Joga_31 Posted July 3, 2017 Posted July 3, 2017 I have joined a meetup group to meet other people. The group goes out on weekends to clubs and bars and is not a hookup group unless it is mutual consent. My gf does spend time with me during the week, but on Saturday likes to dress up and go for drinks with her girlfriends. She has told me she has never slept with anyone and does not feel the need to. Though she has allowed guys to buy her drinks. She claims nothing else happens. I recently came from Hong Kong and met her family and parents. We have been together 1 year and 5 months. Usually though on Saturday nights im left at home and she does not let me join her girls nights. I personally have few friends of my own, because I work so often and don't want a load of friends. I have noticed though that too many times she has left me to be with her friends and I would like to improve myself socially. I am wondering if she will get mad at my choice.
phineas Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 wut? you have a GF who gets all sexy and goes out with her GF's on a sat night and you arn't allowed. And you are afraid of having a life where you go out on sat instead of sitting around while she is out? Are you sure she is your GF? you do have sex with her right? 2
Author Joga_31 Posted July 4, 2017 Author Posted July 4, 2017 wut? you have a GF who gets all sexy and goes out with her GF's on a sat night and you arn't allowed. And you are afraid of having a life where you go out on sat instead of sitting around while she is out? Are you sure she is your GF? you do have sex with her right? haha, yes she might get jealous is what i think.
angel.eyes Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 :lmao::lmao:Will this cause a conflict in the relationship?:lmao: Who are you kidding? There are thousands and thousands of meetup groups focused on all types of interests and activities, but you want to pick one for singles who do bar crawls, and if mutually agreeable, hookups so that you can work on your "social" skills? Good luck explaining that one! I think you will have more fun running through hell with gasoline pants on when that conversation comes up. If you want to play single, breakup with your girlfriend and go be single. 4
Author Joga_31 Posted July 4, 2017 Author Posted July 4, 2017 :lmao::lmao:Will this cause a conflict in the relationship?:lmao: Who are you kidding? There are thousands and thousands of meetup groups focused on all types of interests and activities, but you want to pick one for singles who do bar crawls, and if mutually agreeable, hookups so that you can work on your "social" skills? Good luck explaining that one! I think you will have more fun running through hell with gasoline pants on when that conversation comes up. If you want to play single, breakup with your girlfriend and go be single. she goes out with her girlfriends on saturday nights to the club. why can't I? 1
angel.eyes Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 Honestly, you sound like a two-year old now, not a grown adult in a relationship! "He started it first...waaah....waaah...[pout]. If you're unhappy she goes out with her friends, you communicate your concerns, negotiate, and come to a mutually acceptable compromise. Is this your first relationship? 2
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 she goes out with her girlfriends on saturday nights to the club. why can't I? She's going out with people she knows. You're meeting people you don't know in hopes of finding common connection, which most of these single people probably are hoping leads to sex. Not saying she's right. But I am not saying you are either. Why does she need to spend every Saturday night bar hopping with her single girlfriends? 3
smackie9 Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 Nothing wrong with having a guys/girls night out, but every weekend? I think you have let this one go on for too long. When in a relationship ya kinda need to kool down on the singles type activities and find different things to do, like hanging out with other couples, having house parties, do things together. IMO what you are thinking of doing will be the slow demise of your relaitonship. You both need to make changes or this relationship will be a bust. 2
Author Joga_31 Posted July 4, 2017 Author Posted July 4, 2017 Nothing wrong with having a guys/girls night out, but every weekend? I think you have let this one go on for too long. When in a relationship ya kinda need to kool down on the singles type activities and find different things to do, like hanging out with other couples, having house parties, do things together. IMO what you are thinking of doing will be the slow demise of your relaitonship. You both need to make changes or this relationship will be a bust. sometimes she goes to casinos rather than clubbing or does stay home with her friends and pigs out on junk food. her friends are single one of them has the boyfriend though. Also do you really think I'll destroy the relationship? I don't want to break up with her.
Author Joga_31 Posted July 4, 2017 Author Posted July 4, 2017 Honestly, you sound like a two-year old now, not a grown adult in a relationship! "He started it first...waaah....waaah...[pout]. If you're unhappy she goes out with her friends, you communicate your concerns, negotiate, and come to a mutually acceptable compromise. Is this your first relationship? no I have had other relationships, but it went really bad.
smackie9 Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 Then you should find something else to do like go out with your friends or have them over for poker night. Where are your friends? Anyways you need to figure something out......
Chilli Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 She goes out with her gf's , and allows guys to buy her drinks ,geezz, lucky them. And these guys are all married and not looking for anything, right - ahhh, sorry mate me thinks not. Do what you want man , she is , and if that causes conflicts then that's on her so tough, because she's doing it anyway. 1
angel.eyes Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 sometimes she goes to casinos rather than clubbing or does stay home with her friends and pigs out on junk food. her friends are single one of them has the boyfriend though. Also do you really think I'll destroy the relationship? I don't want to break up with her. The fact that she chooses eating junk food with her friends " on weekends over spending time with you speaks volumes. It sounds like your relationship is barely limping along. 1
BaileyB Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 It doesn't sound like a particularly healthy relationship. You both sound extremely immature and selfish in your decisions. The occasional girls night is completely ok. But, to go out every weekend to party with her friends while you are at home, is not ok. As for you... surely, there must be another meetup group that you can join. 1
Author Joga_31 Posted July 4, 2017 Author Posted July 4, 2017 The fact that she chooses eating junk food with her friends " on weekends over spending time with you speaks volumes. It sounds like your relationship is barely limping along. i said saturday not the weekend, sunday and monday is for me
Author Joga_31 Posted July 4, 2017 Author Posted July 4, 2017 Then you should find something else to do like go out with your friends or have them over for poker night. Where are your friends? Anyways you need to figure something out...... That is true, I play sports, but I wanted to try something new, but lately I have only been working.
Author Joga_31 Posted July 4, 2017 Author Posted July 4, 2017 It doesn't sound like a particularly healthy relationship. You both sound extremely immature and selfish in your decisions. The occasional girls night is completely ok. But, to go out every weekend to party with her friends while you are at home, is not ok. As for you... surely, there must be another meetup group that you can join. yes there definitely is, I just thought I would do the same activity and see how she feels.
angel.eyes Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 So passive-aggressive pettiness rather than good communication when faced with a problem in your relationship? History repeats itself. i said saturday not the weekend, sunday and monday is for me Friday and Saturday are prime date nights. But she would rather eat Cheetos with her girlfriends? And you are eager to try go bar crawling and hook up with strangers. How healthy! Carry on. 2
Author Joga_31 Posted July 4, 2017 Author Posted July 4, 2017 So passive-aggressive pettiness rather than good communication when faced with a problem in your relationship? History repeats itself. Friday and Saturday are prime date nights. But she would rather eat Cheetos with her girlfriends? And you are eager to try go bar crawling and hook up with strangers. How healthy! Carry on. Friday I come over as well depending on my work schedule. I have told the girl before to stop her partying and she reduced it to once a week to once every 3 weeks. What else should I do? I can't put a chain on her. What am I supposed to do??? then if you have all the answers.
Jenn2 Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 First.. I think its odd that she doesn't want to hang out on the weekends? Why don't you offer to take her out to a nice dinner so she can dress up and then you guys can go together to grab drinks with friends? There is nothing wrong with meeting new people and finding new friends but I deff. wouldn't do it at bars... I don't think that will go over well.
angel.eyes Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 Friday I come over as well depending on my work schedule. I have told the girl before to stop her partying and she reduced it to once a week to once every 3 weeks. What else should I do? I can't put a chain on her. What am I supposed to do??? then if you have all the answers. If she changed her routine when you asked her, what exactly are you griping about? You started off by saying she spent every weekend with her friends clubbing and left you alone. Now you've done a 180 and are stating the exact opposite. Over the course of this thread, you've gone to seeing her on Fridays, most Saturdays, Sundays and Mondays. So what exactly is your issue? Why are you so resentful of your girlfriend? Is it that she has friends and, as you said early on the thread, you don't? Or are you just looking for approval to cheat? What were you hoping to get out of starting this thread? 1
Author Joga_31 Posted July 4, 2017 Author Posted July 4, 2017 If she changed her routine when you asked her, what exactly are you griping about? You started off by saying she spent every weekend with her friends clubbing and left you alone. Now you've done a 180 and are stating the exact opposite. Over the course of this thread, you've gone to seeing her on Fridays, most Saturdays, Sundays and Mondays. So what exactly is your issue? Why are you so resentful of your girlfriend? Is it that she has friends and, as you said early on the thread, you don't? Or are you just looking for approval to cheat? What were you hoping to get out of starting this thread? I was wondering if I joined this meetup group if it would start a problem, which it looks like it will.
Author Joga_31 Posted July 4, 2017 Author Posted July 4, 2017 If she changed her routine when you asked her, what exactly are you griping about? You started off by saying she spent every weekend with her friends clubbing and left you alone. Now you've done a 180 and are stating the exact opposite. Over the course of this thread, you've gone to seeing her on Fridays, most Saturdays, Sundays and Mondays. So what exactly is your issue? Why are you so resentful of your girlfriend? Is it that she has friends and, as you said early on the thread, you don't? Or are you just looking for approval to cheat? What were you hoping to get out of starting this thread? I said she leaves me alone on saturday quote me if i said every weekend. I said Saturday and SOMETIMES other days. With exception of sunday and monday
d0nnivain Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 I am wondering if she will get mad at my choice. Probably. She likes the idea of having her cake & eating it too However she has the power to change it. If she spends her Saturday nights with you I suspect you would happily give up the MeetUp group. If she pouts or goes out more without you, perhaps it's time to determine if this relationship is fulfilling your needs.
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