sillly402 Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 My girl friend and I been broken up for about two months. This past weekend she had an ex boyfriend sleep over her house. they have not seen each other for several years. he is now married. and lives out of state, he was in town to vist family. i know from what she told me they had a great sex life. she said nothing happened, but he did come on to her. we still have feelings for each other and hang out all the time. we have been sleeping together. we love eachother but it just does not work out for many reasons. it would hurt me if she slept with he. i know she could never tell me becouse she knowes it would hurt me. i think sleeping with a married man is just wrong - if the is a history or not
Neptune Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 No one can answer this one. Puzzling for a married man staying with an ex girlfriend though.
Deborah Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 There is no way for us to know. The only people who know are the two of them. We can only guess.
Author sillly402 Posted August 8, 2005 Author Posted August 8, 2005 She thinks she has done nothing wrong. we are talking about spending the night with a married Ex. A guy who in the past had given her a STD. he has told her what he misses most about her is sex. he has no respect for her. I guess she has even little for herself. I don't know why this bothers me so much - we are broken up. but i do care about her and hate seeing her get used or act this way
mixwell Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 Not to sound like an arsehole bro but its really none of your business.. She doesn't have to tell you anything she doesn't want to. You should be spending more effort in dating other girls rather than stressing over your ex.. I found that out finally after wasting time wondering about my ex.. Forget about her and move on.. Dont waste anymore effort and time on this chick
Author sillly402 Posted August 8, 2005 Author Posted August 8, 2005 Mixwell Your right. She can do whatever she wants. She's the one who wants to get back togother. I want to move on and be friends. I not sure i can hang out with her untill things like this don't get to me. I still care about her, and knowing she is doing stupid **** bothers me. But it her life. better to stay out of it so i don't know about it.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 Originally posted by sillly402 but i do care about her and hate seeing her get used or act this way That's an excuse...Your trying to control her it's none of your business who she sleeps with.. Stay out of it.. or likely lose the friendship
Author sillly402 Posted August 8, 2005 Author Posted August 8, 2005 you are right it is none of my business. If you had a child, friend sister, how would you feel. he's a married man only interested in sex praying on her low self esteem. This is a person i have known and loved for over 8 years. I want her to be happy. I hope she meets a great guy. nothing would make me happier. If not wanting to see someone you care about get hurt is being controlling. then i guess thats what i'm doing. she has been sad and depressed lately. I am a bit worried about her. when someone you care about does something that is out of the norm for them. and morally wrong. what do you say **** them that their problem
mixwell Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 I know its tough.. I used to talk about my ex prob with my parents and my older sister.. they basically said its none of your business, and as much as it pist me off at the time it was the truth... I think if you are going to have any relations with this chick then its all or nothing. No friends.. I know its hard.. I was with my ex for 7 years and grew up together since we were in 8th grade.. we were together the whole time.. As much as it hurt me when she broke up with me there came a time where i finally said to myself that I refuse to be just friends and told her that.. since then i have not looked back since.. It has been about 2 months since I have talked to her. You know what the pain goes away faster when you cut all ties.. Yeah I still think about her and miss her from time to time but id rather it be this way then keeping in touch and have my feelings tied into her still.. I guess i am saying its either you two get back together or cut her out of your life..
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