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Scared of my feelings after just 2 months


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I've been seeing this girl for a 2 months. It's my first time dating another girl (I am a girl myself). We live in different cities and meeting up has progressed to one of us staying with the other for a couple of days at a time until commitments mean they have to go back.

 

I'm scared of the way I'm feeling. It's painful being apart from her, I really miss her and theres gaps of at least a week between seeing each other because of the distance. She's just so beautiful and cute, we get on really well and it feels like having a best friend that I can while away hours cuddling lying in her arms. Also the sex is great. When I'm with her I've found myself having to stop myself saying "I love you", partly because I'm so myself with her and have such a good time, like I often casually tell my friends I love them. But even when I keep myself really busy in the day I'm still thinking about her all the time. And I've never had this strong feelings for someone - maybe because I've only previously dated guys and I'm finally out the closet? She makes me really happy.

 

But I'm scared to tell her this as I think I'm being ridiculous. I don't want to freak her out. We haven't had an exclusive chat or anything and I don't know if she wants anything serious, or if I even do.

 

I want to spend all my time with her. (I know thinking that isn't healthy) How do I deal with not being able to? I like being in control of my feelings and this is freaking me out!

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Sounds like it is partially because you're coming out of the closet, partially because you're both young (I guessed that, am I right?), and also this is the normal height of a new relationship (amplified by the circumstances).

 

Tell her that you love her if you do! It is not too early I think, 2 months sounds about right to me.

 

Enjoy the honeymoon of your relationship, these first months are special:)

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Thanks for your reply, good to hear you think its normal. Yeah kind of young, early 20s. She's a lot more experienced relationship-wise and I'm reluctant to let on how obsessed I've got incase it scares her off and she wants to be chilled.

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Sounds sweet, you are falling in love it seems. If you think it freak her out telling her this i would wait another month but just do what feels right.

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