Had a fireworks date last night. It was fun but questions about next steps

[CoolJoe]

Met a new girl last night for the first time. Met at a restaurant. Ate and talked for a little over an hour. Felt a pretty smooth connection right off the bat. She is a little heavier than her main picture, though I expected that as her secondary pictures show her at a heavier weight. I appreciated not being completely blindsided. She's got a little weight, but for me it's not a personal deal breaker or anything.

 

After dinner we went to see fireworks and that went well.

 

Overall, it was a fun first date but the thing is, we do live two hours apart. I actually drove to her -- drove a total of 4 hours both ways. I can see where this becomes a bit much, but I know couples who have LTR out of state or even across the country. Two hours isn't the end of the world.

 

The thing is, although we clicked well, I didn't feel like the date was "out of this world amazing" or anything. But definitely something that can be built upon. If she lived closer it would be a lot easier.

 

I do want to keep getting to know her better.

 

Should I address the distance?

Should I explicitly text her that I would like to get to know her better slowly?

 

Or should I just resume contact as normal and not bring up any labels or discuss the "relationship" ? Should I just interact with her and see where it naturally goes? I'm not sure what is the best course of action here. I am somewhat attracted to her but as of right now I have to say if I saw her in a room it's not like I would have immediate feelings toward her. However, I feel like I shouldn't pass up on someone so quickly. A lot of great relationships form from one person giving the other a chance, or both parties in fact.

 

Not every first date is going to transcend the normal bounds of a first date after all.

 

TLDR: I want to continue getting to know her but we live two hours apart. How should I handle the next 48 hours or so? We already texted after the date a "got home safe" type message and that we had fun. I also mentioned if she's ever in town to hit me up so I can take her to this one hiking place she mentioned interest in. She gave me an enthusiastic yes. Should I be explicit with my dating intentions or is bringing it up a mood killer? Should I just treat her as a friend and let whatever happens happen?

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

The first thing you mentioned about her was her weight.

 

Second thing, the 2 hour distance.

 

Third, it wasn't out of the world amazing.

 

I don't know what you should do in terms of continuing to talk to her, but long term, I doubt this is going anywhere. You'll get very sick of the distance very quickly, and that will make her less than perfect body even more of an issue.

[TheWoman]

Invite her on a date near your place next time, if shes happy to do that and share the travel load then its less of a problem and you know she is a reciprocal person. If she wont then maybe give it miss.

[coolheadal]

Don't you love to drive to meet a girl you would consider dating? I don't get you , sound like you like to complain a lot. Then don't meet someone so far away! 2 hrs is nothing compared to 3 to 4 hrs of driving each way! I've done and put 18,000 miles on my SUV. So there... Give her a chance and see where you to end up! Do you think is so easy to find a date today! Guess again!

[TheFinalWord]

Met a new girl last night for the first time. Met at a restaurant. Ate and talked for a little over an hour. Felt a pretty smooth connection right off the bat. She is a little heavier than her main picture, though I expected that as her secondary pictures show her at a heavier weight. I appreciated not being completely blindsided. She's got a little weight, but for me it's not a personal deal breaker or anything.

 

After dinner we went to see fireworks and that went well.

 

Overall, it was a fun first date but the thing is, we do live two hours apart. I actually drove to her -- drove a total of 4 hours both ways. I can see where this becomes a bit much, but I know couples who have LTR out of state or even across the country. Two hours isn't the end of the world.

 

The thing is, although we clicked well, I didn't feel like the date was "out of this world amazing" or anything. But definitely something that can be built upon. If she lived closer it would be a lot easier.

 

I do want to keep getting to know her better.

 

Should I address the distance?

Should I explicitly text her that I would like to get to know her better slowly?

 

Or should I just resume contact as normal and not bring up any labels or discuss the "relationship" ? Should I just interact with her and see where it naturally goes? I'm not sure what is the best course of action here. I am somewhat attracted to her but as of right now I have to say if I saw her in a room it's not like I would have immediate feelings toward her. However, I feel like I shouldn't pass up on someone so quickly. A lot of great relationships form from one person giving the other a chance, or both parties in fact.

 

Not every first date is going to transcend the normal bounds of a first date after all.

 

TLDR: I want to continue getting to know her but we live two hours apart. How should I handle the next 48 hours or so? We already texted after the date a "got home safe" type message and that we had fun. I also mentioned if she's ever in town to hit me up so I can take her to this one hiking place she mentioned interest in. She gave me an enthusiastic yes. Should I be explicit with my dating intentions or is bringing it up a mood killer? Should I just treat her as a friend and let whatever happens happen?

 

LTR's are more work than a more convenient in-town dating relationship.

 

My thought is to try to plan another date or two, with you going to her, to find out how compatible you are. If things keep progressing, see if you can find some way to "meet in the middle." She knows about the distance, and if you are going to see her she'll know you're interested. No need to go over that so early IMHO. However, after a few dates, if she is not interested in meeting you half way, or ever coming to see you (driving the four hours), I think it is okay to bring it up.

[CoolJoe]

I don't know what you should do in terms of continuing to talk to her, but long term, I doubt this is going anywhere.

 

Haha, what a funny world we live in. I gave her a chance on a second date and we found some decent common ground from which to build a stronger connection/level of attraction.

 

Four dates in, we're now exclusively dating. Go figure. That's why you take that second date whenever possible. You never know. Had I given up on her after date #1, I wouldn't be dating this sweet woman right now who very well could be my girlfriend in the next month or so.