salparadise Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 ,,,you let him leave first (say goodbye and go to the ladies room so that he isn't likely to follow you). If he's still around waiting for you, you get in your car and go a different route home or stop at a store or something and observe your surroundings. Ha, I had an awkward situation like this once. We met at a state park. I needed to go north, she was heading south. The park exits were confusing and unfamiliar, and led to a limited access highway. I missed my turn and had to drive south to the next highway exit to turn around. Well, she was apparently watching the rear view mirror and freaking out. I didn't notice that she was a few cars ahead. She turned off at the first exit to evade, and I turned off at the same exist to make a U-turn and head back north. When she saw me follow her off the exit she really freaked and pulled a fast U-turn in the middle of the road with traffic all around. It was only then, as we met going in opposite directions, that I realized it was her! She was a weird one. We'd had a great time, even talked about seeing each other again. But even before that happened I sensed something was a little off with her. That crazy U-turn in traffic pretty well confirmed it. We had just gone for a hike and had a nice picnic lunch in a secluded place. If she was that spooky... well, it makes no sense that she'd be alone with me for three hours in the woods and then freak out that I missed a turn and had to drive south to an exit to turn around. Dating as an older adult leads to some strange experiences. 1
salparadise Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 I am just going to agree to disagree here and leave this alone. I am still thankful every day that my mother was of sound mind, good judgement and sharp intellect. We'll pray for your kids (euphemistically). 1
BaileyB Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 I was in my 30's when my dad started dating after my mother passed away. We had to have a little discussion and set some healthy boundaries because as his daughter, there were things that I just didn't want to know. Healthy boundaries are important in every relationship. And kids, should be allowed to be kids without having to deal with adult issues. Your parents dating life is definitely one of those things... IMHO. 3
coolheadal Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 Since when was it appropriate to talk about having kids upon meeting someone for coffee? I don't want to talk about kids until long after I know this guy. And if that comes up on a first meeting, there is no way in hell I would see this person again. That is insane. <insert crazy girlfriend meme here> Are the kids still living with you under your roof? Some women I knew had their grown kids still under their roof. Because she felt the need not to have them have their own life but a life still with their mom. So that's why I say if you don't tell these men you want to date and get to know more they should be aware of the fact you still have your kids with you in your house. Kids no matter how old they are still have input in your life. You can be divorce and single as long as you say but still when it comes to kids of all ages even teens and adults still living with mom (you) in your house you can't tell a man that you don't have any or just not going to bring up the subject. Think about it from the guy view. How about if that was you and he had kids living under his roof and you said hey can I go back to your place for some drinks or snacks. What if he told you no. Your going to say the same thing no also. I see no reason to lie about having kids. You know most men it would be a turn-off because you have kids. So most women like you think nah he doesn't need to know I have kids living with me still. You have to think both ways. No needs to have games in anything you do just be honest and no shame to have kids if the guy can't except that fact you have them then he's not the right guy for you. Move on...
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