Rareroblox Posted July 3, 2017 Posted July 3, 2017 Hi, so I'm dating this one girl, and she said that she needed a break, and this is the first time that I'm getting this after dating girls in the past. now, does this mean that she wants to break up with me sooner or later? How long will this last for? She said that she loves me and that she never wants to lose me, but she is going through a hard time, and that she never wants to lose me and that she loves me. Also, should I talk it over with her, or should I not text her at all? Can someone explain to me what "I want to take a break" means? Thanks.
basil67 Posted July 3, 2017 Posted July 3, 2017 It means that she wants her cake and to eat it too. She doesn't want to be with you, but she doesn't want to risk losing you either. How long it lasts for depends on how long you're prepared to wait around on her.
Bastile Posted July 3, 2017 Posted July 3, 2017 (edited) It's manipulation. You are confused, because the intention is to to confuse. How do you stop being confused? You escalate. Try and get her out for a drink or something this week. Nothing pressurized, just fun. If she refuses to meet a simple request (or you don't try because you know she certainly won't), then her interest-level is too low for her to be of much use to you. And you put your attention into more constructive leads. If she comes back around from her little sojourn, and it seems like her interest is magically renewed, then keep things at strictly FWB. For serious relationships, you filter out those with wishy-washy behaviour. Will save you a great headache further down the line. Always adapt the relationship to suit yourself. Reframe situations through this lense. Edited July 3, 2017 by Bastile
d0nnivain Posted July 3, 2017 Posted July 3, 2017 "Taking a break" is a try out to breaking up. It's immature & selfish. The person who wants this "time out" doesn't have the guts to just end things. They want to test the waters to see if there is anything better out there, while you stay dangling on a string. It will end when you put a stop to it by saying we're either together or apart pick one. 3
Marc878 Posted July 3, 2017 Posted July 3, 2017 It usually means she wants to date someone else who she already has lined up. But in case he doesn't work out keep you on the back burner as backup. IMO agree to the break and cut all contact with her. 2
OnlyHonesty Posted July 3, 2017 Posted July 3, 2017 Ignore her words, only listen to her actions. You do not take a break from the person that you supposedly love. Take a break means ''I want to sleep with some different guys for a while without feeling guilty, but I want you as my backup plan just in case nothing serious comes out of my other conquests. If something serous does come out of it and I find someone that I think is better, then I will dump you. But you wait around like a chump ok? I love you with all of my heart baby'' If any woman asked me for a break, they would get a permanent one... 1
Marc878 Posted July 3, 2017 Posted July 3, 2017 Just remembered a friend of mines gf at the time wanted a break when they were dating. Came back 6 months later. They eventually married had a couple kids and 10 years later boom! Another break for an affair partner. The best predictor of the future is past history. Runnnnnn!!!!!!!!
la74219 Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 I don't always necessarily think that every situation is the same. Maybe she comes back. Maybe she doesn't. Maybe it'll work out forever if she does come back. Maybe it won't. Here's the thing though - your response to her should be the same regardless of what it means because the truth is..you have no idea what it means in her mind. So in my opinion, you tell her I agree we need a break and then you walk away and let life happen. If she wants you back, she knows how to reach you. With that said, chances are you'll probably do what most of us did and chase her. I won't judge because I did the same thing. However, I want to warn you...it hurts. If you can avoid it, please do. You'll save yourself a lot of heartache. Good luck buddy, hang in there.
Lingo1 Posted July 4, 2017 Posted July 4, 2017 Hi, so I'm dating this one girl, and she said that she needed a break, and this is the first time that I'm getting this after dating girls in the past. now, does this mean that she wants to break up with me sooner or later? How long will this last for? She said that she loves me and that she never wants to lose me, but she is going through a hard time, and that she never wants to lose me and that she loves me. Also, should I talk it over with her, or should I not text her at all? Can someone explain to me what "I want to take a break" means? Thanks. Last time a girl told me that she left me for another man and said she fell out of love with me lol, but my advice to u is to not wait around she most likely wants to have u around while she does other stuff and maybe even test the water
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