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What life will be without social media and opposite sex?

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Springsummer Established Member

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Want to quit FB. What for? actually few people I really care about and whom also care about me, but can't stop checking. It's a disease.

 

Quit OLD too. few people I am interested and it seems other people just as picky as well. I don't think you can really find love there. People just picking like picking veggies...

 

These websites make me feel like an idiot. and waste a majority of my free time.

 

but how to spend my life after quitting? so I will just resign to a life of loneliness?

 

unfortunately, deep down we are social animals. We long to belong... but society and people and opposite sex make me feel totally depressed and hopeless....

 

sigh, life...any thoughts?

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Life is what you make of it.

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Chilli Established Member

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Yep , it's all total madness.

l can't believe the stuff l read , people are soooo messed up now.

Mostly thanks to all this garbage.

Kids have turned in bedroom potatoes, l've got some, l saw it happen.

people don't even know how to find a mate anymore, look around love shack , it's everywhere.

It's like OLD is the world , like as if that's how it is.But that's as lala land as the internet and me writing this right now to people l can't even see or know.

 

But , seems to be life for most these days, more and more .

if your old enough to have been around before this madness , how did you live then , what did we do with our spare time, how did we meet people.

Well , we had a life, a real one, real people, we did stuff. Not tapped away on a key board to people you can't even see or know.

 

Personally l know, l can see it , it's everywhere, the best thing any normal human being can do for themselves is to through this piece of sh@t in the bin and get a real life.

But l'm as stupid as everyone else for even being here and doing this, it's fk'd my life up too.

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Chilli Established Member

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My daughter and her friends and circle have the real idea though , they're all real , real friends, real bf's and gf's, it's real, it's a real life.

they mainly just use the garbage to talk to each other or talk about what they all gonna do next out in the real world.

Some of the others though , man , l just feel sorry for them.

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mikeylo Established Member

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Without social media life would be same as it was about 20 years ago.

 

Without opposite sex, there wouldnt be life,lol !

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Chilli Established Member

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Hmm, l forgot about the without the opposite sex bit.

Be a lot easier, that's for sure.

GunslingerRoland Established Member

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Life without social media is totally possible, you just have to make more effort to reach out to people through texting, emailing, calling, to stay in touch. It isn't a bad thing at all.

 

Life without the opposite sex, I don't know do you mean just taking a break from dating? I think a break can be good, but for the majority of us, we are sexual beings, and we are meant to be paired with someone else, so I don't necessarily think the best thing is a life of solitude.

 

If you have nothing to do with your time though, without social media or dating, I think that is a good sign that you need some hobbies in your life. A single person without kids shouldn't be having hard of a time filling their days.

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I guess we'll go back to smoke signals and carrier pigeons..Back then girls would pack my locker with love notes and other crazy stuff...Theyd fold it up and push it through the vents...

 

But really....

 

You do realize that people led (and lead now), completely functional lives, they date, speak regularly to loved ones, etc....yet don't use social media,,

 

TFY

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Ah, the days without social media....sometimes I miss those days. But what I really miss are the days before cell phones!

 

Back then, when I got off work, I was off work! No way was my boss getting ahold of me. They didn't expect too, nor did they even try. A vacation was a true vacation. I miss the pre-cell phone days....kinda.

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What I wouldn't give to jump into a time machine and go back to the days when there was no such thing as the internet or cell phones or online dating.

 

Life and people were much simpler back then.

 

 

I'm guessing you're still young which is why you can't even imagine how you'd spend your time without social media or OLD.

 

Trust me, you'll survive.

 

As MidKnightDreams said, at the end of the day, life is what you make of it. With or without the internet.

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Brings up some memories of a very colorful conversation I was having with some theoretical physicists on what their idea was like on the future of relationships / procreation and sex.

 

Today everything is so intertwined: relationships / sex/ society / kids.

 

Some feel in the future pro-creation will be more mechanical and babies will be created in labs for purchase and the whole social concept of marriage and monogamy will be gone as will be the need for physical bodies aside from our heads.

 

Scary thoughts haha?

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Springsummer Established Member

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Life is what you make of it.

 

problem is my capability to make things happen to the way I want is very limited.

 

9 out 10 I don't get what I want no matter how hard I try

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Springsummer Established Member

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Without opposite sex, there wouldnt be life,lol !

 

what do you by no life? you meant procreation or sexual pleasure?

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The problem is I can't get a hang of people an opposite sex. I don't think I am socially inept or ugly looking. damn, when I was in schools even the most handsome guys seemed to like me. what happened to me now? my age really shows? older woman is no longer attractive? but people generally assume I look under 30. maybe they lied to me?

 

too much disappointment and futility in looking for a relationship NOW. I don't know how and where and I don't know how to do with them. strange...when I had my chances, I didn't seize the opportunities, now it's very hard.

 

I feel my time is wasting in wanting and looking...if I want to be productive of my life, I guess I need to stop these time wasters.

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Brings up some memories of a very colorful conversation I was having with some theoretical physicists on what their idea was like on the future of relationships / procreation and sex.

 

Today everything is so intertwined: relationships / sex/ society / kids.

 

Some feel in the future pro-creation will be more mechanical and babies will be created in labs for purchase and the whole social concept of marriage and monogamy will be gone as will be the need for physical bodies aside from our heads.

 

Scary thoughts haha?

 

Interesting ideas. but I won't live to see it

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Life without the opposite sex, I don't know do you mean just taking a break from dating? I think a break can be good, but for the majority of us, we are sexual beings, and we are meant to be paired with someone else, so I don't necessarily think the best thing is a life of solitude.

 

If you have nothing to do with your time though, without social media or dating, I think that is a good sign that you need some hobbies in your life. A single person without kids shouldn't be having hard of a time filling their days.

 

I know. but I have no luck in that department. might as well stop wasting my time.

 

I actually have a lot of hobby. I swim, rollerblade, ski, snowboard, etc...but I don't think I am fully enjoying them, coz I can't stop thinking my life sucks, and how lonely and meaningless life seems.

 

I know I should spend my time doing activities, but most often I find myself just click, click...and just constantly in a state of boredom, aimless and just feeling lost and often brooding. hence, the idea of giving social media and looking at OLD sites, so that I can be more productive with my life.

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Springsummer Established Member

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Actually I was subconsciously looking for validation for the opposite sex thing, but it seems all I get is negation.

GunslingerRoland Established Member

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Actually I was subconsciously looking for validation for the opposite sex thing, but it seems all I get is negation.

 

So you want us to tell you to stay celibate and alone? Okay, it'll be the best thing you can choose for yourself. [/sarcasm]

 

If you really wanted to be alone, you wouldn't be asking us the question. You want to have a partner, like you've said you just struggle to find someone. I don't think that is a good reason to give up.

 

I've read a lot of your posts on here, and you seem to have some very... interesting... different... ways of looking at normal every day things. I think you need to try to understand the root of why you see the world so differently than other people if you want to figure out how you can someday get into a long term relationship.

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Want to quit FB. What for? actually few people I really care about and whom also care about me, but can't stop checking. It's a disease.

 

Quit OLD too. few people I am interested and it seems other people just as picky as well. I don't think you can really find love there. People just picking like picking veggies...

 

These websites make me feel like an idiot. and waste a majority of my free time.

 

but how to spend my life after quitting? so I will just resign to a life of loneliness?

 

unfortunately, deep down we are social animals. We long to belong... but society and people and opposite sex make me feel totally depressed and hopeless....

 

sigh, life...any thoughts?

 

Life isn't online and seeing what people are up to on their fb feeds. Life is going out and meeting people, living life outside of the house and no internet involved.

 

Try new hobbies! do yoga, take a cooking class, photography lessons or something that you're passionate about.

 

It's like people have forgotten how life was before computers entered their lives. Remember when you were a kid growing up? Nothing wrong with enjoying a nice walk in the woods, reading a book under a shady tree, meeting friends and sitting on the patio and having a nice lunch.

 

You can connect with people anywhere, at the grocery store, waiting in line or even on the street.

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People are more distracted now than ever before, but I think on the whole, someone who struggles to connect with other people in 2017 would've also struggled to connect with people in 1917.

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How the hell does quitting FB equate to "a life of loneliness"!??!!? :confused:

 

I mean, I'm not against FB, I use it occasionally, but you appear to be addicted to it. Have you considered professional help?

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People are more distracted now than ever before, but I think on the whole, someone who struggles to connect with other people in 2017 would've also struggled to connect with people in 1917.

 

This. Social media is a tool (and sometimes a pain). But the root of most relational/social problems are NOT the fault of inanimate objects or programs. Just like those things aren't "causing" affairs, etc.

 

Someone with low emotional intelligence is either going to struggle or learn. I was a weird kid. I mean, a WEIRD kid. Till I started public junior high and realized I could expand my learning about social cues the way i learned anything else. I learned. And I reaped friendships, expriences, confidence, a broader emotional range, etc.

 

People now seem to expect the world to adapt to their awkwardness and fit their ideal. I'm not sure if it comes from being so personally disconnected (even if we are seemingly very digitally connected) or from expecting real life to work like The Sims lol

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People are more distracted now than ever before, but I think on the whole, someone who struggles to connect with other people in 2017 would've also struggled to connect with people in 1917.

 

Not a chance.

 

Someone in 1917 was raised differently and taught completely different interpersonal skills because they weren't stuck staring at a cell phone, iPad, or computer screen. Their circles of influence were also smaller and which enabled them to devote more attention to actually meeting and engaging people.

 

Social Media - while providing the largest reach in the history of man - conversely amplifies laziness, distractions, and the illusion of endless choice.

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Not a chance.

 

Someone in 1917 was raised differently and taught completely different interpersonal skills because they weren't stuck staring at a cell phone, iPad, or computer screen. Their circles of influence were also smaller and which enabled them to devote more attention to actually meeting and engaging people.

 

Social Media - while providing the largest reach in the history of man - conversely amplifies laziness, distractions, and the illusion of endless choice.

 

Actually, you have a good point. Especially about being TAUGHT and modeled social skills.

 

Our social skills in 2017 suck. We expect the world to adapt to US, we have no tact or grace, our manners are crap, we are selfish, we think we deserve someone, and we don't care to learn.

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Actually, you have a good point. Especially about being TAUGHT and modeled social skills.

 

Our social skills in 2017 suck. We expect the world to adapt to US, we have no tact or grace, our manners are crap, we are selfish, we think we deserve someone, and we don't care to learn.

 

Yup, pretty much a very "self-entitled" society, but it's worse with the youngsters actually growing up in it than the ones who were around before it. It basically defines their lives.

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