jess3 Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 Background: Im 25 and he is 22. I've known this guy since January. Basically he is friends with my roommate so he is at my house every weekend for a party or we occasionally go to his house. Every time I see him he talks to me the whole time and then leaves. One party I got his number and texted him if he had plans for tomorrow night and he said not yet what was I thinking? and I texted him the next day being like just to hangout? He wrote back that he was busying playing soccer but he will see me at a party on wednesday (3 days from then) So he shows up at the party talks to me the whole night and then leaves. He's gone back home (5 hours away from the rest of the summer). Every time I see him he asks me if I am going to his hometown,which has a music festival that is there. Two weeks before July 1st I texted him to tell him we were having people over for Canada day if he was in town he wrote he would be there and that he was excited to see me again. He then texted me "are you still coming to my hometown" and i was like ya July 14-16, could i get a tour? He was like ya! I will show you everything you need to see. Were going to have fun. July 1st he initiated and texted me all day about my plans for the night. I ended up seeing him at a party at his friends and we talked. I felt too drunk so I left. I texted me being like why did you leave without saying bye and that he was sad I left so I asked him to come by later for cuddles haha I know cringe. He never responded. I unfollowed him on insta in a drunk daze. So I texted him the next day "omg see no evil emoji" and he responded with just a ":)" So should I text him when I'm in is hometown or not?! Is it rude to not say anything since we've made previous plans? 1)Should I just let it go and assume he is uninterested and just have a fun time 2) Forget about the drunk text and text him "Hey I'm in ___ "
angel.eyes Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 What are you looking for out of this? He's not looking for a romantic relationship with you or to even date you. If he were, you would have gone out on a date by now. What do you want with a 22-year old boy anyway? There is a maturity chasm between a 22 year old guy and a 25-year old women that most women would find very unappealing. 1
hercules22 Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 sounds like all he wants to do is party and have random hookups
divegrl Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 You asked him to come over and he ignored you?! I don't know of many men that would turn down an invite to a girls house. I would go with option 1. Let him go. Hugs my friend!!!!
Redhead14 Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 Is this guy wasting my time/leading me on? - I dont' see how in the world you could even think this. You're the one who is "chasing" him. He hasn't done one single thing that indicates that he's interested in dating you. He has a new friend . . . he may sleep with you if you offer it up or accept those kinds of advances from him.. 3
d0nnivain Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 He's 22. He's doing the best he can to express desire but he's kind of screwing it up. Young men don't always have the courage to ask for a date. He's trying to ingratiate himself into your life. He wants things to progress without saying the words "will you go on a date with me?" Cut him some slack but make it abundantly clear that you would be open to him making a move & turning this into a relationship. 1
smackie9 Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 He's not getting the right signals from you, that is what is holding him back. Not every guy has confidence enough to make a move....lord have you not see how full this site is with threads started by guys who struggle with even talking to a girl? You like him start touching him, grab his hand and lead him outside to chat.....so easily done.
smackie9 Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 What are you looking for out of this? He's not looking for a romantic relationship with you or to even date you. If he were, you would have gone out on a date by now. What do you want with a 22-year old boy anyway? There is a maturity chasm between a 22 year old guy and a 25-year old women that most women would find very unappealing. I'm not looking for an argument but the OP might be on the same level of maturity. They seem to be focused on where the party is at, and drinking. 3
Author jess3 Posted July 5, 2017 Author Posted July 5, 2017 Hey all thank you for your opinions. It's nice to hear what other people think who are on the outside looking in. I think I'm just going to let it go and not text him. He made it clear he just wanted to be friends. I'm going to date others. If he texts me when I'm there, great, but I will be aware we are just friends.
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