Sallyx3 Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 (edited) So the fourth of july my boyfriend got a bottle. My boyfriend, my sister, and I drank it. I took a couple shots and they chugged it. I told them to chill out since my boyfriend was supposed to be the one driving home. Well come to find out when i went to the bathroom, they ran to my car and chugged the rest. When we left I was buzzed, but fine to drive. My boyfriend said to stop by safeway to get another bottle so i could drink when we got home since i barley got any. He got a bottle and we went home into my room. They are dancing and being annoying. Mind you im already annoyed from before. I didnt want to drink and they both took a couple more shots. Im angry at how drunk my underage sister is (19) and my boyfriend starts yelling that i need to take shots and stop acting like a grandma. At this point im pissed as im just sitting on the bed making sure everything is fine! He tells me leave if im making things worse because at this point my sister is drunk and so upset that im not "having fun" she keeps telling me to take shots and to have fun and is all over me. My sister is knocking everything over and me and my boyfriend try to make her lay down and chill out. I go get a drink of water and i come back with my boyfriend laying next to my sister on the bed and his hand is grabbed on her shirt and it looks like he was about to suck/ kiss the top of her boob clevage. I screamed and ran to get my mom and things were hell from there. I dont know wtf he was doing but it damn sure looked like what i thought it was. Everyone swears he wouldnt do that to her the next day and he even broke down crying saying he doesnt even remember and he would never ever do that to my sister. He said he probably passed out as he was trying to get her to calm down. So me and my mom dragged her to her bed. Im still embarrased because my family isnt like that and this is the first time a situation like this happened. Well im still mad and won't talk to either of them. I want him to take a polygraph asking if he did anything to her because mind you they were both drunk, but unless your black out drunk, you can remember everything your doing. I have gotten drunk plenty of times with my boyfriend by ourselves and we remember everything. So my point is i feel like he was trying to be a pervert knowing she is drunk and doing that to her. Even though i would never think he would do that to her if he was sober. Im at a loss for words and don't know what to think. I have been depressed and crying ever since. what are your thoughts? Edited July 6, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs ~T
stillafool Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 What did your sister say about it? How old are you and your boyfriend?
BaileyB Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 So the fourth of july my boyfriend got a bottle. My boyfriend, my sister, and I drank it. I took a couple shots and they chugged it. I told them to chill out since my boyfriend was supposed to be the one driving home. Well come to find out when i went to the bathroom, they ran to my car and chugged the rest. When we left I was buzzed, but fine to drive. My boyfriend said to stop by safeway to get another bottle so i could drink when we got home since i barley got any. He got a bottle and we went home into my room. They are dancing and being annoying. Mind you im already annoyed from before. I didnt want to drink and they both took a couple more shots. Im angry at how drunk my underage sister is (19) and my boyfriend starts yelling that i need to take shots and stop acting like a grandma. At this point im pissed as im just sitting on the bed making sure everything is fine! He tells me leave if im making things worse because at this point my sister is drunk and so upset that im not "having fun" she keeps telling me to take shots and to have fun and is all over me. My sister is knocking everything over and me and my boyfriend try to make her lay down and chill out. I go get a drink of water and i come back with my boyfriend laying next to my sister on the bed and his hand is grabbed on her shirt and it looks like he was about to suck/ kiss the top of her boob clevage. I screamed and ran to get my mom and things were hell from there. I dont know wtf he was doing but it damn sure looked like what i thought it was. Everyone swears he wouldnt do that to her the next day and he even broke down crying saying he doesnt even remember and he would never ever do that to my sister. He said he probably passed out as he was trying to get her to calm down. So me and my mom dragged her to her bed. Im still embarrased because my family isnt like that and this is the first time a situation like this happened. Well im still mad and won't talk to either of them. I want him to take a polygraph asking if he did anything to her because mind you they were both drunk, but unless your black out drunk, you can remember everything your doing. I have gotten drunk plenty of times with my boyfriend by ourselves and we remember everything. So my point is i feel like he was trying to be a fcking pervert knowing she is drunk and doing that to her. Even though i would never think he would do that to her if he was sober. Im at a loss for words and don't know what to think. I have been depressed and crying ever since. what are your thoughts? So many things wrong with this situation... Where do I even start! Let's begin with the fact that you all have been terribly irresponsible with alcohol. You abused alcohol such that you can't remember what happened. There is the fact that your sister is underage and she was drinking. And of course, you put your lives and the lives of others at risk by breaking the law when you drove home after you had been driving. Then, there is the issue that your boyfriend behaved inappropriately with your sister. Would I need a polygraph to prove that he was sexually inappropriate with my sister - hell no, I would dump him anyway for the drinking and even the thought that he could be sexually inappropriate with my sister. The immaturity and poor judgment in your post astounds me. 6
GunslingerRoland Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 Well your sister isn't underage. I mean she's under the American legal drinking age but she is an adult (and would be allowed to drink in every other country in the western world). But clearly both her and your bf don't know how to handle their liquor. At worst you need to put your foot down with him, and tell him that if he does that again, it's over. As for her, you can't ultimatum her, because you can't break up with your sister, but you should warn her that she will get herself into a lot of trouble drinking that much and being unable to control herself.
Lorenza Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 First of all, you are NOT ok to drive after a couple of shots. You are only ok to do that if you haven't drunk any alcohol at all or enough time has passed for it to leave your system. NEVER drive if you drank some even if you feel relatively fine. Your reaction is slower and endangers other people. That being said, you have an immature boyfriend who also acts highly inappropriately when drunk. There's nothing ok about this situation - urging you and your younger sister to drink, letting you drive under influence, touching your sister when she's passed out. Get yourself a decent guy and start acting respectfully to yourself and others. 3
d0nnivain Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 A bottle of what & what size was it? Three people who consume a 1 liter bottle of hard liquor are in great danger of getting alcohol poisoning. None of them should be driving a car. Buzzed driving is drunk driving. With all the ride share services out there, there is no excuse for drinking & driving. You could have killed somebody or yourselves. Binge drinking & shots are dangerous. This is now people died because their systems shut down. Peer pressure to do more shots should not be tolerated. Your sister & your BF need alcohol education. At the point she way laying on your bed, your sister did not have the capacity to consent to anything. Your BF -- soon to be EX-BF I hope -- was on the verge of taking advantage of that. Granted he was impaired too but this scenario gave you a lot of information about his poor character & lack of boundaries. It's bad enough that he made a drunken play for another woman but the fact that it was your sister and on your bed! He needs to be gone for good. Your parents need to keep a better eye on all of you. While you may be legal adults you are making dangerous poor choices. 2
Author Sallyx3 Posted July 6, 2017 Author Posted July 6, 2017 Thanks for the replies everyone. Also i understand what everyone is saying but we were there for at least 4 hours and i took three shots before we even got there. It wore off and when i was driving i was i was more tired than anything! I would never drive drunk and if i was then we would of slept in the car. I am torn in this situation because i would never think he would do that to her.
Author Sallyx3 Posted July 6, 2017 Author Posted July 6, 2017 So many things wrong with this situation... Where do I even start! Let's begin with the fact that you all have been terribly irresponsible with alcohol. You abused alcohol such that you can't remember what happened. There is the fact that your sister is underage and she was drinking. And of course, you put your lives and the lives of others at risk by breaking the law when you drove home after you had been driving. Then, there is the issue that your boyfriend behaved inappropriately with your sister. Would I need a polygraph to prove that he was sexually inappropriate with my sister - hell no, I would dump him anyway for the drinking and even the thought that he could be sexually inappropriate with my sister. The immaturity and poor judgment in your post astounds me. Im not sure how to use this site so i hope im replying to your comment! Again, i agree we should of not been drinking. I knew that if i posted what happend on a website i would be judged and the other people i talked about. Of course no one knows me or them just the situation at hand and i would say the same thing to someone i didnt know and they posted this. I told them to stop drinking . Am i supposed to call the cops of restrain them? They are both adults and have choice over their actions. Also, i remember everything that happened. I was not drunk. I took three shots hours before and then we stayed at the place for about 4 hours.
Author Sallyx3 Posted July 6, 2017 Author Posted July 6, 2017 What did your sister say about it? How old are you and your boyfriend? My sister does not remember and said im over reacting and that they would never do anything like that with each other. Im 21 and my boyfriend is 22.
Gaeta Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 My sister is knocking everything over and me and my boyfriend try to make her lay down and chill out. I go get a drink of water and i come back with my boyfriend laying next to my sister on the bed and his hand is grabbed on her shirt and it looks like he was about to suck/ kiss the top of her boob clevage. It looked like? I think you have a vivid imagination. A drunk man would not kiss the top of a woman's boobs, he'd just go at the boobs full blown. You misinterpreted what you have seen. They're both drunk, your sister is passed out probably, and your boyfriend probably can't tell which side of her is up or down. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 Thanks for the replies everyone. Also i understand what everyone is saying but we were there for at least 4 hours and i took three shots before we even got there. It wore off and when i was driving i was i was more tired than anything! I would never drive drunk and if i was then we would of slept in the car. I am torn in this situation because i would never think he would do that to her. 3 shots . . . you still might have had a BAC of more then .08 the legal limit in most US States. Were the shots actually measured in a shot glass. If not, you consumed more than 4.5 ounces of alcohol before you drove. Hence, you were drunk driving that is why you were tired. There's nothing to be torn about: Your BF showed you his true colors. He has no integrity. Take him back at your own risk. He's not an honorable guy. 2
BaileyB Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 Im not sure how to use this site so i hope im replying to your comment! Again, i agree we should of not been drinking. I knew that if i posted what happend on a website i would be judged and the other people i talked about. Of course no one knows me or them just the situation at hand and i would say the same thing to someone i didnt know and they posted this. I told them to stop drinking . Am i supposed to call the cops of restrain them? They are both adults and have choice over their actions. Also, i remember everything that happened. I was not drunk. I took three shots hours before and then we stayed at the place for about 4 hours. That's still three shots too many if you are driving, my friend. I'm sorry. It's a tough situation because they are both adults and responsible for making their own decisions. I would have told them we were leaving earlier and I would have walked away from them when they got home. If they are in your home, your parents should have helped you to deal with a situation that got way, way out of control. And, I would definitely dump this guy and find someone who is more responsible and has better boundaries. The fact that your sister does not remember what happened, is definitely a problem. If she can't use alcohol responsibly, she shouldn't be using alcohol at all. She was lucky this time - she didn't get alcohol poisoning and she wasn't sexually assaulted. She may not be so lucky next time. 2
Author Sallyx3 Posted July 6, 2017 Author Posted July 6, 2017 3 shots . . . you still might have had a BAC of more then .08 the legal limit in most US States. Were the shots actually measured in a shot glass. If not, you consumed more than 4.5 ounces of alcohol before you drove. Hence, you were drunk driving that is why you were tired. There's nothing to be torn about: Your BF showed you his true colors. He has no integrity. Take him back at your own risk. He's not an honorable guy. It was three tiny sips of alcohol.. not trying to justify what happened. Also im pretty sure i was tired because earlier i went on a hike and didnt take a nap before going out looool thanks for the reply though
Author Sallyx3 Posted July 6, 2017 Author Posted July 6, 2017 It looked like? I think you have a vivid imagination. A drunk man would not kiss the top of a woman's boobs, he'd just go at the boobs full blown. You misinterpreted what you have seen. They're both drunk, your sister is passed out probably, and your boyfriend probably can't tell which side of her is up or down. Idk probably
GunslingerRoland Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 Not it isn't your job to force your BF and your sister to stop drinking they are adults. You can choose to not be with your BF if he chooses not to drink responsibly though. (again family you're stuck with) And what is with the zero tolerance alcohol crowd out today? I agree that drinking a small amount of alcohol can impair your driving slightly. So can be a little tired, or having kids in the car, driving with music on, driving with another adult in the car. Pretty much anything. They've set the legal limit the way it is for a reason, to allow people to be able to drink responsibly, in other words have a small amount of alcohol in their system and still drive, while at the same time making sure people truly intoxicated are not allowed to drive.
BaileyB Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 Not it isn't your job to force your BF and your sister to stop drinking they are adults. You can choose to not be with your BF if he chooses not to drink responsibly though. (again family you're stuck with) And what is with the zero tolerance alcohol crowd out today? I agree that drinking a small amount of alcohol can impair your driving slightly. So can be a little tired, or having kids in the car, driving with music on, driving with another adult in the car. Pretty much anything. They've set the legal limit the way it is for a reason, to allow people to be able to drink responsibly, in other words have a small amount of alcohol in their system and still drive, while at the same time making sure people truly intoxicated are not allowed to drive. I totally agree with what you say and I'm not usually so strict. However, I would ask with all due respect - have these young adults proven that they can make good decisions and handle alcohol responsibly? I would say, definitely not. So until they do, it's probably best to abstain from drinking and driving... Just an abundance of caution. 2
kendahke Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 (edited) It was three tiny sips of alcohol.. not trying to justify what happened. Also im pretty sure i was tired because earlier i went on a hike and didnt take a nap before going out looool thanks for the reply though Since it's now all "looooool", quit being all bent out of shape over what your sister and boyfriend did. Your sister is right: you're overreacting. Edited July 6, 2017 by kendahke 3
smackie9 Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 You are 21, an adult...you are responsible for your sister since she is a minor. Shame on you for not stepping in, cutting her off and taking her home. If I were your mother, YOU would be the one in big s&*^ trouble. You should be accountable for your actions, well more like lack there of. As for your BF, he has no boundaries...just think what he is like when you are not around when he gets ****tered like that. I'm sure he's has a few secrets..... 2
stillafool Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 Why did you run for your mother instead of handling it yourself? 2
d0nnivain Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 It was three tiny sips of alcohol.. not trying to justify what happened. Also im pretty sure i was tired because earlier i went on a hike and didnt take a nap before going out looool thanks for the reply though Ok. Just be careful. Alcohol impairs judgment. That is a lesson I learned the hard way.
usa1ah Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 You let your sister(19) drink, ok I can understand that. Then you already knew she was drunk, you stopped and got another bottle. Wow You will never know what was going through your BF mind at the time. But good for you looking out for her when you saw and thought what you did. Next time limit her drinks. If you have to buy smaller bottle or pour out some. I am on the side that says, old enough to dye for ones country old enough to drink. Teach her to do it responsibly.
Author Sallyx3 Posted July 6, 2017 Author Posted July 6, 2017 You are 21, an adult...you are responsible for your sister since she is a minor. Shame on you for not stepping in, cutting her off and taking her home. If I were your mother, YOU would be the one in big s&*^ trouble. You should be accountable for your actions, well more like lack there of. As for your BF, he has no boundaries...just think what he is like when you are not around when he gets ****tered like that. I'm sure he's has a few secrets..... Well we have been living together for 3 years and we never drank until we turned 21 he doesnt party or do things like that so yea
Author Sallyx3 Posted July 6, 2017 Author Posted July 6, 2017 Why did you run for your mother instead of handling it yourself? She already knew my sister was drunk and talked to me about it so she was outside the door so i told her
Author Sallyx3 Posted July 6, 2017 Author Posted July 6, 2017 Since it's now all "looooool", quit being all bent out of shape over what your sister and boyfriend did. Your sister is right: you're overreacting. I meant to say "look" but anyways i think it should be looool now from your comment
Author Sallyx3 Posted July 6, 2017 Author Posted July 6, 2017 alcohol doesn't kick in for a while so she was fine until she went behind my back to drink more and its when we got home she was overboard. She makes her own choices. Im her sister yes but im not her mom. She hung out with friends and did the same thing i wasnt there and had a big talk with her about it. I dont think a couple shots hurt anyone who is almost 21. As i used to be the person who saw all of my friends under 21 about 18-20 drink and post about it i never drank until i was 21.
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