hitswitch Posted August 6, 2005 Posted August 6, 2005 hi if there was somebody i didnt want to be friends with anymore, what wud b the best way to go about it? i wanna hurt them as little as possible so should i just say to them - i dont wanna b friends - or just kinda stop doin anything with them and ignoring them etc. til they kinda got the message.
FWIW Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Just ignore them as much as you can, it's tough without hurting their feelings. You have to beware of making an enemy. But if you annoy them slightly, or find other ways to make any time they spend with you not very enjoyable (without being actively horrible) they'll soon find they don't enjoy being with you and stop seeing you. And they'll think THEY dumped YOU!! If that doesn't work, they have no life if they're willing to put up with such treatment.. so help them GET a life, find them some other friends they can hang out with.
alphamale Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 depends...if it is someone you know real well or for a long time (yrs?) then you owe them some type of explanation before you break the friendship. if it is someone you don't know very well then no explantion is needed, just start NC. and the most impt part is to think it thru real well and don't go back to being friends after you've broken it off. good luck and happy hunting! alpha
ziggue Posted August 11, 2005 Posted August 11, 2005 Whatever you do don't call them up and tell them why you don't wanna be friends. That will cause all kinds of trouble. I had a friend that did that to two of my friends when she didn't want to associate with them any more. Rang them up and told both of them she didn't wanna be friends anymore. No one wants to hear that. It caused a bit of a fight between them during that phone call. Since feelings were hurt. She only knew them for about a couple of months, close to a year. Glad I wasn't involved. I only heard them bitching and going on about the situation. I agree with the other posts. Just ignore them and soon enough they'll give up on you and move on.
draculeen Posted September 11, 2005 Posted September 11, 2005 hi if there was somebody i didnt want to be friends with anymore, what wud b the best way to go about it? i wanna hurt them as little as possible so should i just say to them - i dont wanna b friends - or just kinda stop doin anything with them and ignoring them etc. til they kinda got the message. I am going through the exact same thing. By the way I hope that by now you have managed to end your friendship. My "friend" keeps knocking on my door, keeps calling me, and he is not getting the message. I am feeling very annoyed. I live in the dark (no lights on( so that he doesnt realize I am at home. I am getting really tired and angry with him. If I tell him the real reasons why I dont want to be his friend, (he is boring, old, annoying, repetitive and depressing) , he will get hurt or angry or both. I am at my wits end with this situation. I have now been ignoring him for 2 weeks but he is still pestering me :-(
mutton Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 Then stop leading him on. Stop being polite to him and if he asks why, tell him and say its so that it doesnt happen again in the future with other people. If he does this with you, it might be the same way with others.
itza Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 It's rude to ignore anyone and really hurts the person you're ignoring. If you really don't want to have anything to do with them, let them go with respect and kindness and say, "XXX, as much as I would love to continue our friendship and have enjoyed having you in my life, I feel like our lives are going down different paths. I truly wish you all the best in your new life, and I will cherish the memories of our friendship." That will give you the closure you need and not hurt their feelings. Be kind.
unreg Posted September 30, 2005 Posted September 30, 2005 I agree completely with the last post - that is really the best way to go about it to minimize hurt feelings, especially if there is the chance that you will run into this other person from time to time. At least he or she knows what is going on and why you want to end the friendship rather than them not knowing what is going on and then when you run into them after ignoring them for months, they still may want to do something as friends. I am going through the end of a close friendship right now and it is tough, but you just be as honest as possible.
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