NJooo Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 So there is this friend of ours who is involved with a guy that has a history of getting in trouble and has history of sexual harassment/assault and other things. People have tried to look out for her and asked her was she aware of the situation that he was just involved in and her response was I quote "yes he explained the situation to me, i'm his girl and i'm the one that he is talking to right now." This guy has a very bad paper trail of sexually harassing other females and sexual assault. He also has been known to be a player as well. I remember the only thing that I said to her was I quote "It just blows my mind that you are with a guy like this knowing his history." She then replies and says, I quote, "I'm not with him, you don't know what we have." So I'm wondering what in the world are they then? Why would she stay with someone like this knowing that he has done this to other women? Is this guy actually in a relationship with her or just using her for sex? Its just crazy to me. And there are 3 other females that have been harassed by this guy. I just dont understand
Gaeta Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 She is inexeperienced and he's a master manipulator. He made her beleive she is special compared to the other ones and she beleives he would never do this to her. It's no use to try to convince her out of this. Let her learn her lesson the hard way. 1
Author NJooo Posted July 4, 2017 Author Posted July 4, 2017 when we talked to her and asked her about this she responded and said that he explained the situation to her, but not one time did she say that he said he was innocent lol. then she says she is his girl and the one that he is talking to right now. what does that mean? talking to her on the phone about the situation? to me it sounds like some physical stuff and he is just sleeping with this girl. if i'm wrong correct me but that's what it sounds like to me. it's a big mess waiting to happen.
Author NJooo Posted July 4, 2017 Author Posted July 4, 2017 She is inexeperienced and he's a master manipulator. He made her beleive she is special compared to the other ones and she beleives he would never do this to her. It's no use to try to convince her out of this. Let her learn her lesson the hard way. you are right about that. if that was me and i even heard about he had a case against him i would have been gone lol
Gaeta Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 when we talked to her and asked her about this she responded and said that he explained the situation to her, but not one time did she say that he said he was innocent lol. then she says she is his girl and the one that he is talking to right now. what does that mean? talking to her on the phone about the situation? to me it sounds like some physical stuff and he is just sleeping with this girl. if i'm wrong correct me but that's what it sounds like to me. it's a big mess waiting to happen. I guess it means she is the one he gives his attention to at this time. It means They are un-official for sure.
angel.eyes Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 Time to focus on your own life. You aren't the one dating him. She's aware of the allegations. Now let it go. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 It is common knowledge that some people simply have a disposition that requires some kind of affirmation no matter from whom or what. This is especially true with women. She is getting attention and ladies like her like to think that she is 'special', 'not like the other girls'. As long as she isn't experiencing any of the crap he has been known to dish out, she'd rather overlook his past and frame a world that only involves her present relationship with him. If you think about it, it sounds reasonable, why condemn someone for his past, right? Maybe he's changed? Anyway, I've known family and past ladies I've dated who have done the same. It can be complicated and frustrating, but it is common. Some ladies simply don't care b/c they have a man....any man. It is sad at times.
angel.eyes Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 (edited) With all due respect, do we know for a fact that he's done any of the things the OP is claiming have happened? Have legal charges been brought against him? Restraining orders issued? I'm not saying you don't listen to people's stories and weigh their credibility. But let's not automatically turn this into the Salem witch hunt because X heard from Y, who heard from Z, who heard from A, that this guy might have harassed an ex at some point. Are we talking one too many phone calls during a breakup? A bitter ex with no real basis for her beef when he dumped her? Or truly problematic behavior? None of us know. The OP is passing along hearsay and gossip wrapped up in a hefty dose of her judgemental attitude. She's certainly not the original source. I remember the only thing that I said to her was I quote "It just blows my mind that you are with a guy like this knowing his history."...Its just crazy to me. Edited July 4, 2017 by angel.eyes
Author NJooo Posted July 5, 2017 Author Posted July 5, 2017 I guess it means she is the one he gives his attention to at this time. It means They are un-official for sure. With all due respect, do we know for a fact that he's done any of the things the OP is claiming have happened? Have legal charges been brought against him? Restraining orders issued? I'm not saying you don't listen to people's stories and weigh their credibility. But let's not automatically turn this into the Salem witch hunt because X heard from Y, who heard from Z, who heard from A, that this guy might have harassed an ex at some point. Are we talking one too many phone calls during a breakup? A bitter ex with no real basis for her beef when he dumped her? Or truly problematic behavior? None of us know. The OP is passing along hearsay and gossip wrapped up in a hefty dose of her judgemental attitude. She's certainly not the original source. Salem Witch Hunt lol
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