JustSavannah83 Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 I've been with my husband for thirteen years. We have a sixteen yr old son who is great. My husband is a great father and a very good provider. However I feel completely alone. He hasn't taken me out to eat in a year. Our only trips together are to lowes. Every weekend he has his buddies over or he's always jumping to help them with some project. Our vacations always consist of going to his aunt/uncles home where he makes it a point to go play golf with his uncle and son but when I ask for a simple stroll alone on the beach he's tired. I feel silly and maybe I'm spoiled but I just want one on one time and to feel special again. We went to Atlantic City and he gave me 100 dollars to gamble while him and our son went to the arcade. Our son could of stayed at the aunts house but he felt he gave me money I'm fine. So I gambled alone like everything else I do. None of the vehicles or home is in my name and I feel like a guest in my own home I've been in for years. I've told him over and over and now I'm just getting to the point where I'm done. I'm I being over dramatic?
whichwayisup Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 I've been with my husband for thirteen years. We have a sixteen yr old son who is great. My husband is a great father and a very good provider. However I feel completely alone. He hasn't taken me out to eat in a year. Our only trips together are to lowes. Every weekend he has his buddies over or he's always jumping to help them with some project. Our vacations always consist of going to his aunt/uncles home where he makes it a point to go play golf with his uncle and son but when I ask for a simple stroll alone on the beach he's tired. I feel silly and maybe I'm spoiled but I just want one on one time and to feel special again. We went to Atlantic City and he gave me 100 dollars to gamble while him and our son went to the arcade. Our son could of stayed at the aunts house but he felt he gave me money I'm fine. So I gambled alone like everything else I do. None of the vehicles or home is in my name and I feel like a guest in my own home I've been in for years. I've told him over and over and now I'm just getting to the point where I'm done. I'm I being over dramatic? Tell him how what he does makes you feel and that he's avoiding husband/wife time and it's making you dislike him and have resentment built up. You two need marriage counseling and need to reconnect! If not a divorce will happen because he's not treating you with love and respect, not being a good husband to you. be honest and tell him everything that you've said here.
preraph Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 Don't worry about what's in your name. If you're married this long, it's half yours. Have you told him outright how unhappy you are and that you need to date him again? If not, try it. If so, maybe you'd be happier elsewhere, but there is no guarantee. What about girlfriends? Can you go spend time with friends or did you leave them behind when you got married?
d0nnivain Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 Have you told him that you are lonely? have you planned romantic outings for the two of you? If I waited for my husband to plan romantic dates, I wouldn't get any either. If's he's willing to let you plan & then he shows up & is present, that is a start. Do you play golf? Have you tried playing with him? Perhaps you will get a better reaction if you take an interest in something he likes. Also try tacking on a trip for breakfast or just to get coffee when you go to Lowes.
Quirkster Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 I've been with my husband for thirteen years. We have a sixteen yr old son who is great. My husband is a great father and a very good provider. However I feel completely alone. He hasn't taken me out to eat in a year. Our only trips together are to lowes. Every weekend he has his buddies over or he's always jumping to help them with some project. Our vacations always consist of going to his aunt/uncles home where he makes it a point to go play golf with his uncle and son but when I ask for a simple stroll alone on the beach he's tired. I feel silly and maybe I'm spoiled but I just want one on one time and to feel special again. We went to Atlantic City and he gave me 100 dollars to gamble while him and our son went to the arcade. Our son could of stayed at the aunts house but he felt he gave me money I'm fine. So I gambled alone like everything else I do. None of the vehicles or home is in my name and I feel like a guest in my own home I've been in for years. I've told him over and over and now I'm just getting to the point where I'm done. I'm I being over dramatic? Don't hold on like my parents did. They are miserable co-dependents with very little in common who have made each other unhappy for 40+ years now. Thirteen years is more than enough time to know if you're meant to be together over the longer hail. Listen to your instincts and not your fears (i.e. of being alone, getting back into the dating world, financials, etc etc).
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