Pugwash Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 (edited) Hey guys, hope all of you are well As many of you know I broke up with my ex last November (dealt with some drama with her and her new boyfriend) initially found it tough for the first month of finding out she was with someone else but I'm in such a good place it's unreal, I rarely if ever think about her but it's never anything more than for a few minutes every now again. I've done the NC for 3 or 4 months now (she tended to initiate the first contact since the break up) but which is whether, I haven't even taken a second glance on facebook page since we just after we broke up (8 months ago) despite her openly admitting to checking mine which is fine... Anyhow despite both of us living in a small town of roughly 20,000 people I have only seen her once from a distance a few months ago whilst driving since December. I know one day we are bound to bump into eachother or see eachother again randomly, look I know we all react differently but I know my good luck streak of not seeing her can last forever Just looking for advice on how to approach it if/when it happens? Should I be nice and say hello, keep the head down, make small talk etc? I know she hates me 1. for breaking her heart (I apologized to her) 2. because she was asking me to meet her and I told her no, then her boyfriend accused me of pestering her so I screenshotted everything she sent me i.e. the phone calls/texts (it was all her) and then she blocked my number and made me out to be a weirdo, but I don't hate her at all. Look I wouldn't ask for advice on this subject if I didn't need it, honestly it might sound childish or silly but I have no doubt in my mind we'll probably see eachother soon because as I said it's a small town. Thanks peeps Edited July 5, 2017 by Pugwash
LivingWaterPlease Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 Say Hello with a warm smile and keep walking! If you feel like it and she seems comfortable with it, you could stop and chat for a minute or two but have someplace you need to be so you can excuse yourself fairly soon after you meet. 1
Author Pugwash Posted July 5, 2017 Author Posted July 5, 2017 Say Hello with a warm smile and keep walking! If you feel like it and she seems comfortable with it, you could stop and chat for a minute or two but have someplace you need to be so you can excuse yourself fairly soon after you meet. Thanks for the reply. Yeah, I just would like to come across as civil at least. Life is so strange, I spent nearly 3 years with someone (engaged too) and now I'm asking for advice on how I should act if/when I see her I think what makes it hard is that she hates me and it hurts knowing that but alas life goes on 1
Blanco Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 If you are literally passing each other by, a smile and a nod will suffice. I would do what I could not to stop and get roped into any sort of conversation, but obviously you want to do so without making it awkward. Blowing her off will just make you look like a jerk, but engaging in chit-chat is going to likely make you feel uncomfortable. Best to acknowledge in a friendly matter and keep it moving.
LivingWaterPlease Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 Agree, it's so weird being so close to someone in every way and then so far away in every way. Life shouldn't be that way, but it too often is.
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