Hurtingguy Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 I've read up on the stages a dumper and dumper go through I'm just confused about what stages we both may be on. So I still deeply love and miss my ex(she's the dumper) we talk everyday and both of us want to keep contact I still want her back and I know she's thinking about it. The past 2 weeks we face timed every night texted throughout the day and it was great. Last week we spent 2 nights togeTher made love told each other repeatedly we love and miss each other it was great we went out and had fun. No figjting no arguing note we lived together for 2 years. So Saturday she leaves to go away for a couple days with her gf and she gets cold with me very short doesn't say gnite like we always do. But send me a snapchat to let me know she isn't with any guys. sunday night on her way back from her friends she calls me to say she wants to hang out all day Monday. Saturday night comes along she has a few drinks then calls me on FaceTime all moody and grumpy and says she doesn't want to hang out anymore. So all day yesterday again cold and short calls to say gnite still moody. She took a plan b Saturday morning not sure if that caused this or if it's something else. So this morning we talk again on the phone everything seems fine again she tells me she loves me and we had a good chat. My question is what stage is she on she seems all over the place right. Ow with me and it's very confusing I just want some advice from people who have experience with this kind of behaviour from the dumper
Spartakooty Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 I just think you need to distance yourself from her...a lot. Seems to me you're opening yourself up to a world of hurt. She dumped you. Why are you still hanging around? If she's not committing, then she's just leading you on until Mr. Right comes along.
PegNosePete Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 let me know she isn't with any guys. She took a plan b Saturday morning ?? Her actions don't seem to back up her words. Which stages are you both on? Well, she's in "friends with the ex" stage, and you're in deep denial. 1
whatnot Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 You're being used. Welcome to adulthood. I'm so sorry..... 1
Altair0770 Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 Yeah she's just using you and weening herself off. Seems she made the absolute best decision because she got the best results for her decision. She got to dump you, explore other men, and you are doing everything you did in the relationship for her with no strings attached. You are being used and trust me when she finds someone else it's going to hurt BADLY. You cannot allow people to lean on you that wouldn't give you a chance. Breakups are hard on BOTH parties. However, it's MUCH easier on the dumper if the dumpee sticks around. Bite the bullet and say that if she isn't going to commit, you need time to yourself and want to explore other opportunities. Oh btw, she's likely lying a lot that there isn't another guy she's hanging with. It might be true that there isn't, but she's looking for one.
Blanco Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 Newsflash: The girl you're pining over is having unprotected sex with other guys. I and someone had to purchase Plan B once, and it wasn't after a night of baking cookies. Stop playing the fool.
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