost on his feelings if I didn't get a hug and a kiss. Did you get any affection at all? Are you more comfortable with no touchy-feely at first? We're all different on the affection/touching/kissing on a first date, so I'm just inquiring. The level of communication varies, and as I'm sure you've seen a hundred times over on this board, people worry about texting too much, too soon, look needy, look desperate, etc., and maybe he's waiting to respond. There are many who just don't text or call and communicate that often. Maybe he's not interested or found someone else. No one knows. I would probably send one more text in a day or so, just to make myself feel better that I reached out, and if continued silence? Sorry. He's not interested. Don't bother further. Myself, I wouldn't unfriend him right away, but would eventually, but you pick according to your comfort zone.
Author mortensorchid Posted July 9, 2017 Author Posted July 9, 2017 Well this is odd - I posted on something on Facebook (as he and I are now Facebook friends) and he commented. The post was this (on my wall): Having a look see at AFV (America's Funniest Videos) - remember when it used to be called America's Funniest Home Videos officially. Hard to imagine the quaint world we lived in when we were catching said things only on camcorders about the size of two shoeboxes. Of course it's still the same stuff (football in the groin, man setting himself on fire, baby with a nail gun, etc.). Friend replied : If you have Hulu I would recommend (show) Him: Right! And ... Now what?
Dis Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 Well this is odd - I posted on something on Facebook (as he and I are now Facebook friends) and he commented. The post was this (on my wall): Having a look see at AFV (America's Funniest Videos) - remember when it used to be called America's Funniest Home Videos officially. Hard to imagine the quaint world we lived in when we were catching said things only on camcorders about the size of two shoeboxes. Of course it's still the same stuff (football in the groin, man setting himself on fire, baby with a nail gun, etc.). Friend replied : If you have Hulu I would recommend (show) Him: Right! And ... Now what? Was this after you sent the last text?
Author mortensorchid Posted July 9, 2017 Author Posted July 9, 2017 Was this after you sent the last text? Yes. Last text was sent 3 hours ago approximately.
Dis Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 Yes. Last text was sent 3 hours ago approximately. Ehhh.... Either he didnt get your text (not likely) Or he did but for some off reason thought it wasnt a bad idea to post on your wall even though he didnt text back But either way...it would be a really good idea to stop stressing. I hate the saying, 'it'll be what it'll be' but its true. You dont have control over the outcome of this first date You've met him once...he's not worth stressing over Let this go and see what happens. If things continue like this, then drop him. His loss
Ami1uwant Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 first thing---dont be facebook friends with someone you just dated. On the date---give him a chance you give you a response to your text. As others have said....its not usually a good thing to have something you need to do after the date. Many will say that an excuse if they want to ditch the person so if this legitamately went well you will give the wrong impression. If you do have something you have to do you should say something prior to the date like you work a late shift.
No_Go Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 Wait! Give him some time to respond, I mean like 24 h the least. I can't imagine a guy that I've been on one date with to expect an immediate response from me and I'd not expect this either... It is one date! His life hasn't stopped with it, neither did your, it is normal to continue his other activities as usual... Otherwise seems like the date went well. I'm curious, what did you wear in the end? Yes. Last text was sent 3 hours ago approximately. 1
Author mortensorchid Posted July 10, 2017 Author Posted July 10, 2017 Wait! Give him some time to respond, I mean like 24 h the least. I can't imagine a guy that I've been on one date with to expect an immediate response from me and I'd not expect this either... It is one date! His life hasn't stopped with it, neither did your, it is normal to continue his other activities as usual... Otherwise seems like the date went well. I'm curious, what did you wear in the end? Yes, I will give him time to respond to this. I will wait at least 24-48 hours, like others said whatever will be will be. I didn't want to see a movie with him because I didn't want to look too eager to be with him, but I did like the guy just fine. And I chose to wear jeans and a plaid button down shirt, hair down rather than back in a ponytail. 1
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