whatever29 Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 This is just a follow-up to my story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/other-man-woman/587526-mm-lies-sick-wife So here I am days away from a year since I went NC. I'm doing very well. In the beginning there were moments of sadness, anger and all of the other things we all go through, but I never broke NC by reaching out to him. When a little bird told me that D-Day had come, I said I don't want to know anything and just continued on. I felt good I had gotten rid of the liar. In the last six months or so he has hardly even crossed my mind. I've been concentrating solely on myself and my journey of continual self-improvement. I'm now over 6 months without a cigarette! Tonight I was walking in the park and I saw someone of his build turn around and look at me. He turned back for a moment but then turned around again quickly to take a second look at me. I'd bet it was him, but I just kept going and started walking faster. I never looked back to confirm or deny if it was. It doesn't really matter. There are a lot of guys in this town that look like him. Just funny that after all of this time I may have run into him and I felt nothing. It was just as if I had looked at anyone just in passing. There was no physical or emotional reaction at all. So, I thought I'd stop by and give everyone going through NC some words of encouragement. Maybe the reason for seeing him or thinking I did, was to let all of you know who are going through this that the pain passes, the anger passes, eventually you may get to the point where there is no feeling whatsoever. I've done it and you can too. Whatever it takes to get through one moment, one day, one week, one year. I wish you all the best! 8
Ruffian1 Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 I've been concentrating solely on myself and my journey of continual self-improvement. I'm now over 6 months without a cigarette! Congratulations! You should be proud. Keep up the good effort. Glad your getting over the MM too. 1
Bufo Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 You have arrived at the nirvana of affair recovery: indifference. Whether you realized it or not during your year of recovery indifference was your goal. This means that he is not occupying significant space in your head. If he tries to contact you now keep up the feeling of indifference. Good work. 1
jenkins95 Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 Great stuff whatever29! Well done to you! And credit to you for being around to support, encourage and help others!
rumblefish12 Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 Thank you! We all benefit from these follow-up stories. 1
Cali408 Posted July 6, 2017 Posted July 6, 2017 Don't ever engage. Don't give them affirmation, Don't pickup their breadcrumbs. Years later I still get cyber stalked. Ignore, ignore, ignore No affirmation.
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